Recently raped..? (really awkward question...don't laugh)?!
Question: so...my boyfriend and i were hanging out in his room...and we were hanging out...and i was laying on his bed. well he wanted me to try something new, and since i was a virgin i didn't know what to expect. so he puts his penis in...only, it didn't go all the way in...it went kind of semi in....i don't know. anyways. he didn't have a condom. and i told him NO and to STOP IT and he didn't listen, so i shoved him off and got dressed and left...the 3 questions are, am i still a virgin because my cherry isn't popped? is that considered rape if i told him constantly not to do it and he did anyways? and (hopefully not) is it possible that i could be pregnant or get some STD (he had sex with his last girlfriend)?
note: this happened on january 27th
please no rude comments =/
Answers: so...my boyfriend and i were hanging out in his room...and we were hanging out...and i was laying on his bed. well he wanted me to try something new, and since i was a virgin i didn't know what to expect. so he puts his penis in...only, it didn't go all the way in...it went kind of semi in....i don't know. anyways. he didn't have a condom. and i told him NO and to STOP IT and he didn't listen, so i shoved him off and got dressed and left...the 3 questions are, am i still a virgin because my cherry isn't popped? is that considered rape if i told him constantly not to do it and he did anyways? and (hopefully not) is it possible that i could be pregnant or get some STD (he had sex with his last girlfriend)?
note: this happened on january 27th
please no rude comments =/
firstly good for you for saying no. i had these questions going around my head and this is what my friends said to me, and it put me at ease about it....
1) as he didnt go all the way inside you are still a virgin, esp under the circumstances that you werent ready, said no... it'll make you feel better in the longterm to say you are, trust me.
2) if you are worried about stds, i would see a doctor, or if you dont want to and you live in the UK, the website RUclear.com is a good place to start, as they do annonymous tests that are quick and your results are sent via SMS to you. or you could visit a sti/brook clinic.
3) chances of you being pregnant are Very slim especially if he hasnt come inside you. aslong as you werent wet down there from his precum then you should be safe. many people told me and my friends that it could lead to pregnancy, but the chances are under 10% so i shouldnt worry about it.
4) under the law, if a person does not consent to a sexual act and it carried out against their will it is classed as rape. i think in this case it would probably just be classed as a very hormonal and eager BOY who thinks he knows what you want and getting it very wrong. it depends whether you would want to get him in trouble for it, and whether you tried to fight him off or just let him carry on......
its all the help i can offer you sweetie, just hope it helps!
you told him no and stop. he should have listened and didn't and forced it in - he raped you - you can call the police and be assured that he did something very wrong and should be held accountable. no, you are not a virgin. you could get an std. you could get pregnant, but it probably wasn't enough of an experience to get to that point. also, don't shower or bath until you report it - they will need DNA - even though there doesn't seem like there would be any, they can find some.
It is rape if you said no. You may of gotten an std and its unlikely that you are pregnant. I feel the virgin thing may be opinion.
Yeah, if you said no.. it would be rape. There always might be a chance with the std and pregnancy thing. And if you are a virgin.. probably not. =(. But in your mind you still should be, and don't feel that you need to go out and have sex now. I hope everything works out for you.
First thing is that you were there with your own willingness. He took advantage. Virginity is not the issue these days. It is one's own belief depending upon one's background and culture. As far as getting pregnent is concerned, there are 50 : 50 chances. Wait for some days and if you get periods it is o.k. and forget about the incident.
Yes, yes and No wait i mean No, No and Yes Wait No to the second question and yes to the 3rd but No to the one before it.
well if you agreed its not rape..but a situation you took charghe of! good for you..well no your not really a virgin..anymore sorry..well 5 days before your period take a test ...well if you agreed at first its not rape but it got to the point where you felt uncomfortable..and said no..so its kinda rape..well i hope all goes good with you sweetie
tell your parents to take u to the hospital. they have people who specialize in rape cases who can out ur guy in jail without u even having to tell the cops. if there was disturbance to your parts and u had no concent, he can do time
If you consented at first and he put it in, and then after you found out what he wanted to do and said no and stop...whether he listened to you or not...if his penis did not make re-entry after you said no, it was not rape.
It sounds to me like you'd have consented if you'd have had a condom...which yet again, would say it wasn't rape.
As for virginity...medically, you are.
As for "spiritually"...that depends on the person...my opinion would be yes, you're still a virgin, but you get some hard core Christians out there that would say "a penis entered...you're not a virgin"...
hon these behaviors happen to young ladies and more older ladies all the time, very common,, now listen to me,,, keep all your feelings safe at home, i would say not here,, and go talk to mom, your mom now about his behavior,, trust me mom will know what to do and very much understand and love u
hmmmmmmm....... nothing is gonna happen. virginity is not only a physical phenomenon. its mental phenomenon also. so need not worry abt the virginity. u said no; he did it. so is it rape? not at all. . no possibility of std. but b4 bein physical ask urself is he worth of it? do u love him truly? den decide. . .
any un-consensual sex IS rape! You could very well have an STD so go and get checked by you GP.... it is unlikely you are pregnant. Still being a virgin is a matter of opinion.
Please do yourself a favor and report him to the police, also i know it sounds gross but don't shower or bath until you have reported it, the police will most likely want DNA samples!
yea i agree with the first one but im letting u know im praying for u and wish u luck
You have been very unfortunate particularly in your choice of boyfriend. Technically you are not a virgin but it is a very fine point - it was not totally consensual, but you apparently had your clothes off, which was not a good idea if you wanted to avoid sexual intercourse. I don't think it would be a good idea to proceed with any action against him as I don't feel you have enough evidence that he took advantage of you - you have to realise that if it went to court they would be very tough on you. Get yourself checked out by your doctor, and chalk it off to experience - in future, be careful what situations you put yourself into and do not get undressed in a private room with a young man unless you want to have sex. People are telling you to report him etc etc but you have no idea what it would be like in court trying to prove that he raped you.
I am sorry. You said not to laugh but you know how tickle me elmo falls on the floor laughing ? Yeah well thats how I am right now. HE didnt rape you. You said you pushed him off. You also said he didnt go all the way in. You can't really get an std because most arent just rom skin to skin contact. He would have to ejaculate or you to be able to get the others. You are still a virgin because like you said your cherry wasn't popped. HOw long did he do it for 10 seconds ?
You are no longer a virgin.
Yes, it sounds like rape, but it will be hard to prove.
If you took a shower there will no longer be any evidence so you accusation will only result in embarrisment for both of you and NO legal action.
Oh, and yes you could be pg.