You know those people who .....?!
Question: "pretend" to have an eating disorder just for attention? But, they don't really have one?
Does this sound like it fits the bill? (I'll call her Sara)
Sara lost a few pounds and got a lot of good compliments. But, 1 or 2 people made comments about her having an eating disorder.
A few month later is Thanksgiving (not this year) .... and here's the thing .... she made it *look* like she didn't eat a lot. She would just put a small amount on her plate at a time .... but then re-fill her plate over and over. She REALLY liked the comments "jeese, sara you're not eating a whole lot"! And every time she would take a teeny tiny bite, she would look around to make sure people were watching.
AND, a little later that night she's like "omg, like, all my friends think I'm anorexic!" ..looks around, waits for responses .. nothing except for "ok ... " (she didnt like that). She is the type that LOVES sympathy.
She was not THAT thin
Do you know the type I'm talking about? Sound like it?
Answers: "pretend" to have an eating disorder just for attention? But, they don't really have one?
Does this sound like it fits the bill? (I'll call her Sara)
Sara lost a few pounds and got a lot of good compliments. But, 1 or 2 people made comments about her having an eating disorder.
A few month later is Thanksgiving (not this year) .... and here's the thing .... she made it *look* like she didn't eat a lot. She would just put a small amount on her plate at a time .... but then re-fill her plate over and over. She REALLY liked the comments "jeese, sara you're not eating a whole lot"! And every time she would take a teeny tiny bite, she would look around to make sure people were watching.
AND, a little later that night she's like "omg, like, all my friends think I'm anorexic!" ..looks around, waits for responses .. nothing except for "ok ... " (she didnt like that). She is the type that LOVES sympathy.
She was not THAT thin
Do you know the type I'm talking about? Sound like it?
she sounds like an attention seeker and that is so sad. she will end up with that syndrome where you pretend your kids are sick and actually make them sick so others feel sorry for you and give you attention. munchausen's syndrome or something like that it is called.
Sounds like the girl has some real issues. Her friends aren't helping her out any, either.
Talk to her in private and tell her that you're concerned for her.
i know wat you mean!
ya an attention w hore
It sounds like she's faking it, and it also sounds like she needs more positive reinforcement.
attention hoggers
Sounds like she's "starved" for attention.
LOL! Thats to funny.
I have a friend like that, sometimes i play into it, other times not so much.
Dont take it to serisouly.
get a life just be thankful she hasnt got anorexia
I made the mistake of getting into bed with one of those women. She nearly destroyed my life by saying I had problems, and spreading lies about my life. I had to leave university because of her. It sounds like your freind has a very very serious problem, which quite simply originates from the fact that she loves being the victim.
I hate chicks like that.
There is a girl like that at my school, and I told her straight up to cut the crap cause it is annoying.
& she quit. :)
hahah
Oh gosh ...yeah ...I know what you are talking about.
Can't stand that fake acting material.
If you need confirmation then yes she has a sickness and needs help and I hope you are there to support her with it. I am glad she has someone in her life who is so caring and helpful and I hope you get a lot of suggestions on how to do it.
I think she justs wants attention, but she probably does care a little about her size and weight...she might need help with all of this...you should personally talk to her and see how she reacts to all this, if she says she needs help, help her...if she says she doesn't need help, then she is trying to get attention.
I know what you mean and I hate that too just let her keep playing this game and she will either end up caught or in the hospital hooked to ivs!
My friend does that, but not for sympathy, just for attention and she sees it as a compliment when people say how she never eats. But I know her very well and she eats like a pig! But everytime we get a snack, say a coke and some chips, she'll throw all of her things on the ground and say oops. and it's really annoying.
these people are what we call "attention whores" darling... attention is to the attention whore is like crack to the crack whore, they need it, they can't live without it, and they find devious ways to get it..
she's just not that clever.. some people do it by telling amazing fantastical stories, or by being funny. I think I'm a bit of an attention whore, but i get attention by making people laugh, and that is the most honest way to go about it...
i say that if you like sara, you should point this out to her and tell her how pathetic it is.. if you do not like sara, point this out to everyone else and they will notice, and eventually the word will be going around the campfire that she is an attention whore..
happy hunting
If she's such an attention seeker and currently an annoyance try to pull a string.
Act like you accepted her as anorexic (saying it's ok but not ending up talking about it). Try to talk with (or about) her considering other things you'd want her to worry about (like what great help she can be at homework or what a nerd(if shame makes her do it) she is). If you'll make it known why you/others talk to/about her she'll just think it's working.
You could also try helping her with main issue which is the opposite plan (if you try both you'll probably fail). Like whether she's lonely, bored or feels left out. Take her somewhere exiting/interesting or populated like a bar, show, cinema, museum and do something fun there (just don't get carried away or end up in suspicious social positions).
very well-described, by the way...
Yes, totally! You could even fill in the blank with many other behaviors and get the same result. She is insecure and is seeking attention. Just... the wrong kind of attention. Depending on the relationship you have with her or how serious you think this behavior has become, you may want to talk it out with her... or just don't give her that kind of attention and maybe she'll eventually drop it.
Either way, support her and be generous with your friendship, show her attention in other ways.
yes...