Advice on being strong enough to walk away?!
Question: Advice on being strong enough to walk away!?
My ex recently started contacting me again, we had dated for almost five years and he broke up with me and started having a relationship with someone(basically just sex)!. This lasted a little over 3 months!. He told me he was done with her so with started spending time together again and was so happy because I never stopped loving him and I had missed him so much!. Well a little over a month had gone by and I went to see him and he told me he saw this girl again(she's a bartender at a bar he goes to sometimes) and he got drunk and they kissed but that's it!. I know I should have just left but I ended up spending the whole day with him!. He made me dinner and we watched a movie!. He told me he couldn't promise me it wouldn't happen again and I still spent the day with him!. I know I sound really pathetic, but I am so in love with him and I don't know how to move on!. HELP!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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This sounds to me (an addict) like addictive behavior on both of your parts!. You might explore that possibility!. There is a Yahoo group for Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous that might be of interest!. If the word "addict" is off-putting, don't fret: We live in a society in which addiction is much more the norm than an aberration!. Advertising companies *depend* on that!. In the meantime, have compassion for yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I feel very bad for you!. You must have a low self-esteem to be sticking by a guy that treats you like that!. If you have any amount of self respect left you need to leave this guy!. He cheated on you with this girl regardless of whether he was drunk or not!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Discard anything that reminds you of him (cell phone #/, pictures,texts,
etc!.) - pretend that he's dead - find someone else!. It's obvious that he's a player - why enable him!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
etc!.) - pretend that he's dead - find someone else!. It's obvious that he's a player - why enable him!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
i am in the same situation,,but im the guy!.im not trying to be rude or anything but maybe this will help you!.
you said the first time you broke up he was sleeping with some one else,,,,but the way you said it was like [basically just sex] like thats no biggie,and you said you didnt stop loving and missing him!.!.!.!.!.wow,,,
so take it from a guy that has a girlfriend just like you!.!.!.!.he will never stop because you will always be there!.so why would he stick with just you when he can do what he wants and still have you when ever he wants!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
you said the first time you broke up he was sleeping with some one else,,,,but the way you said it was like [basically just sex] like thats no biggie,and you said you didnt stop loving and missing him!.!.!.!.!.wow,,,
so take it from a guy that has a girlfriend just like you!.!.!.!.he will never stop because you will always be there!.so why would he stick with just you when he can do what he wants and still have you when ever he wants!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
as long as you stay with him your never going to be happy and as along as you put up with his idiotic behaviour then you might as well sit in the misery that you are making for yourself!.it's just a matter of him coming home saying he got her pregnant and she is moving in with the two of you,do you want that!?because as long as you put up with it he will keep doing it!.i can guarantee he is laughing about the whole scenario with his pals and not one of them are looking at you with sympathy but just a smirk!!!
so go on live in that state for the next few months and leave the guy who is waiting for you pass you right by because you know what your worth itWww@Answer-Health@Com
so go on live in that state for the next few months and leave the guy who is waiting for you pass you right by because you know what your worth itWww@Answer-Health@Com
You were at least moving on before he came back now your stuck in a rut and what is this JUST SEX stuff!? I happen to think that sex is very personal and should only be with the one you really love your just going to be his door mat from here on do you really want that!? If he's done it once he'll do it again and again and again-do you want to be 40 and still be going through this only by then most of his checks will be going to child support from all of the ******* he's knocked up while your faithfully waiting at home for him not to mention the STD's and worse!. Don't put up with it tell him he needs to go to another bar or something tell him to drink at home it's safer for everyone!. Have more respect for yourself!. Lots of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just ask your friend to help you to make him jealous!. Only this way you can check his feelings to you!.!. If he won't do anything about it or will show that he doesn't care!.!.!. that means that he's just using you and that's it!.!. If it'll touch him and he'll understand what you felt when he was doing such kind of things to you!.!.!. but he won't show any actions!.!.!. it's the end!.!.!. Sometimes people understand how his partner means a lot to him only when he's on the way to lose him!.!.!.
Sorry for my english!.!.!. Tried to explain how i could =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sorry for my english!.!.!. Tried to explain how i could =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
you already know the answers don't you!? either stay and get hurt eventually, or walk away and wish, or daydream about what could have been, it's totally up to you!. If you are aware what is happening and are prepared to put up with being abused then that is your choice!. No-one else has any right to tell you what to do!. Love has it's own language!.Hope this helps a bit!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Stop talking harshly about yourself! It's ok that you went back to someone that is obviously trying to have his cake and eat it too!. Remember, you are better than him and he doesn't deserve you so actually the night went pretty smoothly!. You see, he made you dinner right!? It better have been GOOD DINNER because he did something as stupid as leaving you! Anyways!. Don't think nothing of that night!. Just consider it compensation for wasting your time!.
How to walk away!? Just simply walk away!. It will be hard but after a month or so you won't hurt anymore for him!. Break away from that attachment you grew!. Cut it down!Www@Answer-Health@Com
How to walk away!? Just simply walk away!. It will be hard but after a month or so you won't hurt anymore for him!. Break away from that attachment you grew!. Cut it down!Www@Answer-Health@Com