How and i increase my libido?!
Question: i'm about to turn 26, and i have no libido. at all. its been this way since i've been about 17. i feel really bad for my fiance. we go months some time. but i am just NEVER in the mood.
what can i do to increase it?
Answers: i'm about to turn 26, and i have no libido. at all. its been this way since i've been about 17. i feel really bad for my fiance. we go months some time. but i am just NEVER in the mood.
what can i do to increase it?
There are many books on the subject and you can just go to the library and read through them - try "The Sensuous Woman" by Joan Garrity it is a kind of "how to" on feminine wiles. another excellent choice would be "Sexual Secrets: Twentieth Anniversary Edition: The Alchemy of Ecstasy": Books: Nik Douglas,Penny Slinger by Nik Douglas,Penny Slinger - a kind of in depth anthology of human interactions and cultural practices.
The reason I recommend these is they will help put you at ease with intimacy - that will help improve your libido more than anything. Try a warming gel in foreplay as well it will get you tingly in all the right ways and help you relax and enjoy your fiance. Believe it or not some women enjoy "movies" you may look through your fiance's collection (yes he has one) or go on line and take a peek. It is OK to look you are an adult and you might get some ideas that you want to try yourself. If pictures don't work for you try reading "adult novels" like the Harlequin "Blaze" books. There is just a "switch" in you that hasn't been flipped and you need to find the right trigger. Good Luck!
I know your not in the mood, but why would you not give it to him anyway, I know what might increase it go watch him and his lover do it that might turn you on.
Ask yourself what do you think is sexy and also what turns you on sexually...you might be able to find a common area between the two and then ask yourself...off the top of your head...how can I makes better for me and my fiance(make yourself happy first...this might increase it....Good Luck !
you might need to talk to your doctor.
not having any libido could be caused by a bunch of different things. it's possible that you just don't have one. and giving him some and you not being into it, is not fair to either of you.
talk to someone and see what the problem could be, it might stem from something in your past and that is why you do not have a libido.
could it be that you are just not attracted to your fiance? it's normal to not want sexual things alot of the time, but if you go months without sexual activity there is something wrong.
sex is part of a healthy relationship and you should find out what it is that is making you not want sex.
good luck
first I'd say you should find out, why you have no libido
could it be some medication you take(the pill, antidepressants,...) or could there be a psychological reason?
Maybe even something psychosomatic(like a series of infections that subconsciously led to a loss of libido in order to avoid pain,...)
once you know the why you can start removing the underlying cause
if none of the aforementioned holds true for you, you should talk to your ob/gyn
EDIT: If you are on the pill since about the same time that your libido went away, then that might just be the problem. A decrease of libido is quite a common side effect of the pill. I'd say you should talk to your ob/gyn about the possibility of switching to another form of birth control, maybe your hormonal difficulties are gone by now, at the age of sixteen many girls have those which doesn't necessarily mean that they have them forever. A friend of mine had the same problems and only had to take the pill twice(one time for 3 month, the next time for 9 months), now she is off the pill and her cycle is normal
best of luck!:)