My husband sat on my stomache. Could this be something serious or will it go awa!

My husband sat on my stomache. Could this be something serious or will it go away on its own?

It's been hurting with discomfort, and I'm scared, terrified, afraid to go to doctor because of how he put a spin on things before saying I make him do things to me and people (professional anger management counselor and preacher) believed him. He had the preacher yell at me while I was pregnant. He has tried to convince other professionals and lay people and has succeeded with many lay people. It does not hurt as much as when I lost my baby but still I don't feel well. Is it serious or will it go away on its own? I am very dependent financially and physically on him and don't have car even.

It sounds like your husband is manipulative and controlling. Abusive people have ways of turning things around so you feel like you deserved what happened. Your husband has a pattern of this behavior and it is dangerous.

The pain you are having needs to be addressed medically. Make an appointment with your doctor and keep the appointment. You could have an internal injury such as a ruptured spleen.

If your husband takes you to the doctor, then you need to try to find a way to be sure he doesn't go in to the exam room with you. If you can have a friend take you to the doctor while your husband is at work, that's even better. If he absolutely has to come with you, then you can work with this by telling the receptionist when you make the appointment that your husband is very controlling and wants to come with you. Ask them to help you out by telling him at the appointment that it is their "new policy" to exam adult patients confidentially and he will have to wait in the waiting room. They should be willing to do this.

At your appointment it is very important that you be honest with the doctor about what has happened in the past and what is bringing you in today. Ask for their protocol on domestic violence and local women's shelters. With the help of a skilled social worker, you can begin living a safe life. No one deserves to be abused and it certainly is not love. He may have even told you that no one else would ever love you the way he does. This is SO not true. There are so many people who would jump at an opportunity to love you for who you are and would never hurt you physically or emotionally. Believe this - it's true. Now it's up to you to be brave and follow through.

He will not change without extensive therapy, which he needs to go through before you stay another night with him. His behavior is dangerous and you are risking your life staying with him. (Abusers are famous for saying they'll change - but they just cannot do it without therapy. Don't fall for it. You need to put yourself in a safe position.)

Many health departments have a "crisis" department that also provides shelter. Seek this out if you have no other options.