Is it wrong to loose ur virginity at 13?!
Question: I am 13.I'm acually quite mature and pretty intelligent when it comes to sex.I know of all the risks and I know how to be safe.And I'm thinking of having sex.
I was curious as to those who lost their virginity at 13.Did you REALLY regret it? Cause I kinda think the virginity thing is stressed too much.You're going to have sex eventually right? And a lot of it too.So what is the big deal? As long as you are mature enough to handle the emotional effects and know what kind of risks it carries why not?
Lecture me if you have to.But don't freakin call me a sl*ut or a wh*re.It's not very respectful.
Thank you very much! :)
Answers: I am 13.I'm acually quite mature and pretty intelligent when it comes to sex.I know of all the risks and I know how to be safe.And I'm thinking of having sex.
I was curious as to those who lost their virginity at 13.Did you REALLY regret it? Cause I kinda think the virginity thing is stressed too much.You're going to have sex eventually right? And a lot of it too.So what is the big deal? As long as you are mature enough to handle the emotional effects and know what kind of risks it carries why not?
Lecture me if you have to.But don't freakin call me a sl*ut or a wh*re.It's not very respectful.
Thank you very much! :)
When I was 12/13/14 I thought I was very mature (which I was... for my age) and got into all sorts of drink/drugs etc which I thought I was mature enough to handle but I really was not. Sex may not seem like a big deal, its just a penis in a vagina, but the problem is the consequences. When you are 13, you are physically more at risk when you have sex. Your reproductive tracts are immature (and remain so until quite late in a lot of people) and therefore are much more vulnerable to STIs. STIs you can contract now like HPV (which condoms only offer limited protection against) can cause cancer in 10-15 years time- not great in your mid-20s. Sex can also lead to pregnancy- and there is a difference between acknowledging the risks of pregnancy and STIs and dealing with them. Take a moment to pause and think about this. Would you be perfectly happy walking downstairs now and telling your mum you are pregnant or have an STI? What about going to the doctor and telling them either of those things? Or even just talking to your mum about sex and birth control? Cause if you aren't happy doing that, you probably aren't ready for the consequences of sex.
The teenage brain is psychologically not developed for forward thought- I thought I could understand the consequences of what I did at 12, I knew the risks, I thought they wouldn't happen to me nad if they did I could deal with them. I am now living with the health consequences of doing drugs at that age and I regret it regularly. If you got pregnant tomorrow, could you imagine keeping the baby? Or having to make arrangements to have an abortion?
There are also the emotional and physical consequences of having sex. One of the things that adults rarely tell you about sex is that it can be REALLY embarrassing. I mean REALLY embarrassing. From him not being able to fit in you, to premature ejaculation, the pain of losing your virginity (which can be *really* painful and I imagine more so when you are younger), to being too dry during sex and needing lube (fancy buying that? Or condoms?), fanny farts, weird positions making you need to run off for a wee etc etc it can be fun, but it also can be awkward, embarrassing, miserable etc. Do you trust the person you are planning on having sex with not to laugh at you? Tell all his friends? Tell all your friends? Are you absolutely sure he won't tell everyone you are frigid if you find it too painful to go on or he can't fit in? Or if he tells everyone you are a slag and the school is whispering about it behind your back? If you got pregnant, or had an STI, would he support you? Do you feel you could tell him? If you guys broke up, do you think you'd regret having sex with him? Believe you me, it makes it a lot worse when someone you have been that intimate with breaks up with you and starts going out with someone else.
I was in exactly your position when I was 13- I thought everyone made too big a deal about it, and that it was no big deal and I was ready. All I can say is thank god I must have been an ugly 13 year old cause I ended up waiting til I was a lot older and I am SO glad about that. Sex is complicated enough when you are mature enough to deal with the consequences. And as someone with pre-cancerous cervical cells now thanks to sex, let me tell you, there are consequences even if you do religiously avoid pregnancy. Obviously you have no reason to listen to me, and being young and quite mature, you probably won't so I hope you don't end up regretting it too much! If I had one piece of advice I could give it would be this- Don't be in a hurry to grow up. Adult life is increasing complicated and stressful. Frankly quite tiresome and it is in no way avoidable. So enjoy your carefree times as much as you can before the word craps a whole lot of responsibility down on you!
I think its too young personally because you may say you know the risks but that might not be true. What if theres that chance you could get pregnant....then what? Personally I would wait I'm 16 and have never done anything like that and wont until I could handle any situation like that and find someone I love and care about to share it with. Your viriginity is a special thing so please just don't let it go to waste!
yes it is wrong but i dont care. you need to make sure you have rubbers though.
I was barely 14 when I did, and mature. However, the things you have to look at are: there are no contraceptive options that are 100% effective except abstinence.What would you do if you got pregnant? Are you able to take that responsibility at this point? I understand your impatience, but I'd strongly suggest waiting till you are 16. Please talk to an older female such as your mom or sister or aunt before making any decisions.
"It's not very respectful".... your audacity is only surpassed by your poor decisions. 13 year olds do not get respect they get told what to do by their parents.
In most peoples opinion it would probably be a bad idea because of your age, 13 is pretty young to be doing that. Its true the virginity thing is stressed to much but still you would want to be a proper age where you can handel anything unexpected. in the sense of you being responsible and knowing the risks thats good, but even being safe theres still a chance (small as $hit) to get preg or w/e. i would sujjest you wait. but if you honestly thing you want to do it, i suppose you can as long as your safe and know what your doing , people a few centeries ago did all that at around 13-14. but again make sure your ready, 13 is a very young age. i would wait!!!
It sounds like you are mature, and smart. I don't want to lecture you, but you are very young to do that. Your body still has a good bit of growing to do, and it's prolly not healthy. I was still playin with barbies at 13 haha. I'm 17 and 1/2 and still a virgin. Don't get me wrong, i've experimented a lot, but having gone home yet, lol. Please decide to hold off a couple more years!
I understand what you mean about that, but honestly what it seems like is your just curious. If I were you I wait and lose my virginity on a man that I had real feelings for and wanted to share something special with. I feel sex is more of a personal choice and you should do what you feel comfortable with. you may think your mature now but put your self in your parent or guardian's position and how would you feel with your child losing their virginity. Also keep in mind, what might pop out in 9 months!?
im 15, and i think im pregnant.. XD just be careful
I think it is too young, I was 19 when I lost my virginity and really regret it.
I wish I would have waited to have sex with someone who I really was in love with, because then I wouldn't have regretted it so much. It wasn't good at all, I think it would have been if I hadn't rushed into it. I really hope you decide to wait.
You don't have to have sex. It's not something you just do to get it over with or to say you've done. It is a very big deal and you might end up really changing or regretting it after. At 13 you are too young to even consider yourself mature. You're not supposed to be mature at 13. Don't rush what you have. Like I said, no one has to have sex. It's something adults do.
FYI: You freaking needed a lecture. Anyone on here encouraging a minor to have sex is twisted and should be put in jail.
It's your life, do what you want.
As long as you feel that what you're doing isn't wrong, why should you care what others think of you?
Personally I waited for a lot longer before I had penetrative sex...I was 18, and in a way I wish I'd done it sooner lol.
Do what you think is the right thing to do, and you shouldn't regret afterwards. Too much stress is placed on age anyway, as it was normal in the past for girls to be married at your age... not that I think that's right, but it shows how different things are with a different cultural perception. I think a good age would be 16, but then, is that because I'm conditioned to think so since that's the age of consent where I live?
Omg yes! The younger you start having sex and the more sex partners you have, the more you increase your health risks, such as cervical cancer. I'm sure you're a mature thirteen, but not that mature. I was just shy of being twenty-three, and looking back, I'm not sure i was completely ready. Once you begin an intimate relationship with someone, there are so many emotional, relational, and physical comlexities that I can't even begin to explain nor would you understand, and that's not mean to be a put down. What is wrong with just being a teen and hanging out. Your not a child, but you have some "kid" years left, and they will vanish the moment you start being sexually active. You will suddenly be facing the majority of worries and responsibilites adults have, and you are not an adult yet. Last but not least, when you meet someone special and begin to talk marriage and long-term relationship, how long do you want to have to take in going over your history and explaining your past, which may include std's no matter how careful you think you are being. Be a kid, and be a smart kid. You have the rest of your life for adulthood.
Geez...I'm only 28, but I almost feel old to think that I'm more than twice your age.
Trust me... wait until you are older. "I'm actually quite mature and pretty intelligent when it comes to sex." Most kids feel that way about themselves over many different things. It's a time in life when kids just feel that way...we all did...but that doesn't make it true. When you are older you will have happen what we all have had happen...you will look back and see how young you were and know everything you were still clueless about and had no idea you were clueless. I don't say that to try to sound mean or anything, it's just a fact of life that we all go through.
To put it simply... you are only 13, adult things are by nature done if you want a baby. Do you want a baby at 13? Because what you are thinking of doing is really playing with fire and chances are good that you could get burned. No amount of protection can completely prevent a pregnancy, there is always a chance it can happen.
Consider this in life...if you ever have doubts about something or are questioning whether you should do something or not...don't. There is a reason your conscious is making you have doubts.
Most people do not lose it at 13, it's not quite normal.
Save it for when you can appreciate it.
Well no body is to mature to have a kid specially at your age you could be mature all you want to do you have a job to support a kid if you had one are you ready to pay for a apartment buy food for the baby clothing pay light bill pay your own phone are you ready for the type of responsibility i don't think so you will regret it because is to soon when i was thirteen i did not even think of sex or anything like it i don't think you are ready because can you support your self and a baby do you have a career smart girls don't think of having sex this early that comes withing time think of school and good grades graduate from college first like that you could
have what ever you want without a man supporting you if he leaves you could pay your own bills because you depend your mommy and daddy to support please think
in this day in age, in our society, yes that is considered too young. however, in other cultures and at other times, and as far as nature is concerned, no it's not
You do sound very mature about the whole thing...i will give you that..how ever number one only you will know when you are ready to have sex...weather you 12, 13 or 98.....but my number two is is that if you have to ask people what they think on yahoo answers about this, do you really think that you are ready..
also if your not ready for pregnancy i would say wait at least 3 years....because as im sure you already know condoms and birth control will not always work.
I am almost 23. When I was in middle school I had a couple of friends who lost their virginity. They felt it was a good decision because it meant they were responsible enough to make adult decisions. But they were very misguided young women who just wanted freedom and maturity before they were ready for it.
I just want you to know that sex is a big deal. If you're having sex as a young teenager, it means you're too anxious to grow up. At 13, you still have a lot of self-discovery to do. You don't actually know what you want in a lover, no matter how much you think you do.
Leave sex to senior year in high school, or college, when you have had a few substantial relationships, because then you will really have enough experience to really know when you're ready.
There are so many other things that could go wrong that "rubbers" and birth control won't protect you from. You may think you can handle the emotional side but i really don't think you know what you are getting into. I don;t know from personal experience but I am proud of the fact that I don't and you will probably think the same if you wait just a little longer. Try talking to an adult about this and see what they say. If you are as mature as you say you are that should be easy to do.
I am 13 also, going to be 14 next month, but I haven't lost my virginity (and I don't plan to for a long time). I have pledged to stay clean until marriage. I think you shouldn't have sex, even if the guy is pressuring you. Please don't do it!!!! Think of this scenario: you're a beautiful 13 yr old girl, then this guy comes along and pressures you to have sex, and you give in. Your life goes downhill form there and you end up getting pregnant at 13 (sometimes birth control doesn't work my friend) and you have to drop out of school or give the baby up for adoption (which is what I would do if this happned to me).
It doesn't matter how mature you are, you are NOT mature enough to have sex at 13 years old. It's stupid and wrong, and I'm not going to sit here and call you mean names and stuff but I still don't think you should do it. You are going to regret it later in life, and when you do have kids, they are going to find out and they might be messed up too.
I hope you doin't do it, but if you do, don't come crying to us when you don't know what to do next........
I was very mature and intelligent when I was 13 to so i went and lost my virginity and yes i regreted it I am 25 now and i look back and thank god he did not bless me with a baby that young. And you no After i had sex me and that boy only talked a few more times and i never seen him again. You want it to be speciel I wish now looking back it would have been with the love of my life. I have to say good luck i hope you make the right choice I promise it will change your life for ever. Oh you think you no every thing now wait till you are 17 that is when you real think you no every thing that is when i got married 21 is the age when i got divorced and had my first baby. But you no if I would have not done that when i was 13 i would have done so much more with my life so .........
Hey you. Its Steve-o .I can give you several reasons on why to wait.....1. The respect for yourself, and I know youve been told this im sure , but pls take it in consideration . 2.love, wait and make sure the person that you have sex with is someone you really really love in your heart.3. You are 13 years old YOUNG LADY!!! You need to be really focused on your future and if its pressure you are faced with ,the hell with them if they cant respect you and wait for when you are 100% ready to make that move.If you dont do it for yourself do it for your lord and savior ...Trust me Jesus went through alot for you pls wait !!! love and respect yourself,and others will show more respect for you!!! Peace Steve-o!!
you are still too young. i would said you should wait until you are 16. there are lots of risks to have sex at this young age. you should be worry about school at this age and think about having sex when you are older. it is true that loosing your virginity that early is very stressful to deal with as a teen. It is your choice of what you want to do. My only advice to you is practice safe sex as alway using condom to prevent pregnancy and STD. It may hurt first time
Don't have sex just because 'you're going to have it eventually'. From the few short words you wrote you do seem quite bright and mature, but that's no reason to have sex. I did loose my virginity when I was 13. I am 38 now and in a lot of ways I do regret having sex so early! There are a lot of things to consider once you start having sex.
For starters - you can try to be as safe as you can, but birth control is not 100 per cent effective. I was 25 when I first got pregnant and I was on birth control and even at 25 it was a bit shocking and scary at first - unexpected pregnancies are a lot to deal with particularly if you are a teenager!
Guys (even men) do not have a lot of respect for girls (and women) who offer sex freely - I agree it is not fair, but the person you are thinking of having sex with will not look at you the same way as he did before you had sex. If I could turn back time, I'd have been a lot more conservative about sex when I was a teenager.
I am getting married for the first time in a couple of months and to be honest, there is a part of me the wishes my fianc