My boyfriend says I've gained weight...help!!!!!?!
Question: I havent even gained that much...we just moved and I've been really stressed...I've maybe only gained like 10 pounds....plus my weights flucated a lot in my life. We've been together for a long time, but I'm soooo tired of him sayin I need to watch y weight...I know my body! And I'll be fine. If I gained so much weight that he says he notices...why do my pants still fit just fine....ps. ,I'm only a size 7 to 9 depending on the pants.
Answers: I havent even gained that much...we just moved and I've been really stressed...I've maybe only gained like 10 pounds....plus my weights flucated a lot in my life. We've been together for a long time, but I'm soooo tired of him sayin I need to watch y weight...I know my body! And I'll be fine. If I gained so much weight that he says he notices...why do my pants still fit just fine....ps. ,I'm only a size 7 to 9 depending on the pants.
congrats to you for standing up against the media. it's extremely good that you like who you are and know how your body is instead of just dieting yourself to death because of what someone said. tell him that you're happy with yourself and that he should be happy with how you are too. if he just laughs about it and still tells you he wants you to loose the weight, then you're way too good for him. dump him and get a guy who appreciates a strong woman.
*i know this sounds very feminist- but i think you're a great rolemodel for a teen like me
leave him...he doesn't love u anymore....rest as u wish
thats not a lot at all
are they stretchy pants?
i'd tell him to piss off! the cheeky git, sorry. he sounds like he has control issues here, does he let u were what u want to? does he even let you go out of the house without him?? i wudnt even ask this question, because i wudnt allow my fella to get that way, seriously, he has definately got control issues here.
what a jerk! girl shoot, curves are sexy! whats a few pounds gonna do?
dump him, its quality not quantity, so no matter how long you have been with him, if he is making it bad with negative and critical comments then he is not worthy of your love. or you could talk to him about y he is so rude lately.
Tell him to take a pill or just call him fat. He really shouldn't say things to hurt your feelings if he loves you.
dont leave him it doesnt mean he doesnt love you. It does mean hes a little bit of an ***. At least hes honest though. I like honesty sometimes it hurts though. Tell him to work out with you if he thinks your gaining weight. You both win that way
The next time your boyfriend says that crap to you, tell him that he needs penis enlargement. That is NO way to treat a lady and your boyfriend has some obvious security issues if he's trying to make you feel bad about yourself. You are beautiful as you are and you don't need to worry about your weight - you're a healthy, THIN girl that apparently needs to worry more about the partner in your life than the size of your clothing. Kick him to the curb, a lifetime of verbal abuse ain't worth it.
well consdering that you didn't have to squeeze into your pants you wear now that you did wear before, your weight distributes through your body. some people just have problem areas, your's may just spread out.
for ex. mine goes to my thighs and hips, I rarely have a problem with it on my stomach, still no fun though :-/
Tell him you realize that you have gained some weight and that you are aware that your weight has fluctuates through out your life. That him point it out when you already have noticed just makes you feel bad, and that isn't doing anything positive for your relationship.
You should sit your boyfriend down and tell him that it hurts you when he says that. If he loves you he should accept you. If he can't get over himself, then he probably isn't worth the pain.
you better watch out for such comment, cause it may be a signal that he's cheating you now, i'm not trying to scared you, but you better really really pay attention to that kind of issue
Don't mind your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will accept you even if you're fat or slim. ok? Merry Christmas. ?
It looks like he's the one with the problem. Don't let anyone make you feel less beautiful than you really are. I would think twice about keeping him.
tell him his dick has shrunk I mean bloody hell, if he really loved you would it really matter what your weight was? If you are happy with yourself kick his **** out. He is telling you to watch your weight? I bet if you commented on his weight, body hair, wrinkles, hair etc, he would hit the bloody roof. Dump his bum, you deserve better!
tell him that it's rude to point out your weight gain. Tell him that his pointing it out makes you feel bad and when you feel bad you eat so if he knows whats good for him he'll shut it. Furthermore, as a man who is married to a woman that has "gained some weight" more than one time since we've been married. I can say I this. I care, I do. I don't like to see my wifes fat *** jiggling around when she gets out of the shower. However, unless she was so fat that it was a health threat it would never be worth hurting her feelings for me to say something. I love her and didn't marry her for her waist size. Maybe he's just a jackass. You don't need that.
Tell him you think his penis is shrinking everytime its cold outside. That way its fair lol! But seriously, you need to tell him it bothers you when he says those things, or learn to ignore it. Honestly if he's still with you oviously it doesn't bother him that much, and mabye he's saying it because he thinks your concerned about it. Or next time he says you've gained weight, respond with "so?" and you'll find out how he really feels about it. Good luck!
you know my x used to call me fat cow I
decided to keep gaining and gaining when we broke up I was 216 lbs and he tried to tell me he was trying to help I didn't see it that way in fact that is allot why he is my x
so my suggestion to you is explain to him how it makes you feel if that don't work pick out one of his imperfections and mention it like he does your weight then after awhile ask him how it made him feel you should see eye to eye then . good luck its hard to be with some who makes you feel bad about yourself.
tell him to kiss your ***. i'm sure he's not perfect either. With all the other pressures and worries we have from life, a boyfriend is supposed to be a constant source of encouragement and comfort. Apparently he is not doing his job!
tell him when he loses his weight, you will.
A person who truly cares about you will want you to be healthy and care about you for more than your looks.
Instead of him telling you that you have gained weight, he should have purchased a double gym membership and you two could go together. Working out together is great -- you spend more time, and plus, being physically fit boosts your self-esteem. Could he maybe be insecure with his own body?
Actually I used to say this to my girl friend and now I realise that it might hurt her psychologically. But I did this because I care for her and love her very much. I didn't want other people say that she is fat but they should praise her in all respect. I really was not bothered about her looks personally (though she is very beautiful) , I said to her about it as a well wisher. She listened to me and tried very hard to become slim.
I believe your boyfriend loves you very much and thats why he cares for you (and cares for how you look). But as I didn't realised that, your boyfriend might also not been able to realise the fact that it hurts. You can ask your boyfriend that it hurts when he say like that and not to tell her like that because u get hurt emotionally. I think he will understand your feelings.
Best of Luck
It all depends on HOW he said it.
My fiance and I comment about each others weight a lot.
However, its all in HOW he said it.
And you sound like a decent weight.
You could always suggest you BOTH join the gym or start walking around the neighborhood together.
How's HIS weight?