Pull out method debate, please read ALL the facts.?!
Question: It is proven that the "pull out" method is NOT a reliable form of birth control as 25% of those who use it for a year will become pregnant sometime in that year.
But what if one of the people using it has a very low chance of ever conceiving, doctor certified, And due to the circumstances surrounding these chances the woman is unable to use birth control as it may be too much of a hazard to her, while the man is unable to use condoms as he has low sensitivity. (meaning sex hold no pleasure for him with them and they are looking for another option that doesn't include a diaphram.....long story) also she is not eligable for an IUD
Is this a reliable form in this instance?
Please note that this is an engaged to be wed couple and have both been tested, they just don't want kids yet. Long list of limits i know and i'm at a loss....any suggestions for them?
Answers: It is proven that the "pull out" method is NOT a reliable form of birth control as 25% of those who use it for a year will become pregnant sometime in that year.
But what if one of the people using it has a very low chance of ever conceiving, doctor certified, And due to the circumstances surrounding these chances the woman is unable to use birth control as it may be too much of a hazard to her, while the man is unable to use condoms as he has low sensitivity. (meaning sex hold no pleasure for him with them and they are looking for another option that doesn't include a diaphram.....long story) also she is not eligable for an IUD
Is this a reliable form in this instance?
Please note that this is an engaged to be wed couple and have both been tested, they just don't want kids yet. Long list of limits i know and i'm at a loss....any suggestions for them?
According to Planned Parenthood, withdrawal is 73% effective with typical use and 96% effective with perfect use--that makes it about the same as other barrier methods. So even if they were medical professionals, they didn't give you the whole story.
Preejaculatory fluid does not contain sperm. Preejaculatory fluid is produced in the Cowper's gland while semen comes from the testicles. Secretions from the Cowper's gland do not contain sperm and therefore cannot cause pregnancy. However, it can pick up sperm left over from previous ejaculations, especially if the man has not urinated since the last time he came.
One option to make withdrawal more effective might be to combine it with spermicide and/or fertility awareness.
i guess its up to the couple if they want to take that risk.
but i know that the pull out method is very not good.
thats how i got pregnant the first time.
but if you two, or whoever the two are willing to take the risk, then sure, use the pull out method, especially if thats the only way to get pleasure for the guy, and that is the only thing you can do.
If the man does it highly effectively. My boyfriend and I used the method for over a year and I never got pregnant. We could've just gotten lucky, too though. Bottom line though, it's all a matter of if you really know how to do it or not.
It wasn't possible for me to use any birth control that involved hormonal change too. It drove me absolutely nuts! The bf got used to having no condom on too, so I googled online to find a condom that feels like it's not there. They actually narrowed it down to the top brands and lines of condoms that feel the best. http://www.condomdepot.com/reviews/best-...
I bought 500 "Crown Skinless" condoms from them.. for extremely cheap too. They really are thin as If skin. Maybe he should try one of those first. There are also other forms of birth control, too. Tell them to go to Planned Parenthood and they'll work with you, even give you a free sample to try out first.
If not, it's good they're engaged and disease-free. The pull-out method is still quite effective if it's done correctly (I read 70-75% somewhere). I guess the question is, do they really want to risk it? If they have no other choice, know they want children sooner or later, and for sure are getting married, then I bet I'd do it too. They need to ask themselves "what if.." though.
The man just has to be extremely sure he knows exactly how to do it. My boyfriend can feel even when he pre-ejaculates, so if the your friend's bf is able to as well, they should be okay. Just check often by squeezing the tip of the penis to see if any fluids are coming out in between sexual intercourse and he'll get a feel of whether they need to stop or not.
The pull out method is 80% effective. Compare that to condoms 90% and birth control 98%, it's not really that far off.
I don't know where you got the idea that 25% of people who "pull out" get pregnant in a year. The rate for people TRYING to get pregnant is on ly 85%...
Basically you know the risks on sex without contraception...one other method of natural family planning is the rythm method, again it's not fool proof...but if your periods are regular it may work for you.
Do a little research and see if you think it iwll work for you
Ha! Liquor in the front, Poker in the rear!
Seriously, the best place to find an good answer for that is your doctor. there are so many different types of birth control. something has got to work. How about a patch, or gator clamp vasectomy (it's reversible), or depo shots, implants, pills, there's only one way to not conceive abstinence. The "try your luck" method is very iffy. and i would bet that the percentages would be higher than 25.
Pull out method really doesn't work! Even with a "doctor certified" low chance of conceiving it is still possible to get pregnant that way. There are woment who get pregnant just by having a man ejaculate close or around their vaginal area. I mean, if the girl really cannot have any other form of birth control, aside from talking to their doctor asking for any other way, there really is no other way to get around having the guy use a condom.
And if the guy refuses to use a condom...I guess someone is sleeping on the couch till they want a baby...lol, just kidding. However, there is a method I really don't recommend since there are risks associated with this...People have been nothicing as early as the 1800's when men were being hung that they do aroused...meaning they have an erection...and some might even ejaculate...so now some kinkier couples would do a little love strangle to highten the man's sexual arousal and sensitivity...dangerous, but I guess that's why it works...
They could just "service" each other orally...but even that gets boring for a girls after awhile (and I doubt the guy would ever hate it...) So maybe suggest they to role play to enhance the feelings, have her dominate...maybe he'll like that...
Also, a vasectomy is a pretty good idea. I mean, a vasectomy is totally reversible and much less invasive then tubal ligation (getting your tubes tied) and it hurt less! So ask to see if they are open to the idea!
Good luck to finding a solution to your friends!
I did it for many years and enjoyed it with no problem. The man must have good control and know when to pull out.
I was thinking they could use the Withdrawal method and combine it with the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM).
FAM is quite a bit of work and planning but for someone who has limited options it would be worth it for sure.
I will include a link but basically its done by
1) Putting your cycle onto a calender
2) Monitoring of the cervical mucus
3) Basal Body Temperature
4) The feel/position of your cervix
5) You can also buy a test kit (similar to a pregnancy test) which tells you if your ovulating or not. It works using your saliva.
All the above work by helping you to know when your fertile and when your not. In their case they could use it to work out when not to have sex. But it can also be used to find out to have sex if your trying to get pregnant.
Its alot of work but if I was in their position (especially being in a stable committed relationship) this is definately what I would do. They could either avoid sex during the fertile times or the man can just put up with it for a bit and use condoms.
I dont think many doctors would suggest this as a form of birth control because its so easy to muck up and make a mistake but considering there situation they should talk to their doctor and Im sure they would help them to put it into practice
Good luck :)