Do me and my sexual partner need to use both condoms and birth control?!
Question: My partner and I have been in a monogamous relationship for the past 3 years and neither of us have had sex with anyone else and we both know we have no STDs. She is on birth control, but she insists on using a condom as well because she is VERY afraid of getting pregnant. My question is, do we really need the condom? It makes the sex less enjoyable for me, but I respect her choices and am not sure what to do about this.
Answers: My partner and I have been in a monogamous relationship for the past 3 years and neither of us have had sex with anyone else and we both know we have no STDs. She is on birth control, but she insists on using a condom as well because she is VERY afraid of getting pregnant. My question is, do we really need the condom? It makes the sex less enjoyable for me, but I respect her choices and am not sure what to do about this.
The link below is a table of birth control effectiveness rates. If you notice, the effectiveness of the pill alone is about 92%, meaning 8/100 women using it as their only form of contraceptive will get pregnant within a year. Now, if your partner is 100% perfect on taking the pill, then the pregnancy rate is more like 1/100. But let's say she's typical. By incorporating condoms into your sex lives, you lower the chances of pregnancy to about 1%. So it's definitely helping.
All couples need to come to a mutually satisfactory decision about how to control their fertility. There are certainly other options you could investigate that are less prone to user error and would allow you to go blithely bareback, but the mix of condoms + pills is very nice for a lot of couples since it's really effective and highly reversible. Have a friendly chat and see if you can't come to a mutually satisfactory conclusion
In the mean time, try polyurethane condoms (Avanti). They're just as effective but many guys find that they improve sensation.
as long as she doesnt miss a pill you dont nessecerily need a condom.
but if she is afraid of getting pregnant you should respect her wishes to use a condom or she will be nervous and wont enjoy sex with you, therefore it wont feel as nice for you because you will know she is uneasy about it.
its better just to use a condom as well as a pill because neither are 100% effective.
Probably be safest to avoid pregnancy or anything else, better to be safe than sorry.====
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No, you dont "need" the condom, but do you trust her to take her pills consistantly everyday? If not I hope you are ready to support a child.
I think having a backup (condom) is great. She may forget or run out to take her pills, so just to be safe wear the condom.
if she takes the pill within the time limit every day then there is a very slim chance of her falling pregnant...
maybe she isnt quite at ease about STD's, you could book a full screening at a clinic to put her mind at rest... read up about the pill on the internet and find out the probability of her becoming pregnant... shed feel so much better.
the only thing i can think of that is a risk with the pill is if she vomitted, the pill sometimes hasnt taken affect so if you threw it back up then there may be a risk,
good luck!
there are gels out there that will make it more comfy for you. and yes always keep that condom in use for extra safety for the both of you.
I say that if she doesn't feel right about not having a condom then don't do it. But me talking from experience, i've been on birth control for a year and half now and i havent had no pregnancies. That is the point of taking birth control. Only 1 out of 1000 women may get pregnant because of that 1% possibilities. I think that she'll be fine. As long as she has been taking the pill for more than a month she'll be good. No worries
if she is on the pill you don't need a CONDOM.
If you are married, then you may not have to use condoms and birth control pills. If you are NOT married, then you need to continue using both. There is no such thing as a committed relationship outside of marriage. If you marry, she may not worry so much about getting pregnant. What is your holdout? I would worry, too, if someone says they are committed but after three years have not committed to, "till death do us part".
As long she doesn't miss a pills. That is most important having a birth control. You should wear a condom if she doesn't want get a pregnancy. Just make sure she got everything is safe.
yes yes and yes see condoms are like 84% effective and birth control pills are 99% effective so if u use both you can be double sure she wont get pregnant just in case she misses a pill or anything like that
It is nice to have the double layer of protection against pregnancy. If she is that nervous about it, you should just keep using them to ease her fears.