How Would You Tell Your Spouse????!
Question: Hi,
Recently my husband told me that he was watching porn and found some dominatrix type stuff and said he was very turned on by it. I was like ok but then he says he wants me to be like that. I am all up for new things and i did try it with him but its just not my thing. I don't understand the satisfaction one gets from being humiliated, whipped, gagged etc....
I love my husband dearly and i would hate to hurt his feelings but how do i tell him i'm not interested in engaging in his sexual fantasies without wrecking our sex life?
Normally i wouldn't mind but he wants me to use his mouth as an ashtray when i smoke and wants me to put on a dirty pair of shoes so he can lick them clean, and all this just grosses me out and i've been doing it to satisfy him but it does nothing for me at all and i just want to be able to tell him in a nice way that doesn't offend or close the door for new things later.
Any Ideas on what i can do here?
Answers: Hi,
Recently my husband told me that he was watching porn and found some dominatrix type stuff and said he was very turned on by it. I was like ok but then he says he wants me to be like that. I am all up for new things and i did try it with him but its just not my thing. I don't understand the satisfaction one gets from being humiliated, whipped, gagged etc....
I love my husband dearly and i would hate to hurt his feelings but how do i tell him i'm not interested in engaging in his sexual fantasies without wrecking our sex life?
Normally i wouldn't mind but he wants me to use his mouth as an ashtray when i smoke and wants me to put on a dirty pair of shoes so he can lick them clean, and all this just grosses me out and i've been doing it to satisfy him but it does nothing for me at all and i just want to be able to tell him in a nice way that doesn't offend or close the door for new things later.
Any Ideas on what i can do here?
Sweetheart, one of the golden rules in every relationship is that you only do sexually what both of you enjoy doing, not one of you but both of you.
This dominatrix scenario you obviously find distasteful (I must admit I would not do it either) so therefore you must tell him it turns you off and you do not wish to engage in it, he will appreciate your honesty rather than letting him think you like doing it.
Tell him you love him and enjoy making love him but this is a step to far, and you don`t like it
I would tell him that it isn't your thing, but maybe together you 2 can come up with something else to add a little "spice". It doesn't have to be domineering to be satisfying. Report It
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