Is there anyone else here who has never been given an orgasm from a man?!
Question: is there something wrong with me?
could I be a lesbian?
Answers: is there something wrong with me?
could I be a lesbian?
Only about 20% of all women can regularly achieve an orgasm from vaginal intercourse. Even if you are one of those lucky 20%, there's always the possibility that it takes you too long to achieve an orgasm for most men to provide you with one - the men can't last that long. The average guy only last about 5 minutes, lots of women take longer. Hey do the numbers! Most women who have orgasms are getting them before or after their partner has one and they are getting them from oral sex*.
If you are with a man who cares about you, (or even if he just cares about sex ;-) ) you should be able to talk to him and work something out. You might want to start by figuring out how you can give yourself an orgasm and then communicate that information to your partner. Be gentle though - men are pretty sensitve about this sort of thing, and you might drastically reduce the amount of sex you are having if he takes it the wrong way.
Also, you shouldn't totally discount the possiblity that the problem is physical (unlikely) or psychological on you part. This is less likely, but it does happen.
It's a common problem though. At the end of the day you are probably a lesbian (or at least bisexual) if you are commonly sexually aroused by women. The absence of an orgasm while having intercourse with men doesn't really tell us much one way or the other.
*Or perhaps digital sex. I've never heard the 'laying on of hands' described this way, but hey, I think it's a pretty cool term.
Call me!
wow, sweetie I'm so sorry, seriously.
nothing wrong, except your taste in men apparently. :) can i try?
i never have but thats probly cuz im not gay and im a male lol
I've never been given an orgasm by a man either. Maybe we are both lesbians.
yeah.. I have. I think sometimes it normal. Orgasms are hard to find?
Yes, you are not choosing the right lovers. You are apparently choosing people who don't care whether or not you "get off"
Plus, at this point you probably think about that so much that it keeps you from relaxing enough to let your body go.
u gotta be joking right? what makes u think u r a lesbian? lesbian is a girl who likes other girls, u r if u do. but many girls have never been given an orgasm from men. it only happens if u get excited. seriously, how old r u? this is a kids question.
seriously , that is one thing I have been blessed with no problems here ever....
no, but have you had an orgasm from a woman? Or on your own?
nothings wrong with you just the guys you've been with are probably inexperienced and selfish. If you can have one if you masterbate then it is possible just there not doing it right.
me, i could help you with that. just kidding, maybe you need to explore your self first and find your love spots
Oooooh, this is easy. Women who have orgasms from actual intercourse are very slim in numbers. 6 years with my wife and it only happened once. I got her a toy for that... I don't have 3 hours to try anymore. Toy works every time and she is happy!!!
To the women who blame us... GET REAL. Many women don't know what an orgasm is because they have never had one. Learn to please yourself and then you can try to teach us how to please you. We don't know if you can't show us. And stop acting like it's Sooo Taboo. It's not. Sex is a normal part of a marriage. For a woman, inability to get orgasms are often mental blocks. Many woman can't tune out the rest of their daily life to really enjoy sex. Stop dumping on men.... Women are more to blame for their inability to enjoy sex than men. Some men are selfish and only care about pleasing themselves but for most of us we would like to please you every time. We just don't have all 3 hours available to try. It gets rather exasperating.
Nope. To tell you the truth it's hard for a guy to give you an orgasm b/c they tend to usually concentrate on themselves when having sex and their pleasure. They don't ask what you like or what you want they simply assume that you like what they do. This actually happened to me until I met my husband. He really knows how to please me and how to make me have an orgasm and enjoy it till the very end. So no. You are not a lesbian you are simply a girl waiting for the right guy to please you enough in order to have a wonderful and enjoyable orgasm.
Try stimulating yourself while your man is inside you. Some lube will help. And men like that.
me too, i think we should get together
no i have never been given one nore will i ever let a man touch me like that,
but my Q is how many men have you been with and what age range are they in , some guys just don't know how to rock the boat,
have u ever given ur self one and next time u do call me
I am a male its not you.
Stop thinking about strawberry chess-cake during sex..imagine you're with that guy you always want....the guy you dumb this one....fantasize fantasize..
actually, a lot of women say they dont climax or experience the "orgasm". i thought something was wrong with me too until i met my fiancee. then i realized it was the men lol! i dont think you're a lesbian, but you can try to see if you like that better!
I have had one in my entire life...its not you
I have had my share, yes. Could they have been better at times, well sure. Are you a lesbian..I hope so.
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WE HAVE TO FIRST LOOK AT HOW OLD ARE YOU? IF U ARE LIKE UNDER 18 SOME KIDS ARE NOT READY TO BE HAVING SEX AND YOUR BODY JUST IGNORES THAT FACT THAT YOU ARE. SECOND DO YOU ACTUALLY FEEL ATTRACTIVE TOWARD THIS GUYS SEXUALLY EMOTIONALY AND PHYSICALY? DO YOU MASTURBATE IF YOU DO? DO YOU ENJOY IT AND ACTUALLY FEEL BETTER THAN WITH THE REAL THING? ARE YOU STRESSED OUT OR THINK U CAN BE MILDLY DEPRESSED? THE HORMONES IN YOUR BRAIN WORK TO BLOCK OUT SEXUAL FEELINGS WHEN THE ABOBE IS GOING ON. FINALLY IF YOU THINK NO TO EVERYTHING UP THERE YOU MIGHT HAVE A LOW LIBIDO WICH MEANS THAT YOU CAN SOMETHING THAT CAN BE FIXES WRONG GO TO THIS WEB SITE IT GIVE YOU ADVISE WHY IT IS HAPPENING AND NATURAL WAYS TO INCREASE UR SEX DRIVE
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actually i haven't either
should i start to wonder also?
and to answer your other question
well you just did ((( lure me over here )))
to the * womans health huh *
I found that kind of funny ........ thanks
for da laugh .........
im in the same position as you and after 27 years with the same man as well , thing is i cant even do it myself even with vibs etc etc
as for being a lesbian only you know the answer to that and it has nothing to do with being able to orgasm or not
You may not be comfortable enough with your sex partner.
As for being a lesbian, that is more of an issue of attraction.. do you dream of men or women? witch one smells better you you intimately? Who do you look at more in public places? ask your self these questions and you will know the answer
unless u r attracted to women, u r not a lesbian and u r not the only one, orgasms don't come easy for us women, alot of men tend to think of themselves or some r just to quick. I have had a few but I have had none more.
If either you or he has not discovered the magic of your CLITORIS, you're probably never going to have an orgasm. Most women (roughly 80% or better) NEVER have an orgasm through straight vaginal sex.
It's just a fact of life that the vagina is NOT filled with a bunch of nerve endings; the clitoris on the other hand has as many nerve endings in that tiny little bump as a man has in the ENTIRE head of his penis.
So if you want to come, then learn to masturbate. Or have sex in positions where your clitoris is getting a LOT of stimulation from his pelvis during thrusting.
Oh, and if you have no desire to have sex with another woman, then the lesbian thing is a moot issue. And even if you WERE a lesbian, what difference would it make? Even lesbians can have orgasms with men ... IF their clitoris is manipulated!
don't know like to try