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Question: Iv started dating someone and i know he's slept with a few girls in the past, but before we have sex i need to make sure he's been checked for stds. But how can i ask him?...like whats the right way 2 ask him... i dont want him to think im making out he's got one, but i will have to kno otherwise i wont do anything. x


Answers: Iv started dating someone and i know he's slept with a few girls in the past, but before we have sex i need to make sure he's been checked for stds. But how can i ask him?...like whats the right way 2 ask him... i dont want him to think im making out he's got one, but i will have to kno otherwise i wont do anything. x

Sensible girl.

When the time gets near that the relationship seems to be going that way, you need to be pen and up front and be clear that you want to 'make love'...but hope that he'll appreciate that you are a sensible girl and that you feel you both ought to go to the local GUM clinic for a check up so you can both embark with a clear conscience on the physical advanced aspect of your relationship.

If he reacts badly -- maybe he is not the guy you really need in your life? If he is decent he'll go for it no problem...

You shouldn't be having sex until you go with him to get tested. If either of you can't do this together, you shouldn't have sex.

just tell him the truth, say i dont want 2 b at risk so dont b offended but do u have stds n even add if your worried about me ill tell u that i dnt aswell (cos he might be thinking how 2 ask u da same thing)

U are being very smart. Just say I know u have been with a few girls. Can we get tested b4 we do anything?

Just be as honest with him as you can. Tell him you know he has slept with other people, and before you can take things further with him, he needs to get checked out, for both your sakes.

If he is a decent guy he will get checked and not make a fuss.

You are doing the right thing. The only person who is going to look afer you, is you.

xx

ask him by saying... have you had any stds coz i know uve been around?

just sit him down, make sure your both sober (lol) and say to him "have you been checked for STD's?" its that easy. he wont mind as long as you dont make a joke out of it or anything. dont worry about it if he really likes you he will simply tell you. if he acts stupidly he ma not be worth it.

hope this helps!!

x

dudette just say that you know he has had sex with other girls and that you are glad because that will make him more experienced for you he will like this its an ego thing

then say you want to have sex with him because youve heard how good he is but can he get a test done because you know one of the girls which have been saying he is so good is a **** and may have something

he will understand he will be keen to get the test and show you how good he is

Tell him the truth theres no point pussyfooting round the idea if he dosent like it, well theres plenty more fish in the sea

I had to do the same thing with my long term boy friend before we had sex. It's your right to have him get a test. Just straight out ask him to get tested and show you the proof. If he gets all in a huff, tell him you'll get one too (which you should do yearly anyway). Make sure he knows it isn't anything personal...if he's had sex before, there is a chance he could have something and if he cares for you and himself, he should willingly get tested. If he's still angry about it, somethings up. Either he knows he has an STD or...well, I don't know what else it could be. Whatever you do, don't give in. You need to take care of yourself, because you're a human being that deserves to be healthy and happy.

Just say that it's better to be safe than sorry and that it would really put your mind at rest as STDs are spreading a lot more rapidly now. =]

Or... the one definate way that he'll get checked... say that he'll get no action until he gets checked. =) he'll do it in a flash! =D

Good luck! x

Im a lad so no offence for me aswering you! lol.

Anyways, this is your Boyfriend, soon to be your true love or unless he already is, so you need to be honest with him! start off with that you know he has been with a few girls and you accept that, BUT you would like him to have a test for both of your sakes.
If you was to get std it can make you infertile so dont joke with something like this, if he doesnt accept this, then im sorry! you should tell him to sod off!
Put your future first, not just a one night stand.

Family?

Or no Family?

Anyway, Happy New Year.

I think you should just come right out and say please could you get tested just for my piece of mind, it is really important to me :)
good luck x

I actually wouldn't trust having sex with him in the first place - not because I think premarital sex is a bad thing, it's just that there are so many STDs that guys CAN'T be tested for, and because he's had sex with other women in the past makes him liable to have the ones that aren't testable. If you're afraid to ask him about getting tested in the first place probably means that you're not in the right place in your relationship to do it - that you're not ready yet. If in the future you're ready, you shouldn't be afraid to ask him and he shouldn't be angry or upset that you asked - if he cares about you, he won't mind getting the available tests done. But remember, there are several STDs that guys can't be tested for, and you'll still be at risk.

Just be straight with him........now days you can't be too careful, if he truly wants to be with you, he'll not have a problem with getting tested! Better safe then sorry!

I think thats a very smart and responsible decision. I would flat out ask him if he will get tested and if he says no he doesnt have to cuz he doesnt have anything, then I would kick his butt to the curb. You dont need to be with someone who doesnt respect you enough to protect you. Good Luck!

id ask every1 that, every1 is different....
its still risky.
id expect them to be understanding and respectful of it.
its good for him and you.

I would tell him your concerns. Tell him that you want to give yourself to him, but you want to make sure he's safe. Don't fall for his crap when he tries to tell you that he's had a test done or something. Tell him you'd like him to get one done and you'd like to see it (that is if you can't go with him). Just tell him you want to protect yourself- even if it means waiting.

I commend you- most people would shrug it off. Be polite, don't be a b* about it, just express your concern. If he loves you and wants you, he'll get one done or wait until he can get one done before he puts you in danger.

Good luck!

Be direct and stick to your guns. If he refuses, refuse to sleep with him. If he loves you, he will be glad to oblige and should be proud to have a smart partner.

Just tell him straight out, if he really likes you, he should not get offended at all, and if he does or refuse to take the test, then........good luck

So U claim u luv him? what will u do if it is proven that he has HIV?

say (name ) have u been tested for HIV AIDS etc.
just be as straight as that and if ur not sure hes telling the truth say well i want to come with u cause i really dont want to get it
and if he really want to be sexually active with u he well let ucome with him
if he just wants to get some he well not

Definitely both get tested. Go together

hey happy new year!

ok well there is no other way to say it unfortunately. first things first are you over the age of consent ( thats 16), right now just ask him straight be upfront if he thinks that well he ent ready for sex, and he dont completely respect you. Just say to him look i would love to have sex with you i know myself that you have been round with lots of girls i just wondered just before we have it could come please come down to a std clinic and have a test done with me'. And if he says no refuse to have sex until he does. I respect you for being safe. but ask him out straight that is the best thing you could do
xx





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