I can't look at people eye to eye ...help!?!
Question: It may seem so supper easy for you to look at people eye to eye but it is supper difficult for me to do so. It's as if there's thius eye power which my eye can't take it whenever i look at people close up aspecially when they are looking at me. sometimes, i succeed, but i can't do that for long becuase i cannot focus or i find their eyes.. too glaring.
i could look at people eye to eye back then in my primary sch years. but now, it is getting increasing difficult.
how do i resolve this problem. It's can't be other people's problem and it is obviously my problem.
Answers: It may seem so supper easy for you to look at people eye to eye but it is supper difficult for me to do so. It's as if there's thius eye power which my eye can't take it whenever i look at people close up aspecially when they are looking at me. sometimes, i succeed, but i can't do that for long becuase i cannot focus or i find their eyes.. too glaring.
i could look at people eye to eye back then in my primary sch years. but now, it is getting increasing difficult.
how do i resolve this problem. It's can't be other people's problem and it is obviously my problem.
Lots of people have this problem. It's called sub-communication. You need to read up on social dynamics and how sub-communication works.
To answer your question, you can easily get over this by going out and meeting as many people as you can every day and doing the following trick:
when talking to someone, look them in one eye and stick with that eye. When they look away (while talking) you look away. Sometimes people look at what the other person is focusing on. When they look at you, you look at them. Simple
Dont worry about it. I cant either, only for a few seconds. But work on your confidence and it might help.
i had a similar problem but i knew it was just cause i was shy and nervous, what i did was take up sign language where you HAVE to look into other peoples eyes, i first started out doing it into a mirror and then infront of people and i now can talk to people (sign and speaking) eye to eye it helped me a lot... just a suggestion ^_^
i used to have this problem and now im fine! i think its just a confidence issue, as you are talking just feel really confident - fake it until it comes naturally! ive found now when i look people directly in the eyes, lots of other people dont hold the stare for ages. if its a long conversation its quite normal for both people to glance away every now and again - otherwise youll be staring at people for ages! dont worry about it though :)
Try first to look to your eyes in mirror, then try with your friends while talking and struggle to increase the period of eye to eye contact gradually,then lastly with your girl friend and yuo'll find it very easy.
Try being more confident about yourself. I had the same problem for many years. In fact, occasionally I run into people who I just can't keep a conversation eye to eye but it's just because I'm uncomfortable.
When you're talking to someone and you feel you can't keep looking at their eyes, try focusing on an area that's near their eyes (like eyelashes or eye makeup) but that wont make it obvious that you're looking at something else other than their eyes. That usually helps me out :)
you need to gain your confidence iv always being like that . or you may need glasses .see your optician
I suffer with the same problem.
It is a bit embarrasing. Sometimes I can feel that people are beginning to notice. What works for me is that I get people to stand back intomy line of vision, or at a distance which will allow me to focus on them properly.