Breastfeeding INFO!!!?!
Question: BREASTFED, my daughter latched on and sucked like there was no tomorrow. No bleeding pain or cracking. If she hadn't gotten a tooth then she'd still get it, but honestly I really don't want to feel like a walking vending machine anymore, and I'm fine with that. But there are plenty of other mothers I know, especially at mommy and me yoga (go figure) that don't think it's OK. I just want to do WHERE DO THESE PPL GET OFF with their overbearing opinions?? my daughter who turned 6 moths old last week. I obviously agree that it's the best thing as long as it's a reasonable thing for a mother to do depending on her life. I am a stay at home mom that takes online classes and only has my daughter. I was just wondering that why after all these advancements in formula, and the huge deal that women have made about equal work oppurtunities, all the gains women have had in the past few decades; why do women put so much pressure on each other to breastfeed only?
Answers: BREASTFED, my daughter latched on and sucked like there was no tomorrow. No bleeding pain or cracking. If she hadn't gotten a tooth then she'd still get it, but honestly I really don't want to feel like a walking vending machine anymore, and I'm fine with that. But there are plenty of other mothers I know, especially at mommy and me yoga (go figure) that don't think it's OK. I just want to do WHERE DO THESE PPL GET OFF with their overbearing opinions?? my daughter who turned 6 moths old last week. I obviously agree that it's the best thing as long as it's a reasonable thing for a mother to do depending on her life. I am a stay at home mom that takes online classes and only has my daughter. I was just wondering that why after all these advancements in formula, and the huge deal that women have made about equal work oppurtunities, all the gains women have had in the past few decades; why do women put so much pressure on each other to breastfeed only?
Oh, believe me I know how ridiculous it can be. My daughter had a baby boy a year ago and she was planning on nursing but, they still wouldn't leave her alone in the hospital. And when he got to be 5 months and was draining both breasts at every feeding and wanting more she didn't have a choice but to put him on formula.
If you can find a polite yet effective way to tell them to bug off let me know. Both my daughters are expecting this year so I'm sure it will happen again.
sorry that happened to you, but I know it is her job to encourage people to breastfeed as much as possible. there are unfortunately a lot of teens having babies nowadays who think breastfeeding is disgusting (because of their immaturity). you are right in everything that you are saying here, but she was just doing her job a little overzealously - if that makes sense to you - which with these teens she needs to be, but with you, it is different. she needs to treat intelligent adults differently - which she didn't. at 6 months, you have given her all the immunity she needs - I'm sure she is on some baby food by now too, so you are right - what does it matter. in 3rd world countries, where there is no clean water and you could get diseases from drinking it, then yes it is a big deal. you are doing what is right for you and your daughter and everyone should respect that even if they themselves don't agree.
AMEN!!! I can tell you i understand your feelings on this. With my first child when we took her home when she latched on it was like feeding a baby calf, and it was sooo painful. . . when i went to the lactation consultant they made me feel inferior like i was doing something wrong with my child because it should just happen... and why couldn't i do it...
then with my last child.. we had an emergency c-section, and he was a preemie so he was tube fed for two weeks... i expressed the milk and was like bessie the never ending milk giver, when i could finally take him to my room to feed him i had a woman standing over me coxing my son to suckle for me and not letting me do it, that made me soooo uncomfortable that i couldn't let down.. and then she said to me well formula isn't the best thing for him so you have to get this breastfeeding thing down espcially since he was a preemie... I envy those who can breast feed up to six months ... and beyond before teething happens... but... i figure... if you have to use formula who cares your babies health is most important... so ... go with what is best..
You are a good mom no matter if you formula or breast feed... as long as you love and care for your child ... more power to you
and good for you for doing online classes...
It sounds like you have a lot of anger over this issue. If your feelings are like this then by all means go ahead and start weaning her to formula. Many people take on this attitude about breast feeding because they want to be considered Super Mom. Also in the 70s and 80s, being liberated was all about being able to bring home the bacon yourself and fry it up in the pan (and never forget about your man). So amongst liberated women there is some collective guilt about also being a good mom. That is why they are putting pressure on you. Because of their own guilt stemming from their own screwed up philosophies.
Just remember that this is a personal decision and I could give you all the websites in the world but it is still your decision. Next time you are at mommy and me yoga pretend like she is getting hungry, go over and get a bottle out of your diaper bag then sigh and look up toward heaven and say, "Thank Gd for breast pumps." They will never know the difference.
Yes, it is dishonest but the commandment is not to bear false witness. That has to do with a court of law. These are snoopy, judgmental people. They do not have the boundaries to NOT be judgmental so just give them the impression. Just go on about your life being true to yourself, whoever really matters in your life and to your Gd-whoever that is and in whatever form that takes.
Good luck and best wishes, Mama.
I think that's great that you are breastfeed your daughter. It's really a very personal opinion, and yours is the one that counts. I know to be successful at breastfeeding you need to get alot of relaxation (rest), and eat right and get plenty of fluids.
Sometimes it's hard to know if a baby has enough. Some mom's do both breastfeed, and the dad will do the bottle. Or who ever takes care of the baby will obviously need to use a bottle.
I commend you for doing it for so long, and the best advice to you as a new parent is trust your instincts, and you'll be fine. You are the mom, and you trump everyone doctors and teachers, and lactation consultants. You really don't need people who are not supportive, and make sure you surround yourself with support.
Congrats!!