How do I stop being so insecure about my eyesight?!

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Flying Dragon is right here. One of the worst things about poor vision is being made to feel guilty about it. There is no evidence that anything you do affects it so don't make yourself miserable stopping doing things which give you pleasure.

My eyesight was about like yours at 15 ( and younger) and I had an astigmatism on top. I recognize how you feel about glasses. My contacts made me feel far more worthwhile. Now I'm an adult I realize that this was because I felt guilty that my eyesight was bad - I was told it was my fault for not letting people put drops in my eyes when I had measles when I was 5. With contacts on I felt noone noticed I had done something wrong ; part of the feeling ugly is about feeling you have done soemthing wrong. With glasses you do look different - but people often think you look more intelligent and treat you more seriously. I wouldn't dream of going to a business meeting in contacts. I think if you stop feeling guilty then you may not feel as bad about your glasses , or feel better able to pick a set which look good on you.

First of all, using your eyes doesn't make your eyesight worse, so stop worrying about that. Secondly, do you like your glasses? I love mine and I feel prettier with them on. (And I can see with them on, which is way sexier than bumping into things.) Maybe you need a new pair. Beyond that, glasses don't make anyone ugly. Lots of people wear glasses, so it doesn't make you a freak.

Get better glasses that you feel look good on you.

There is nothing wrong with having glasses or your prescription. You should not feel guilty about it. We see lots and lots of patients every single day who need to correct their vision.

I would suggest to pick out a nice pair of glasses that you look good in and that suite your style. Then I would ask your parents to talk to the optician and ask for HI-INDEX LENSES) (1.67) These are a really thin material and will help your glasses not look so thick. Then I would suggest an anti-reflective coating, that will greatly diminish the look of glare on your glasses (like when you have a bad glare on your tv) and last but not least, you can get a "roll and polish" which means they polish and roll back the edges of your lenses to make them look less thinner. All these options will help your glasses look just as thing as prescriptions that are much smaller than yours.

I hope this helps! Good luck!

Opthalmic Technician

First of all, stop feeling guilty, you did NOT do anything that caused your nearsightedness to happen, you got some bad genes from some side of the family. Watching TV, video games, using the computer, etc does not cause it. You are not alone, there are a lot of other people with the same problem. Also, don't worry that it will get so bad that they won't have glasses strong enough to correct it or you are going to go blind, that is not going to happen; people don't go blind from nearsightedness. As far as feeling ugly, wearing glasses is such a small part of someone's appearance, and their appearance is just a part of what makes them interesting/desireable. It is not like you are never going to get a date or anything like that. If you treat yourself like a "worthless person" other people will do the same. If you seem well adjusted, happy and a fun person to be with, you will have plenty of friends/dates, etc regardless your vision..

I know how you feel. My vision is -12.00, and it took a long time before I felt confident enough to wear my glasses again in public (I didn't get contacts until 9th grade and was bullied for years before). I'm 30 now and still feel self-conscious when I wear my glasses, but time has definitely helped with that.

My advice is to get a pair of frames you really like and as thin a lense as possible (keep in mind that high index lenses are much more expensive than regular ones). Talk to your eye doctor for reassurance that it's okay to watch tv and use the computer, because it's not going to have an affect on your vision. And remember that while you might be freaking out over wearing your glasses, the people around you probably haven't even noticed.