Sex pain or something else?!
Question: I have been married for less than a month. We waited until we were married to have sex. I'm wondering if it's normal to have almost constant stomach/vaginal pain now. We don't have sex daily, it's more like once every few days or so. It's not nearly as painful during as it was in the beginning. I'm also paranoid about getting pregnant. I am on birth control and have been on the pill for a few months now. Is there anything I need to worry about, or does all this sound normal? I'm afraid the "cramping" feeling that I am having is implantation pain or something. The pain goes up almost to my belly button too.
Answers: I have been married for less than a month. We waited until we were married to have sex. I'm wondering if it's normal to have almost constant stomach/vaginal pain now. We don't have sex daily, it's more like once every few days or so. It's not nearly as painful during as it was in the beginning. I'm also paranoid about getting pregnant. I am on birth control and have been on the pill for a few months now. Is there anything I need to worry about, or does all this sound normal? I'm afraid the "cramping" feeling that I am having is implantation pain or something. The pain goes up almost to my belly button too.
If you're on the pill, and use it consistently (ie, exactly as you're supposed to) then the chances of pregnancy are very low (though not completely out of the question). However, implantation, etc is usually not attributable to lower abdominal pain.
If this has been going on for some time, there may be some other explanation, such as an ovarian cyst, a pelvic infection, etc. The only way to know for sure however is to see your doctor and get a thorough examination, which may include a ultrasound or CT scan of your abdomen to find out what's going on.
One thing for sure: If YOU think there's something odd, chances are you are right. DO be proactive about your health, and don't just shrug it off. Pain is the body's way of telling you something's just not right.
This sounds like an ovarian cyst or something along those lines. Your pain doesn't sound normal at all...I'd call the ob/gyn.
It is normal in a new sexual relationship to have pain like that, and it's also normal to be nervous about sex with a new partner. The biggest piece of advice I want to give you is to RELAX... Chill out and enjoy this time of your life. You've taken all of the precautions, you're on the pill, and you've waited until you're married. If you get pregnant now, it's one of those 'meant to be' things. But, you probably won't, at least, not until you stop taking the pill, or you miss it.
Sex should never ever hurt, (except the very first time, of course). If it does, it means you're not turned on enough yet. That causes the soreness, and the pain during. if it hurts, stop. tell him to stop. if he doesn't, then kick him. ;) being aroused, lengthens and relaxes the vaginal muscles, and lubricates you, all of which, make sex less painful. During sex, you are using muscles that you normally don't use, and chances are, that's the pain that you're feeling in your stomach and sides. If you were tense while you had sex, or if it was rough at all, you could be bruised inside. It's very common. Don't worry about it. Just give your body a few days to heal, and don't have intercourse. Maybe play around with your husband and get to know eachother in other ways.
Good luck!! And congrats! If you need to talk, please feel free to email me! :)