I am so hurt. what to do? please ?!


Question: I am so hurt!. what to do!? please !?
she hurt me really bad!.
and i feel ill,
i need to stop feeling like this!.

what can i do !?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Honestly, I recommend a good cry!.
I'm not really sure the "normal" approach to heart break for a guy, but for a girl, the approach often involves a tear-jerker of a movie, a tub of icecream, a lot of tissues and some chocolate!.

the movie: basically helps with the emotional release
ice-cream: i honestly don't know!.!.!. i don't really recommend it!.!.!. it just makes me feel sick afterwards
tissues: self-explanatory
chocolate: contains phenylethylamine, which apparently can raise the levels of dopamine in your brain!.!.!. elevating your mood!.

generally speaking, this approach is a very short-term approach!.
Another short-term approach to ease the hurting is writing a letter!. Write a letter to her!. You don't have to send though, it's usually recommended that you don't!. The letter is more for your benefit!.
It's also better if you write it by hand!.
Address it to her, and basically say everything that you wanted to say but never could!. Give explanation as to why things ended the way they did and explain how you a feeling!.
Giving words to how you feel, makes the feeling more tangible!. And things that are tangible!.!.!. things that are "real" are usually easier to deal with!.
In the letter give words to your pain!. It's a lot harder that people think it is!.
If you feel like your insides have just gone through a paper shredder, write that down!.
By transferring all those emotions onto paper, it acts as a way of venting your inner turmoil!.

But having said that, you still have to deal with things in the long-term as well!. If you feel pained, tell her!. Maybe not now, but later!.
Eventually, you should talk to her, or maybe talk to someone else you feel comfortable sharing with!.
And when I say talk, I don't want you to just talk and let the other person listen!. Listening is good, yes!.!.!. but it would be better if the person was more active in their interactions!.
But talk to her, she has to understand that you need to talk!.

Remember that your relationship did last 2 years!.
2 years is a long time, especially for people as young as yourselves!. It's normal to feel like you're gonna throw up every now and then because of heart break!.!.!. even if it's been a while since you guys have broken up!.
We establish emotional connections to people, and they don't exactly sever easily!. Sometimes it seems as though everything is a memory with strings that tie to her!. And even though you say you're over her, and you're pretty sure you are!.!.!. you can't ever be over someone!. Not really!. We make these emotional connections with people for a reason!. We learn from them, good things, bad things!.
Sometimes, only in chaos can we find ourselves and move on!. In chaos we find our true potential, and those of whom we care for!.

Don't fight the tears if they wanna come!. Cry yourself to sleep, scream into your pillow!.
I don't know if it helps, but a lot of the time we're under the illusion that is does help!.!.!. and sometimes it's true!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Focus on something else!. Stay busy with activities and those close to you!.

I've been there before too!. I remember reading once about break ups that the reason you are hurting so much is because a break up can totally hurt your ego and self-esteem!. The ego is what makes us think we are the center of the universe and ever thing revolves around us!. So if you can try to imagine what happened to you and think of it in a third person kind of way!. You are looking at another guy and girl play out what happened like you are a spectator!. You will find that if you do this long enough you'llll remove yourself from the situation and will no longer have feelings about the breakup or her!. Its like you are watching a movie!. You can feel sorry for the guy!. But he's not you so it doesn't hurt!. Try to imagine this every time you start to feel sad/hurt!. It may take awhile but it does eventually lessen the pain!. However, only time will truely heal you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

We all get hurt, when you're going through it, it feels like you're the only one!. Your not!. We all have been there!. I used to do the hurting, then someone did it to me, not nice!.

The best thing is to let time do it's job!. Trust me it will get better!. You will be stronger for it too!. Sounds cheesy but it's true!.

Also consider a new activity, it will help and take your mind onto a better place!.

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Time fixes everything!.

You're screwed until then!.

Working out helps, especially if you dont normally do that!.

Wait it out!. Dont try a new relationship yet!. Spend time with people that are important to you and dont talk about it after you vent once with them (or youll just feel awful, and they dont wanna hear that all day every day, it will depress them and they cant help you at that point)

Hang in there!. With me, the first three weeks were hell!. I kept finding out awful humiliating things long after my partner just up and left for no reason!. A long-time affair, lies, rumors, lies about ME even, and running off with our son!.

Theres support groups around!. Talking to someone, even strangers, helps!. Cry it out!. Scream!. Break something (if its yours)!. Sell something you have of hers on eBay (thats so liberating, I did it too!)

When you feel a little better, just forget about it!. Just the fact that you have feelings means she's lost something she can probably never find!.

DO NOT TAKE HER BACK!. Do not call her!. If you have mutual friends, dont talk about her!. Hell with her!. Think of the negatives if you have to!.

The hardest part is the waiting!. Thats the only true "fix" for it!.

Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Time is the healer of all wounds of the heart, theres no medicince to help!. I know how you feel, your stomach is upset and you just feel icky all over but in time this will fade!. The best advice I can give you is to get bak out there and in the field and let her know that your strong and can move on!. Who knows some blonde might just be waiting around the corner!.!.!.!.!.!.smilesWww@Answer-Health@Com

Time will heal all pain!. So with that said, you need to find something that interests you to fulfill your time!. You know to keep your mind off of your current feelings!. I would suggest a hobby or friends and family, but make sure you talk about your feelings!. do not keep them bottled up!.!.!.it is no good for you!. Good luck and everyone feels that way some time in their lives!. :(Www@Answer-Health@Com

what you need to do is stop and think if she left me then why should i be depressed she's not good enough for me!. That's just depending on your relationship if it was good and strong then I suggest a therapistWww@Answer-Health@Com

you cant move on if you dont want to!. DOnt try and move on if you cant!. Trust me if you do that you eventually think youre over them, but then next time you see them you like them more than you ever had!.!.!.!.
:(Www@Answer-Health@Com

like every break up or partner hurt u need time!.!.!.!.
things will get better but not straight away!.
ring some friends and go out for a few drinks!.
or go c a movie!.!.!.
just do something to take ur mind off her and remember things will get better!.!.!.!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Try and focus on other things as hard as it seems, go out with your friends!.!.!. keep your mind busy!. It's hard i know but only time can heal the hurt!. xxWww@Answer-Health@Com

get over her, love hurts, but you will soon realize that she's not the only girl out there!. its life, get used to it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If your talking about a broken heart!.!.!.!.!.!. Just move on!.!.!.There are other fish in the sea!.!.!. Go to a chat site and chat or go hang out with new girls!.!.!.!.

If your talking about being beaten!.!.!.!. Take pain medicine!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

watch porn, and go out with the guys and find a new one!. unless she beat you, then go get some asprin!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

just let out your stress by punching the wall and hang around with your friends and talk bad about herWww@Answer-Health@Com

think about the times you shared
the memories
the love you had
accept that its gone
move onWww@Answer-Health@Com

become a priest and marry yourself to the church!. like catholic yo know!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ferget her and find a new one stop what yur doin yew dont wanna ruin the chance that you got to find a new oneWww@Answer-Health@Com

Go be with friends or family for a while!. Works for me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if some one hurts you must show your feeling, so that they will understand they are wrong, brush it and be happyWww@Answer-Health@Com

not think about her, go socialize with other peopleWww@Answer-Health@Com

Cocain hel for a lil whileWww@Answer-Health@Com

Well if she broke your heart!.
Theres no quick fix!.
:(
Im sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

get over her and move onWww@Answer-Health@Com

move on!Www@Answer-Health@Com

go do somting goodWww@Answer-Health@Com





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