Personal Question - Why don't I EVER crave sex?!
Question: Ever since my boyfriend and I first had sex together, it's hurt me. The best way to explain it would be that I feel "too tight." I didn't enjoy sex at all because of how much it hurt. I evetually went to my gynecologist and explained. She told me I had something (can't remember the name) and she said to completely stop having sex, and to take slow steps getting comfortable with it again (i.e. Step One-Rubbing, Step Two-Hands/Fingers Step Three-Toys/Vibrators). I listened to what she said - We haven't had sex in probably 5 months now (he's going crazy). We've purchased me some toys (vibrators) and I've tried them a couple of times. I like them, but the problem is I never want to use them. I never crave sex. I never feel turned on or desire even the thought of sex. I'm very attracted to my partner, so that's not the problem. I just don't want sex. What's wrong with me?! I want to want sex (if that make sense) but I don't! It's really starting to affect our relationship. Please help!
Answers: Ever since my boyfriend and I first had sex together, it's hurt me. The best way to explain it would be that I feel "too tight." I didn't enjoy sex at all because of how much it hurt. I evetually went to my gynecologist and explained. She told me I had something (can't remember the name) and she said to completely stop having sex, and to take slow steps getting comfortable with it again (i.e. Step One-Rubbing, Step Two-Hands/Fingers Step Three-Toys/Vibrators). I listened to what she said - We haven't had sex in probably 5 months now (he's going crazy). We've purchased me some toys (vibrators) and I've tried them a couple of times. I like them, but the problem is I never want to use them. I never crave sex. I never feel turned on or desire even the thought of sex. I'm very attracted to my partner, so that's not the problem. I just don't want sex. What's wrong with me?! I want to want sex (if that make sense) but I don't! It's really starting to affect our relationship. Please help!
Oh bless you honey. Keep trying with the "toys" Try by yourself and get really comfortable with it before sharing with your boyfriend. You may want to try pleasuring yourself and then you can take things one step at a time with your boyfriend by showing/telling him what you like. Its not all about penetration so perhaps concentrate on doing other stuff. Oral sex is always appreciated! My sister suffers with the same thing as you and it took her a while but her and her boyfriend are now enjoying a full sex life. Dont put too much pressure on yourself and take your time. Your boyfriend sounds like a good man so keep communicating with him about it so he doesnt feel like he is to blame.
Good luck honey...x
You should try anal sex. Report It
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