Are there any ways to prepare for the physical aspect of sex?!


Question: I am prepared mentally and emotionally. My boyfriend and I are in love and it's amazing!

The thing is, is I am a virgin and I am rather petite. My boyfriend is ...pretty tall and, er, big. I'm not really worried that it will be bad (although most first time stories are), I just would rather increase my odds of it being amazing.

What do you recommend I do before we "do the deed" to avoid or lessen pain? Should I take some ibuprofen before? Will anything help?


Answers: I am prepared mentally and emotionally. My boyfriend and I are in love and it's amazing!

The thing is, is I am a virgin and I am rather petite. My boyfriend is ...pretty tall and, er, big. I'm not really worried that it will be bad (although most first time stories are), I just would rather increase my odds of it being amazing.

What do you recommend I do before we "do the deed" to avoid or lessen pain? Should I take some ibuprofen before? Will anything help?

go and but some of the male trojan "extended pleasure codoms ad turn a couple inside out and rub your "lady parts" those spesific comdoms have a numbing agent that is safe for sex that is why they work for males. BUT IT MUST BE THOSE KIND NOT REG. ONES. it will help you get over that first inital shock the part that hurts. hope it helps and please get back to me and let me know if it helped. good luck

its all natural do not worry at all. if there is one thing that everyone knows how to do it is having sex! just stop thinking about it and just do it or you will worry too much. hope this helps have fun...

Your first time will be awkward and a little scary, period. As for making it better, make sure there's a lot of foreplay and that you're fully aroused before he tries to put it in. Also, you could try having him finger you before to break the hymen if it hasn't already been broken by a tampon, fall, etc. Good luck and remember that an orgasm is nice, but your end goal should be to feel connected and in love while you're having sex.

The best way to prepare is to relax and ensure that both of you have an opportunity to relax and enjoy is it for what it is without getting influenced by the 'experience'. Forget what your friends or anyone else has said about the first time. The first is a big deal but relax and enjoy it..... After practice makes one perfect or at least bring you close... Enjoy. The pleasure is in the pain!

If you're worried it might hurt then go ahead and take a couple. The best way to prevent pain is to be relaxed and turned on. Lots of kissing and foreplay. Make a whole night of it, cook dinner and watch a movie and just let things naturally progress. Don't think, just let it happen. Humans have been having sex for thousands of years, you'd be surprised how much of sex is just instinctual, just let yourself be in the moment and feel everything. Having some good lube on hand (like KY) just in case. Have him finger you for so you'll get used to having something in your vagina and help strech your hymen a little, if you still have it.

And as far as the horror first time stories go, don't worry about it. I heard the exact same thing and I was so worried that night! But, like you, I was (and still am!) madly in love with my boyfriend (now husband) and I knew I was ready and I wanted to do it. I still had my hymen and all I felt was a little burning sensation, that's it. I did bleed a little, so don't freak out if that happens, it's normal. But believe me once you get started, you'll forget about everything but you and him, nothing else will matter. Despite what you may believe or hear, don't drink alcohol. It may relax you, but it will also dull your senses and it won't be as good as it can be. Trust me, I had completely sober sex and it's great. The only way to go.

Don't worry about the size difference either. My husband is 8 inches and about 70 lbs heavier than me (all muscle, he's a firefighter...yeah baby! LOL) and is quite large in that *ahem* area and it never hurt to have sex, not even the first time.
I look like a midget compared to him. Like I said before, it's 95% mental. Try to relax and just let it happen, this is pretty much the only time where too much thinking and planning will do more harm than good. You'll worry and that will make you tense and cause pain you wouldn't have had otherwise. Light candles, play soft music, rose petals, massage, etc...Whatever makes you more comfortable and relaxed. It will be amazing! Good luck and make sure to use a condom or the pill or some form of BC!

Don't be scared.
It can be uncomfortable the first time. That said it still feels good just strange. The best thing to do is be relaxed and hydrated. The more turned on you are the less pain you'll have. If you are really concerned get some type of lube. The best advice any one can give is to let it come naturally. don't plan a night and say this is the night the pressure will kill you. You'll know when the moment is right kiss him and lead him to the bed and enjoy.

I would get some ky jelly and use my fingers to gently stretch my vagina. This skin is very stretchy, but if you stretch it too much it hurts, which is what happens the first time. When it's time have your boyfriend explore your vagina and surroundings close to the vagina. Help him find your clitoris and stimulate that. The majority of women cannot orgasm just with intercourse, so he needs to be familiar with what makes your body work anyway, every woman is different. So have him stretch you a bit, and then explore and try to get you as close to an orgasm as possible. Keep doing this until you just can't stand it, and it's your decision to have intercourse. You should be soaked so no lube needed. Please remember, no matter how good it feels, take the time to put his rubber on for him, that can be fun in itself. I'm an old lady, 50, but if I can do anything more, email me at msspelled@hotmail.com. I hope this helps.
peace

If you are asking questions like this then you are not ready for sex. If you were truely ready then the pain wouldn't worry you at all. Most people's first time are not mind blowing as the movies make you believe. it takes a few time before that happens.

Asking questions like this is a sign perhaps you should wait a while

finger yourself a bunch and stick a carrot or something up there.





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