Should i give in...or should i wait??!
Question: Here's the thing ive been talking on and off to this guy since July of last year. He seems allright, but theres something shady about him. We've gone out and made out, messed around a bit. But now...he wants more. *u know what i mean* . My dilemma is that..ive messed around before...and i dont want to mess around anymore. I want something serious...and maybe if i give in to this..it wont be. Maybe he just wants to have fun. I want to wait for something more serious...but what if that guy doesnt come. I dont meet a lot of guys...im so down.Girls what would u do?
Answers: Here's the thing ive been talking on and off to this guy since July of last year. He seems allright, but theres something shady about him. We've gone out and made out, messed around a bit. But now...he wants more. *u know what i mean* . My dilemma is that..ive messed around before...and i dont want to mess around anymore. I want something serious...and maybe if i give in to this..it wont be. Maybe he just wants to have fun. I want to wait for something more serious...but what if that guy doesnt come. I dont meet a lot of guys...im so down.Girls what would u do?
I know it doesn't seem like you will meet a good guy so sometimes you think settling for the jerk is ok. But you will. If you think this guy is shady thats a sign. Wait for the rite guy who doesnt leave you any doubts about what kinda person he is.
If it doesn't feel right to you, you shouldn't do it. You want a guy who will respect your desires as well as his own. If he doesn't do this, then he's not worth it. I personally would wait it out because sex should be special.
we cant answer this for you sweety u need to know if you feel comfortable!!
I think you should wait for another (better guy to come along). It took me 8 years to figure that one out. Especially since you are second guessing the situation and guy! Props to you for wanting something more. :) Screw him, guys suck!
Agreed. STICK TO YOUR GUT FEELING BOUT THIS GUY. IT COULD BE REAL TROUBLE. Don't be dumb and make a big mistake, you never know, you might end up preggie some how.
Your choice. If he's creepy, why do you wish to even bother with the guy???? but at all costs avoid getting preggers. As a teen, my mom once said to me... "Make me a mother-in-law before you make me a grandmother, or I'll kill you." And she probably would have too.
In the future just remember that it only takes one sperm, and sweets, as a teen you are the most fertile you will ever be in your entire life. So if you are going to become sexually active, get on the pill, hon, and stay on it. And keep on hand a unit or two of Plan B. Go to your own doc, Planned Parenthood or your county women's clinic... find it in the yellow pages under county services. Saline abortions aren't fun, but waaaaaay better than getting preggers, or carrying some foetus to term that yo never wanted or giving it away.... wayyyyy easier. Just get on the pill, or patch or whatever. Do anything to avoid a pregnancy so soon in your life.
you should NOT give in to him. he just wants to take advantage of you. if you give in to him that will NOT make him want to stay. Don't sell yourself short. you are valuable and have worth. Save yourself and do not waste it on a guy like this one. you have even said he was shady. The right guy will come.. when the time is right.
something shady about him
i dont want to mess around anymore
I want something serious
In other words...listen to what your conscious is trying to tell you. You want something for real and shady guy just wants to get what he wants...do yourself a favor and break away from him.
" I want something serious...and maybe if i give in to this..it wont be."
If he's shady and just wants to play in the superficial shallow pool and stay out of any deep things, most likely he won't ever be serious.
Lots of guys out there, if you are afraid he (Mr. serious) is not going to show up, then you go to him and find him yourself. There are plenty of guys a lot more worth your time and emotions than Mr. Shady. Even being a lone for a time is worth more than him!
And whatever you do, don't let him push you because you fear someone else might not come along... If he even remotely realizes that you might worry about that, he may try to use that to his advantage in trying to keep you messing around with him. Or into staying with him who is not worthy of you. Some controlling types prey on people they think they can convince there will be no one else ever for them. If he is or ever gets that way, definitely run and don't look back.
I think you have answered your own question with the term "give in". You know the answer. "Dump that zero and get a hero"