HOW DO YOU GET RID OF PORN ADDICTION WITHOUT ANYONE knowing?!
Question: i want to atop my ponography addiction.
but my mum and dad or anyone doent know i watch it or that i masturbate
i want to stop but i cant!!
what do i do ??!!
Answers: i want to atop my ponography addiction.
but my mum and dad or anyone doent know i watch it or that i masturbate
i want to stop but i cant!!
what do i do ??!!
First off, step back and ask yourself...is it really an addiction? A lot of woman and men, including me watch porn and masturbate. It's normal. And it's healthy for our bodies. I wouldnt consider masturbating once or even twice a day a problem. Especially if you are not having sexual intercourse it's normal to want to pleasure yourself. As for the porn, if it helps you "get off" then there shouldnt be a problem. We all have something that helps us "get off" for me it's a vibrator and some porn. There is nothing wrong with it. An addiction to me, is someone who cannot go one second without a sexual thought, or the porn and masturbation consumes their life. If this is not occuring I see nothing wrong with it. In order to even start fixing what you want to fix, you need to determine whether or not it is an addiction!
ur 13 and are addicted
you are the only one who can stop. if you want to stop, then throw away the magazines and just stop cold turkey, because there is no other way to stop.
I have the same prob as u.. Maybe just try and make it sound like its for Geeks and people who are sick.. and ask yourself are you sick? xD
Just try to find some other stuff that interests you... Whether it's an online game, or a new hobby...
come round and practice some moves ?? that might help
Years ago I read a book titled "How to Break Your Addiction to a Person". It may help with any addiction because the principles are the same. You may be able to find it on the I-net.
Good Luck!!
depends what you see as an addiction. to some people its normal
How can you be addicted to porn at 13? Maybe it's the masturbation you are addicted to.
Hmm. There are more significant things to do with your time. Read a good book, avoid things that are suggestive.
See your doctor, sometimes a food imbalance will make different parts of your body more sensitive than they should be.
You have an addiction. It isn't a public addiction, like alcoholism. With alcoholism, the last person to know he is an alcoholic is the alcoholic. Support groups exist for alcoholics. If you go to Alcoholics Anonymous, people support you because they know you are seeking help.
But you are addicted to pornography, and pornography addiction is a secret thing. You may be the only one who knows you are addicted. If you went to a support group for pornography addicts, and your friends found out, or if your spouse found out, they might be very disappointed in you. You might hurt feelings, break hearts. Friends and family probably don't know you're addicted to pornography. They probably think you're a fine, upstanding, loving man. You know what? They're probably right.
You see, pornography addicts come from all walks of life. They're blue collar laborers and white collar executives; they're handsome and they're homely; they're Christian, Jewish, and atheist; they're all races and creeds. They're single, they're married and they're fathers. They can be lazy couch potatoes, and they can be diligent community volunteers.
Some want to control their addiction and some do not.
You want to control your addiction.
I say "control" your addiction, because you need to realize you will never "eliminate" your addiction -- you will always be addicted. When I refer to breaking your addiction, I mean it in the same sense you might break a horse. Breaking a horse means you gain control over it -- it submits to your will. You don't take it out and shoot it.
You're like a diabetic. Diabetes won't go away (at least no one has found a cure yet), but it can be controlled.
"But that's not fair," you say. "Why do I have this addiction?" It isn't fair. Diabetes isn't fair either. It's just one of the inconveniences of being human. Some people get it, some people don't. But just because you get it, doesn't mean you should give in to it. And you've got pornography addiction. You always will -- it won't go away. But you can control it. And by control, I don't mean you can reduce the amount of pornography you look at. I mean you can stop looking at, listening to, or seeking out pornography all together. But it is going to take effort. It is going to take commitment. It is going to take resolution that you won't give up, no matter how discouraging it gets. It is going to take prayer. It is going to take time.
Most addicts have been controlled by pornography most of their lives. That's a lot of programming to overcome. In fact, you may want to seek professional counseling for your addiction. The only challenge with counseling is that some therapists don't have the experience to help you, and many do not even think you need help. Many professionals don't consider pornography addiction a problem. Certainly not to the degree that you understand it to be. Oh, and one more thing: professionals can cost $125 an hour.
So I'm writing this little brochure because I think it can help you. It's short. It's to the point. It contains what has worked for me, and I hope and pray it works for you. You see, I'm addicted to pornography too. But I was lucky; after years of praying and searching, I found a counselor who understood my desire to control my addiction. Like me, he believed that at the very least, pornography made it difficult to get close to God and to live the type of happy life I was seeking.
It's taken several years, hundreds of dollars in therapy fees and lots of prayer, but today I am in more control than I have ever been. Using what I have learned from my therapist and incorporating my own experience, I have developed a very simple plan that helps me get through each day, one day at a time. I hope it can help you.
Dealing with the Guilt
Chances are, you are probably extremely hard on yourself. Your addiction can be discouraging, and can seriously damage your self-esteem. You may go for a few weeks or months without a problem, and then -- Whammo! -- you fall in the hole again. And when you're in a hole, it's easy to feel very worthless.
All I can say is, don't beat yourself up! You aren't perfect. God knows what you are trying to accomplish here. You are trying to overcome an addiction, an addiction that didn't develop overnight. Don't expect to gain control over your addiction overnight. I didn't develop my plan in one day; I developed my plan after years of trying, failing and learning. Give yourself a break.
Think of it this way. You are taking steps to change your life for the better. You are going to feel closer to God during this process of change than you have in a long time. As you prayerfully seek his assistance in changing your life, you might also ask him to help you keep your progress in perspective. Are you seeking out pornography every day? Then going two days without seeking it out is a major accomplishment! Recognize that, because God certainly does.
He wants you to succeed, and he'll help you get to the point where you have control of your life again. But right now, he knows your weaknesses. He loves you more than you can understand, despite your mistakes.
Being clean three days does not excuse sinning on the fourth, but you need to understand that you have actually accomplished something positive. And you can do much better next time.
My personal plan helps me focus on the goal, much more than on the problem. That's why it works for me, and I hope it works for you. I think it will. When you focus on a goal, and reward your own successes, you are going to experience an increased sense of self worth. Determine at the outset that when you occasionally stumble (because you will -- at first), you will pick yourself up and not give up. Your own plan might need some adjustments, but DON'T GIVE UP! If you've been addicted ten years, it's going to take a long time to change patterns. Start again, one day at a time.
Each day that you succeed will increase your self worth, and give you added strength to succeed tomorrow. So don't worry about succeeding tomorrow. Just worry about succeeding today, and rewarding yourself tonight.
Controlling Your Thoughts
Pornography addiction begins in your mind. Some people think about it and some people don't. For many people, pornography doesn't interest them, just like auto mechanics or gardening might not interest you. But for the pornography addict, pornography is extremely interesting.
You might not be someone who spends a lot of time thinking lustful thoughts. Lustful thoughts can certainly increase your desire to find pornography. But that might not be your particular spark.
Maybe you associate feelings of insecurity or loneliness with sex. Some people, when they're feeling lonely, turn to masturbation or pornography. Such simulated sex makes them feel un-lonely, at least for a little while. If that's your situation, you need to realize that loneliness is part of life. Even the most happily married man in the world feels lonely once in a while.
Create an action plan for the times you are alone. Learn to enjoy being alone. Do housework, or study, or exercise. Get out of the house and get your heart pumping. Don't worry about whether you'll be tempted again when you get back. You're not exercising to keep from seeking out pornography -- you're exercising because you enjoy it, you are alone and now is the perfect opportunity.
Find things you love to do, that you can do when you're alone.
Controlling your thoughts is like driving down the freeway. Have you ever driven at a high speed and suddenly heard your tires thumping over the reflectors on the lane's dividing line? You hadn't noticed yourself swerving out of your lane, but now you hear the warning of the bumps under your tires. So what do you do? Probably, without even thinking, you correct your steering and pull away from the line.
That's what you are trying to do with your thoughts. Whenever you get in a situation that might tempt you to indulge in pornography, you need to make adjustments in your thinking and actions to get you away from danger. At first that will take a great deal of effort, but as your instincts improve, you'll find yourself steering clear of hazards with hardly any thought at all.
Let's say you are staying in a hotel that offers adult programming on television. Well, most hotels also allow you to disconnect adult programming. You probably need to call the front desk the moment you arrive in your room and ask them to disconnect the service. Even though you aren't tempted when you arrive, late at night you might be, and you want to make sure it is unavailable. You may have to do the same thing 20 years from now, even though it's been two decades since you've sought out pornography -- remember, you're an addict; you will always be addicted. You will always have to take precautions.
You are an addict. You have a disease. You have to take efforts every day to avoid pornography. Maybe you have to cancel your Internet account.
There are things that you aren't strong enough to resist. You'll get stronger and wiser, but right now you may have to deny yourself some things. Listen to your thoughts. Are you rationalizing? Pay attention to the things you rationalize -- they're probably the very areas where you are weakest.
Fill your mind with something uplifting when you catch an unpleasant thought creeping onto the stage of your mind. Maybe you can sing a favorite song to yourself, or recite an inspiring poem, scripture or quote.
Just remember, every day for the rest of your life, you need to actively resist pornography. So, here is my plan.
One Day at a Time
Start today. My plan works best if you start today and don't put it off. Make sure you have gotten rid of any pornography in your home. Throw it out. If it's around, you will fail. Remember, right now you are weak. You have to resist each day.
When you've finished reading this paper and understand the plan, take time to pray. You need to appeal to a higher power if you hope to succeed. Prayer draws you closer to God and will give you extra strength. In fact, at times God will come to your aid and intervene to protect you if he knows you are sincerely trying and depending on him.
Don't worry that you don't feel worthy to talk with God. He still wants you to pray to him. So, if you aren't a praying person, why not give it a try? And if you feel like you've come to him so many times already, let him know that you have a new plan, and you want his help in accomplishing it.
In your own words, explain to God that you're addicted to pornography, and that you will do everything you can to control your addiction, but that you need his help to make up the difference.
Now, determine how much you can afford to pay yourself each day. Fifty cents? A dollar? Two dollars? It depends on your personal budget, but what you are doing is saving for a big reward. Pay yourself each day that you avoid pornography.
Your goal is to give yourself something great after your first 100 days. And it needs to be something totally extravagant that you would never spend money on otherwise. Maybe its in-line skates or a day of skiing.
Your goal will increase. Your first goal is to go 100 days. After you've made it, your next goal will be to reward yourself after 250 days. And then reward yourself once a year. So each year you will have $365 to spend on something purely fun.
Every night, after I say my prayers, I take a one dollar bill out of an envelope I keep in my sock drawer, and put it in my bank. It's a great feeling. Every once in a while I take the money out of the bank and count it. That's how many days I've gone without seeking pornography. And I keep a tally of when I spend it so I know when I've gone more than a year in a row successfully.
But what happens when you fail? Well, you have to give the money away. Pick a charity. Maybe it's your church, maybe it's your political party, maybe it's a local arts group or a service organization. But pick a charity. When you fail, you're going to send them all the money in your bank.
AND THEN YOU ARE GOING TO START AGAIN!
That's all there is to it. That's my plan.
? Eliminate all the pornography in your home
? Pray for help
? Determine how much you can afford to save each day
? Pick a reward for yourself after the first 100 days
? Make or buy a bank to save your money in
? Pay yourself each day that you successfully avoid pornography
? If you stumble, give all the money in your bank to your favorite charity
? After 100 days of success, reward yourself
? After the next 250 days, reward yourself
? Reward yourself each subsequent year for the rest of your life
Don't beat yourself up when you stumble. Remember that what you are trying to accomplish is a major undertaking. You can do it. And as you progress, God will bless your life with incredible joy. You will become more self-disciplined, and you will be happier than you have ever been. God bless us all with success.
WOW you're advanced for your age aren't you....or are you asking this question because you know that there is a programme coming on tonight at 11.25 about this very subject and want some attention??!!
OH NO - I'm feeding your addiction!!!!
You have a greater chance of getting caught if you don't stop than if you do. I think your question is a bit ridiculous as you obviously seem like a young teenager and generally they don't really have an addiction... just the beginnings of something they are curious about and want to stop before it gets bad. If you're serious about this then find other activities to do to occupy your time and stay away from the computer.
Destroy and/or get rid of every thing you have. You can't get rid of the images that are already in your mind. There are some groups that help you get over it. It's very destructive to you and relationships. It helps to write about it in a journal, even if you destroy the pages after writing them. If you feel the pull, go for a walk, a run, or call a friend to chat. Try get get out of the "alone" setting. It's probably too hard to tell your parents and they probably wouldn't understand. Most people view this as a male problem, but women can be equally affected. See if you can find a group to get help. It can interfere with a normal, healthy sexual relationship in the future.
Good luck
find someone who shares your addiction. then it wont be addiction. it will be education. share the experience.
Move your computer out of your bedroom and into the living room.
You need to find another outlet for your pent up sexual energy. Get a boyfriend.
May I humbly suggest that you get involved in a Christian youth group, and find that there is much, MUCH more to life than sex, porn and everything the world sells you. If you trust your life to God, you will live the best life you possibly can, and be free from addictions to porn and anything else for that matter.
I hope you can understand this and that you will see it is true.
Christ died for people just like you and me! (It is something I have found hard to fight with too!) Yet in Christ I am free from all of it, it is so liberating!
You need to break the routine and relying on porn to get you aroused
I used to look at porn everyday because I had access to it-it was easy
now I do not have access so I have to live without. It's best to go cold turkey-
its hard but not impossible
you can still enjoy yourself without using and relying upon it.
Its best to try to find something else to do with your time instead of looking at it.
You just missed a channel 4 program on this very subject, ' Addicted to porn'. It may be available on-line or if you read this soon enough it will be on Channel 4+1 right now. Basically you may require specialist psychotherapy.
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It's perfectly natural to masturbate and there is nothing wrong with watching porn!! However, if it's effecting your life in anyway then seek professional advice!! Otherwise don't worry and remember double the number double the fun!
there are people who watch porn, and there are people who watch porn and dont want to.
youre in the second catergory, so some of the advice wont be of much use.
get rid of it, and spend more time with other people, so you spend less time alone. excercise, go for runs etc maybe?
in the end youll develop a friendship or a fondness for someone you like, not someone who is paid to perform sexually acts on dvd or the net. thats not to say youll want to have sex with that person, but theyll broaden your horizons
good luck, and stick with the pursuit of losing porn
jon h
wow children are so forward now!! Umm maybe you need to stop using the internet when you are alone so you dont get tempted!