First-time sex trouble?!
Question: Hi all,
My boyfriend and I had our first sex ever last week. Both of us have never done it before. My first time hurt terribly and I couldn't feel anything but pain. We did use lubricant and condom. When we tried again the next day and today, it still hurt when he penetrated and started pushing. I don't know why. How long will the pain last and why I can't feel him inside me? Sometimes when he was pushing, I had a weird urge to urinate or to break wind (it's embarassing, I know). In short, it was nothing like I'd imagined. Painful and weird. What's wrong with me and him? He said maybe his penis is short (man is so obsessed about size!!!) but I don't think so. Please help!!!
Thank you & Merry Christmas!
Answers: Hi all,
My boyfriend and I had our first sex ever last week. Both of us have never done it before. My first time hurt terribly and I couldn't feel anything but pain. We did use lubricant and condom. When we tried again the next day and today, it still hurt when he penetrated and started pushing. I don't know why. How long will the pain last and why I can't feel him inside me? Sometimes when he was pushing, I had a weird urge to urinate or to break wind (it's embarassing, I know). In short, it was nothing like I'd imagined. Painful and weird. What's wrong with me and him? He said maybe his penis is short (man is so obsessed about size!!!) but I don't think so. Please help!!!
Thank you & Merry Christmas!
Hi,
Maybe the problem is that u need to relax a bit. When u're thinking about the pain, your vagina are unable to relax/ expand and this makes the penetration even harder and painful. This condition is called vaginismus. There are some useful information for you on what can be done to help. Have a look at this website.
http://health.ninemsn.com.au/article.asp...
Goodluck! Merry Christmas!
If you used a lubricant perhaps the trouble is your hymen is not broken.Not many women can feel the guy inside them.The urge to urinate is part of your arousal sequence, the feeling will pass if you keep going.There is nothing wrong with you or, him, may i suggest you learn how to masturbate yourself to orgasm, and during sex you need direct stimulation of your clit to orgasm. I hope this helps. If you need further help feel free to e mail me .
cool and relax,, be cool dont think about it a lot as that causes contraction in the vaginal muscles,,,u are too tensed as u both are doing it for the 1 st time.. relax and use lube and u need to take it into consideration that for the the 1st few times it does pain.. till your vagina learns to contract and expant accordingly,,,
best of luck... u need to get used to the change in the vagina dur to the penetrationa and tell your bf to be very gentle..
omg!! i sooo know what you mean!!!! it happend to me last week for the first time too!!! it's totally normal to hurt, becuase your hymen is being broken... and yes the first few times will continue to hurt til its gone.... dont worry it gets better!