I want honest opinions?!
Question: i had a baby and found the experience quite nerve racking and very invasive because i had a bad experience with a medical procedure a few years ago. anyway i am to the point where i wont let people touch me for say medical reasons, pap smears etc, do other people feel like this? i feel really alone and cant talk to people about it. my partner wants another baby now and i just cant do it but i dont know what to say to him? please help
Answers: i had a baby and found the experience quite nerve racking and very invasive because i had a bad experience with a medical procedure a few years ago. anyway i am to the point where i wont let people touch me for say medical reasons, pap smears etc, do other people feel like this? i feel really alone and cant talk to people about it. my partner wants another baby now and i just cant do it but i dont know what to say to him? please help
I had a HORRENDOUS colposcopy recently (literally so bad I came back and had an hour long shower cause I felt violated). It was SO painful and involved a male student doctor (who no one ever asked if it was alright to be there) getting an anatomy lesson off my bajingo whilst I was writhing in pain. However, I have to weigh up the risk benefit calculations and say even though I was almost in tears over it and I am already dreading the follow up one I have to have in six months time, it was worth it for the sake of my health. Surely you love your baby, and even though it kills you to have these medical proceedures done, it was worth it?
Talk to your partner about it. Maybe talk to your GP about it too and see if you can get a referral. Doctor/hospital phobia is pretty common I think and you really should get it sorted. Having a baby aside, you don't want to end up dying of something like cervical cancer because you are phobic of the check up.
It will take you time to adjust. You can try to get counseling and you need to tell your partner what you have been through, are going through, and that you need some time. He will be there for you and take some of the stress and pressure out of the situation. There are also womens groups that deal with these issues.
it will take time to get back to everything just sit him down and let him know that you are ready for another baby let's wait awhile and raise this one up a little bit and then maybe in a year or 2 maybe we can have another good luck and CONGRATS on your baby
Find a doctor that you can trust. You may have to talk to a few different doctors until you find one that you really like. Tell this doctor the truth about what has happened, (you are not alone), and ask about what your best options are.
He is your partner so anything you tell him he should be able to understand and support you with. Just explain to him why you have found it so traumatic. It doesnt make you weird or strange but having the support of someone that really cares about you will help alot. You really need to speak to someone about this problem like a councelor or something, because the thought of having children should be exciting and a happy time, not a time when you are worrying the entire pregnancy about giving birth. Obviously the trauma of the medical procedure and giving birth have made you feel as though your privacy is being invaded and im sure it happens to a lot of women but try not to worry too much, this is something that you can work through.
yes, this is normal and other people have had similar experiences. It's a lonely thing to feel isolated and not understood by one's partner. My advice would be 1-to talk to a professional about your experiences to ease your anxiety 2-try to talk to your partner about needing some time and all that stuff. you don't have to be alone in all of this. you can email me if you want to talk about it more. Good Luck!