Should a female feel guilty/bad about masturbation?!
Question: Also, just as a survey, do you masturbate? I feel like the only (nasty) female who does it, even though I don't do it much-maybe once every 2 months or so. Well, in general, it's not nasty, but many people think it is. Some people feel like it's OK for a male to masturbate 10 times a day, but when a female does it, they say she has no respect for herself, & that makes her desperate & easy. @ least that's what my family raised me to believe.
But I learned in sex ed that it's perfectly healthy & normal for BOTH genders, but I still feel bad about it. Hell, I even feel guilty after having PROTECTED sex with a guy, using a condom!
Do you think my family's repressive (strict) beliefs are causing me to feel this way? I'm 24 with a college degree, & they don't even want me to get married &/or pregnant.
Answers: Also, just as a survey, do you masturbate? I feel like the only (nasty) female who does it, even though I don't do it much-maybe once every 2 months or so. Well, in general, it's not nasty, but many people think it is. Some people feel like it's OK for a male to masturbate 10 times a day, but when a female does it, they say she has no respect for herself, & that makes her desperate & easy. @ least that's what my family raised me to believe.
But I learned in sex ed that it's perfectly healthy & normal for BOTH genders, but I still feel bad about it. Hell, I even feel guilty after having PROTECTED sex with a guy, using a condom!
Do you think my family's repressive (strict) beliefs are causing me to feel this way? I'm 24 with a college degree, & they don't even want me to get married &/or pregnant.
Masturbation IS healthy and natural. It's not nasty, it doesn't lower the self-respect a woman has for herself, or any of that other garbage.
Women are just as capable as men -- if not more so -- to masturbate. Do you realize that a woman's clitoris has as many nerve endings in that tiny little bump as a man has in the ENTIRE head of his penis??? Women were MADE for masturbation (because the vagina actually does not contain all that many pleasure-nerve endings).
Think of it this way: if you had sex, not only would you be left at risk for pregnancy and disease, but also heartbreak and a BUNCH of name calling...not to mention the fact that most women come away from a sexual encounter completely unsatisfied. Masturbation on the other hand is VERY safe & clean, can be done anywyhere/time -- and no one else needs to know or be involved, you can do it by yourself or with someone else (IF you want to), you cannot get pregnant or catch a bug, and you are absolutely guaranteed an orgasm!
Nobody should feel bad about masturbation. Its healthy and natural. Yes, I do masturbate. Almost everybody does.
Maybe you should try therapy to work through your feelings of guilt.
Definitely.They have raised you to believe sex and everything related is dirty and even though you dont think that way there is probably some doubt deep down.I was kinda the same,everytime sex was mentioned i was made to feel embarassed so i still feel a bit dirty for doing it! I DO do the nasty with myself every now and again,every couple months,the same as you and i believe everyone should.Its perfectly healthy and normal!
Hello, yes i think that maybe youve been brought up to think that pleasures of the flesh are sinful. I dont agree with that at all.
Its like god creating a button of fun, and then everyone saying 'NOO dont press it, god wouldnt want us to!'
Silly!
Masturbation is normal and healthy. It helps you to explore your own body, and learn about what you like.
I do it once every 1 or 2 days!
Maybe it would be good to get those issues out about your upbringing, because its good for people to be free of things like that holding them back! x
No offense but your family is a bit paranoid and nosey. It's not their business what you do with your body. You wanna finger yourself? finger yourself!!! You wanna have sex? Have sex!!! it's not a bad thing to masterbate and people who say "eww its gross" are probably just ashamed to admit that they are doing it themselves (thats how i USED to be)...=)
Most people admit to masturbation. The rest lie.
I don't think it is nasty, it feels very good and it is healthy for you.
I do it like when I feel like it and if I can't get to sleep.
I think you should talk to someone about your guilt.
Hope I helped!
it fine healthy and normal
everyone does it it make your heart healthy 2
Among my other talents I'm a lay preacher for my particular sect, and we figure sin is anything taken farther than it should be. Eating is fine, but obsessing about what you eat is either the sin of gluttony if it's about quantity or quality, or the sin of pride if it's about needing to stay thin.
When your body itches, you scratch and get on with your day. If you decide to "prove your virtue" and never scratch any itch no matter how incredibly distracting it is, it keeps your mind off of what it should be on. That's just the sin of pride getting in your way.
If on the other hand you go so far as to breed mosquitoes in your kitchen sink so as to be able to spend all your available time scratching self inflicted itches, that'd be sloth.
Masturbating when you need to, to get urges off your mind and get on with your day is no worse than scratching an itch. NEVER doing it or doing it every spare chance you get, then you're in the areas of pride or sloth.
(Lust is about using others for your own pleasure and to their harm. Doesn't even come into this.)
So I hope that helps, and if anyone is interested, i hand out leaflets on street corners. :-)
no if it's her decision no yes