Married 25 years and not one orgasm?!


Question: from my husband for me, we have tried toy, oral , g spot, etc etc and not a thing makes any difference, been to sex therapy hypno, what else can we do or do i just give up and say forget it and take care of him?


Answers: from my husband for me, we have tried toy, oral , g spot, etc etc and not a thing makes any difference, been to sex therapy hypno, what else can we do or do i just give up and say forget it and take care of him?

You are exhibiting "mental blockage" to having an orgasm. Sometimes that goes back to earlier years in your life. You may have had a "bad experience" or was told something by your parents or other authoritive figure about "sex is no good" or something like that. You must find out "what" brought you to this point. Therapy only treats sympoms but not the "cause (root)" of the problem.

If your husband has actually found the G spot, you should have been having orgasm to the maximum. There is no woman I know that can stop an orgasm when induced by massaging the G spot correctly. That's why it's call the G spot!

Oral must be done correctly. Lapping like a pup or gnawing like a cat will NOT do it. The method must be gentle, smooth, soothing and continual until reaching orgasm. Most men do not know how to administer oral sex. It take concentration and guys don't want to lose the errection, which is very possible when a male is really focus on pleasing the female orally.

Look at the links below and start searching the Internet. There are many articles and advice out there. Find it. Try it. Good luck and happy orals!

You are one in a million! Lucky your husband.

Go to the Doc. they have creams for that.

lots of girls dont feel it during sex and if oral doesn't work then maybe he isn't good enough or it's really hard for you to hit the spot

have you ever had one wiith anyone else?

try smoking some weed..(really)

you need to let go of all inhibitions, lose yourself

or try some street drugs :)

wow

NO BIG DEAL! THERES MORE TO LIFE THAN THE BIG "o" AS LONG AS YOUR IN LOVE YOUR GREAT! THATS A GREATER ACCOMPLISHMENT.

try reading the kamasutra books they have all kinds of different positions that may help

look... this is simple... and it shouldn't have taken you 25 years to figure this out....

What ever you DO --- to give yourself an orgasm... DO IT with him there... involved to the degree that HE CAN BE INVOLVED.

Don't give up.. it's important that the two of you C-U-M - together... it's a real boone to a relationship.

wow, what a bummer......have you tried any herbal supplements.........you might even want to try a little viagra for women to see if the blood flow will increase your sensitivity to your clitoris and the rest of your areas of the vagina. Have you tried masturbating on your own, to see what may get you off?? that might help....good luck hun.

I'm so sorry!

Can you orgasm through masturbation? If so, there must be some way to be able to have one from your husband through oral and clitoral stimulation.

You're probably trying too hard, for one. The biggest thing is to relax. If you're pressured, it'll never happen.

You didn't say whether you masterbate, but if you don't, you should. Take time for yourself without pressure and just be relaxed and figure out on your own what feels good. If you can't do it yourself, how can your husband know what to do? ;) Once you've mastered it on your own, you can teach your husband what gets you off.

Good luck!

Just try to find real love while making live. Orgasm is not a physical thing only. You need to have 100% of your emotion in the event.

some women never have one. have you been to the doctor? if not, then just keep trying. have you been married for 25 years, or you are 25 and married? most of all, just remember that marriage isn't all about sex. if you've been married that long, there must be something else going for you...

ooooooo poor u, u really are missing out on something! 25 years is very long time - sounds like u have tried everything - how about a watchin a sexy movie together while drinking some nice wine ??? its worth a try.

good luck!

You need to start by having one by yourself, then having one by yourself with him in the same room, then him watching, then him touching you at the same time and so on.

Can you achieve orgasm through masturbation?

If so, incorporate your masturbation into the foreplay.

Have you tried on-top? I get off a lot quicker when I am on top.

You're blessed with a husband who tries! I've given myself each and every single orgasm also and am growing concerned for how I'll teach a husband to do this for me when the time comes for me to be married. I think I'll give them to myself in front of him and have him mimic what I did. These lessons won't be as romantic as other things we'd do, because I'll be verbally teaching as well, but it sounds logical, doesn't it? Good luck.

Ok, well now that you've added more information, I'd say you're just inexperienced! My goodness! How on earth didn't you know that women have orgasms?! It seems you may have gotten married without knowing very much about sex. That's not good! When my kids are virgins, I'll still make sure they know as much as I can get into their heads! So, if you didn't know until 2 years ago, then you're only 2 years in this fight, really. Not bad. I would say masturbate with your hands instead of the toys. Don't try to mimic the toys- the rabbits especially overstimulate. Most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Sometimes it's fun to use lubrication. Orgasms need to build. Start slow and soft and work your way up to fast and hard. This is another problem with vibrators, they all start faster than humans can. Roll up a soft shirt tightly and put it underneath you- on your clitoris- as you lay on your stomach and go to work. Trust me, this works wonders! Two other women said this worked for them. Once you can give yourself an orgasm, teach your husband how to. With this new information, I feel much more hopeful!

Could be a medical condition and there are doctors that can treat this condition. It is usually due to some nerve damage to the clitoris.
My ex-sister-in-law had same problem, she found out damage was done when she was very young and didn't know it. They (the docs) figured it happened when she had an accident while riding a boys bike and she landed on the wrong spot when she took a tumble down a hill.

Other then that, if the toys and gadgets don't work, (forget that hypno crap) I would say see a doctor.

I'm currently in the same boat. The only way that I can have an orgasm is by masturbating or oral and then I have to nine time out of ten think of something other than the partner that I'm with. I do know that they have a procedure out that tightens that area to how it was before children. Since I'm like that I'm with the same partner and I let him know that it isn't him, It's me. Not to worry though it's more common than you know. They also have drugs that are suppose to help with your libido.

Why blame your hubby? The problem maybe with you!

You probably suffering from hysteria which maybe due to child sexual abuse or any shocking events-

Can you recall any???

I knew a women like that and she never had a orgasm' until she bought a vibrator .they really work and i bet you will orgasm again and again and again.They are only like 20dollars for a good one at a book or x rated store.I used to be like that too but i try role ;playing and it seems to work" with the vibrator..Lots of luck Hun' and don"t give up OK...

I had the same trouble but there is a toy that works wonders for that!!!! Its called "The Rabbit"
And whoa it works great
Its a clit stimulation

I did not know what I was missing until my husband bought me a device called a "rabbit". It is a vibrator with a separate prong that hits the spot. I've been using this for 25 plus years. Using the correct device is crucial if reaching an orgasm is difficult. (I would also suggest that you run the device because you can feel the sensations, not your husband)

i say its a lost hope, forget it.

HAHAHA must suck

I only give physical proof... sorry

You been doing it for 25 yrs, why change now...
Sorry to hear about your problem...

have a three some and if that dont work give up honey u just dont have it in u.

take up fishing and master bait?





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