Why does having sex feel good to everyone else but weird, slightly painful, & un!
Question: I don't like the feeling of something being inside of me (whether it be a penis or a finger). & then I freak out & feel like I'm gonna die because it feels SO weird that I cant handle it. Do you think it might be my antidepressants causing me to physically feel this way, & my sexually repressive (judgmental & biased) family make me feel psychologically this way? I always feel guilty & filthy after sex, & I worry, hoping I'm not pregnant or that I don't have an STD, even though I use a condom every time. I'm 24, & people didn't oppose my twin for having 3 kids, but they think I'm mentally incompetent & crazy & don't have the mentality to raise a child. I have a college degree. She doesn't. They think she has more COMMON sense than I do. I wonder if my family's repression triggered off my OCD unwanted, intrusive, & graphic sexual thoughts. I hear all the time how people say how GREAT sex is. Including my friend. I haven't had sex in 10 1/2 months. I was raped in my early adulthood, too.
Answers: I don't like the feeling of something being inside of me (whether it be a penis or a finger). & then I freak out & feel like I'm gonna die because it feels SO weird that I cant handle it. Do you think it might be my antidepressants causing me to physically feel this way, & my sexually repressive (judgmental & biased) family make me feel psychologically this way? I always feel guilty & filthy after sex, & I worry, hoping I'm not pregnant or that I don't have an STD, even though I use a condom every time. I'm 24, & people didn't oppose my twin for having 3 kids, but they think I'm mentally incompetent & crazy & don't have the mentality to raise a child. I have a college degree. She doesn't. They think she has more COMMON sense than I do. I wonder if my family's repression triggered off my OCD unwanted, intrusive, & graphic sexual thoughts. I hear all the time how people say how GREAT sex is. Including my friend. I haven't had sex in 10 1/2 months. I was raped in my early adulthood, too.
It is most likely because of what happened in early adulthood. I was married for six months when the same thing happened to me. (not from my husband) After that it felt very intrusive, and I found it hard to give him attention in bed. It was hard and scary, but I talked to someone about it and it has helped. Only go as far as you want to. You also need loving support from friends and family and if you don't have that where you are you should look for more supportive friends. Best of luck hang in there girl!
well if you were raped thats maybe the reason why you dont like sex, you should talk to a doctor
It sounds to me like the reason you don't like it is psychological. You should see a counselor, they may be able to help you. Just make sure you find one you are comfotable with, as a lot of people don't like discussing sex.
well being raped made sex a terrible act not a loving one you need to go see a counselor so you can enjoy sex again. sex is a violation to you and that is so normal. i feel for you and my reaction would be the same. however sex is great and you deserve to have that.
I'm so sorry that you are having trouble. Being raped can have long-term consequences, particularly regarding sex. Seeking the help of a therapist who specializes in treating rape victims will probably help. There's nothing wrong with getting a little help when you need it.
You've had some very traumatic experiences and some unhelpful family input, so it's quite understandable to be not too keen on sex. Also, anti-depressants can cause a low sex drive.
I'd suggest talking to a therapist/psychologist type. It can be really helpful to talk to someone that can offer good advice and help you get to grips and understand where these thoughts come from, and more importantly help you move forward. and achieve what you want.
Good luck.
Please get some help to sort out your feelings about your past before you undertake a sexual relationship that you are emotionally\ psychologically not ready for. Find an expert to talk to, one you can trust and ask them to help you "get things sorted out"
Good luck
Well, the truth is that sex is really wonderful.
As you have had such a terrible experience, I suggest that you go to a good counsellor and discuss your problem with him. He will definitely be able to guide you out of this.
Best of luck !!!
because some people are different so that means most people is going to say that sex feel good are it doesn't