How Can I Stabilize Eye Contact?!
Question: When i talk to people i have this thing were i don't really look at them or if i do i turn away and look at things will there talking.What can i do to keep eye contact when i'm talking?
Answers: When i talk to people i have this thing were i don't really look at them or if i do i turn away and look at things will there talking.What can i do to keep eye contact when i'm talking?
If you are naturally shy or you end up looking at the ground when holding a conversation then the first thing to do is to loosen up. Forget yourself and the big thing you have made in your mind about eye contact.
Self consciousness will have a snow balling effect on your psyche. The more you dread it the more difficult it will become. So try and relax, take a few deep breaths.
You could try doing this over extended periods of time with some one in the family with whom you are totally comfortable or you could practice it in front of the mirror to begin with and then graduate to speaking to a person.
Remember that not looking people in the eye gives other people the impression that you are shifty eyed and hence not to be trusted.
People who have nothing to hide and nothing to be afraid of are clear eyed and have no problems in looking at others while talking. Think about the wrong signals that you are bound to send when you do not maintain eye contact.
When speaking to a person pay close attention to what the person is talking about and you will find that maintaining eye contact becomes secondary and before you know it, becomes second nature.
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