A small problem between my husband and i?!


Question: A small problem between my husband and i!?
My husband is 44,im 40 and we have been happily married almost 18 yrs!.!.We have not made love in 8 months and a few times during these months we have talked about why we had not done anything for awhile but never has happened yet!.!.!.During our marriage i am the 1 who has initiate the most and of course he is always ready for some action and has never said no to me and of course he has initiate but not as much as i have and of course i am always willing and ready and have never said no to him but after 18 yrs it has gotten old being the 1 to have to initiate most of the time so since the last time we had sex i have been waiting for him and the few times we have talked about this and when i would ask him why he hadn't tried anything he always responds back with "why haven't you" which is kinda of annoys!.!.!.Well anyways about 2 weeks ago after about a month or so of not bringing this up 1 morning around 6 am right before he had to leave for work we had a talk about this and it turns out that we each thought the other wasnt interested in doing anything since neither 1 of us had been initiating so thats why neither 1 of had been intiating!.!.I asked him if he was still sexually attracted to me and he said "yes of course and you know it and i always will be"!.!.!.Well we didnt have time to have sex that morning cause he had to leave for work in a few minutes but we both said we would do it that night however we never did and still havent!.!.!.He said during this talk that he had been wanting to do something for awhile and wanted to started having sex every other day which sounded great!.!.!.Well its been 2 weeks since that talked and nothing and yes i know i should just initiate but i am still waiting for him cause i want to feel wanted!.!.I know he doesnt have erection problems cause that morning of that talk we were messing around a little bit and he got hard right away and a few times he has told me that me just being close to him and laying in his arms gets him hard and that is true!.!.Like i said after 18 yrs its gotten old being the 1 who has to initiate most of the time so that is why i have been wanting for him!.!.!.!.We are both still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and lots of cuddling,get along great and still both very much in love with each other and no cheating is going on cause we are both strongly against infidelity,

So my question is should i just give in and initiate or keep on waiting patiently for him!.

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I would wait patiently for him, let him be the one to initiate sometimes!. But that doesn't mean you can't try to get him to intiate it, like by looking extra hot or whatever you think will get him to initiate sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

have you thought about taking a shower together to see if that would spark any reactions!. Try something different like wearing a sexy nightgown to bed !.if that doesn't work then you may have to give in and initiate it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

try doing something small!.like maybe pushing your butt up against him!.to let him know you are interested but let him take it from there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

My mum once said that sometimes we need some space sometimes, so why not try a night away from him!. My hubby and I had the same problem for a while, then I started to stay at my friends house on the weekends and when I got home we ;-) well you get the picture!. :-) Www@Answer-Health@Com

Eight months with no sex is not a small problem my dear!. It is a huge problem! There is definitely something wrong with your husband!. You have to assess the problem yourself: First, make sure there is no problem with his manhood!. Test it yourself!. When he says he's having a hard on or something!.!.!. touch it!. Maybe he's just trying to hide the problem!. Second, are you sure there is no third party involve!? Is he coming home on time, or is he always outside and has so many excuses everytime he's late!. Third, what do you look now!? I mean, did you change a lot lately (gain a lot of weight or something)!. Maybe he's no longer attracted to you like before because you have changed a lot!. Women should take care of themselves!. If you're fat, do something about it - exercise, eat less, etc!. Take a bath everyday!. Put some sexy clothes on when going to bed with him!. Do something on yourself that he likes best - maybe wearing a nighties or see thru nighties, etc!.(but if you're so fat, don't ever try doing this - I'm sorry, but the more he's going to be turned off with you, and lastly, TALK/communicate with him!. Tell him what you feel and the same thing with him!.Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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