I have a personal question about ... 'alone' time...?!
Question: So when ever I try to do anything to myself, I just can't get wet. I never find any pleasure in anything I've tried. Ive even tried stories and videos, but it doesn't turn me on. Why can't I get wet and have any fun with myself?
Answers: So when ever I try to do anything to myself, I just can't get wet. I never find any pleasure in anything I've tried. Ive even tried stories and videos, but it doesn't turn me on. Why can't I get wet and have any fun with myself?
It could be guilt that is stopping you from feeling pleasure in it.
It could be that you aren't touching the right spot for you (and it does vary slightly from woman to woman).
Do you know about the feminine anatomy? Where each part is, what its called and what it does? Have you a held mirror there so you can identify where each of the parts are on yourself?
Do you have a safe and private place and time so that you don't feel like you're going to be interrupted, or discovered?
Do you experience "wetness" with someone else?
You can get some books or find the information you need here on the Net.
It sounds to me that you're putting too much pressure on yourself and you need to relax more. (I know that's easier to say than do.) That and find something that really turns you on.
Maybe you feel guilty or maybe you're trying to hard. Relax and enjoy yourself. Some use pillows, electric toothbrushes, or removable showerheads.
maybe you are thinking too much about it.. Or some girls just cant get turned on by themselves they need the actual thing.. Try getting a vibrator that should work!
maybe you're a-sexual.
1. Watch porn. A vivid imagination works, but there is some excitement that comes from watching porn too.
2. Get familiar with your clit. It is the greatest way to acheive the most amazing orgasms. Let yourself go, don't worry about what happens. Try different pressures and speeds with your hand, as well as different positions with your body.
3. Do it in front of the person you are dating/ ina relationship with, but don't let them touch you. It's like acting for them, and the environment is almost too hot to handle.
4. Try to stimulate the va jay jay and clit at the same time. No toys? Improvise :)
5. Play with regions you might not thought twice about. Squeeze your nipples, stroke your sides, play with your *** (yes, I said it), in betwen your thighs... become so familiar with yourself that you could teach the next person your with exactly what to do.
Good luck!