What happens after I sleep with my virgin wife?!
Question: I am going on my honeymoon and know that my financee is a virgin. I have been told that the first few days I will have to take it easy and to expect little sex. That's because once we do it for the first time, she'll need some time to heal. Is that true or there's no healing time? Thanks.
Answers: I am going on my honeymoon and know that my financee is a virgin. I have been told that the first few days I will have to take it easy and to expect little sex. That's because once we do it for the first time, she'll need some time to heal. Is that true or there's no healing time? Thanks.
well it'll prob hurt her a bit the first time but it's not as bad as everyone makes out. time to heal depends on her (and your) body/ies. if she's small down there (she prob will be with not having been stretched...) and you're big, then it'll be a little more uncomfortable for her.
she may be nervous too, after reading questions like this about first time pain...which will make her tense...which makes it worst. you need to make sure she is comfortable as has had plenty of time to get into the spirit of things. BUT - i remember the first time i had sex with my bf. i was a virgin ad he had clearly read all these articles about loads of foreplay which was v sweet and all but thing is, i was really quite turned on to begin with (if a little drunk). then he started all the foreplay and it went on and on and on. now i love it more than anything. but then, then it gave me time to sober up and lie back and think "oh.my.god. i'm about to hav sex and it's gunna reeeeeeally hurt!!". and even though the guy is exceptionally good at foreplay, nothing could distract me from the impending pain. turns out wasn't that bad but all i'm saying is that when you're kissing for 12 hours beforehand, she could be getting turned on or her head could be going 100 miles an hour thinking about all these horror stories of first time sex.
if i was you, i'd leave out oral - one step at a time and that's too gentle and she won't be doing anything then so will hav the moments to get herself scared. go for passion...not too much cos is important u happy to take things slow for her but not snail pace either where she'll hav time to think about making a run for it and staying celibate.
celebratory glass of champagne will help relax things too. as will a lubricant. don't get a bath first together (as romantic as it seems) cos that will just dry her out. really.
in the end, everyone has their first time, it's never a big deal a week later and is just something special to look back on...even if it didn't go smoothly... this time in a couple of months you'll be having amazing and relaxed sex
congratulations on getting married!!
EDIT*** by the way, when i first had sex we did it 4 times in the one day and so healing time minimal! also, prob if u leave it a few days after the first time, it will hurt again the second time whilst if you do it soon after (and again and again), she'll get used to it quicker (physically and mentally)
If her hymen is still intact and you break it during sex then yes she might need some time to heal. It will be painful for her the very frist time so just go easy with her. If she has already broken it ex. sports, riding bike, horseback riding, then she should be okay but it might feel a little bit uncomfortable at first. Just go slow and respect her feelings.
Congrats and Good Luck!
She can have sex again after the first time whenever she wants. It's really more about comfort. There may be a little bleeding, there may not, it doesn't matter. Bleeding doesn't indicate that you've really injured her. Just ask her how she feels. ;)
It will all depend upon how much tearing of the hymen tissue occurs. Many women have a partially torn hymen by the time they reach adulthood, from traumatic injuries that occurred earlier in their lives (falling and hitting their pelvic region is the number one reason).
YES, you will need to take it easy on her. She may not tear that much, or it may tear badly. Use PLENTY of artificial lube (I recommend either AstroGlide or ID) and take your time the first couple of times; it should help. And if she says NO, then you must respect that.
ha wow have fun with that
i never heard of a healing time, not every virgin experiences pain. everyone is different....
just ask her how she feels and such
but take it easy
and congrads
As you've already read, it depends on if her hymen is intact. But we don't know and you do is if she is athletic. If she played sports in high school or was just aggressively athletic (rode bikes, ran on treadmill, etc...) good chance her hymen has already broken. She may still bleed a little, but if she was like me, I loved it the first time and couldn't wait for more. It was tight and hurt a little, but some are into that (guess I am). Do respect her feelings and make an effort to 'read' her body language and face - if your not good at that then TALK to her to make sure your not pushing it.
not true, just be gentle the first time
Depends, but going into this expecting little is smart. The patience you show now will significantly impact how great your sex life will be later.
Take it slow. Above all make it safe for her to explore things a bit. The slower the better, and again don't expect too much.
Ultimately things will work out much better than if you rush things and she gets turned off to the whole thing.
congrats ..
and just be gental with her
I didnt need time to heal...and we didnt take it slow...it only hurts for a few seconds...its just a little stretching....its more uncomfortable then painful?
no healing time
good luck!
no not at all. just be gentle with her the first times. after you penetrate her for the first time, you break her virginity she will bleed a little (depends on every women,doesn't happens to everyone) and experience some pain,but will go away as soon she get used to it.
there's no healing time necessary, just do it gentle and with love that she can feel save and loved by you her brand new husband.
just have fun...and congrats for your wedding ;)