Help with my period and my boyfriend?!
Question: I'm 18 and have had my period for 5 years, so that's not the issue. The issue is that i'm now in my first serious relationship and do not know how to bring up with my boyfriend the fact that I am on my period.
We are not having sex, but we close to it, therefore he always comes into contact down in that area. In the 3 months we've been together I was away during one of my periods and he was sick during the other, so it wasn't an issue.
How, when I have my period, do I tell him that he can't go downstairs, without making it awkward and him uncomfortable??
Thankyou :)
Answers: I'm 18 and have had my period for 5 years, so that's not the issue. The issue is that i'm now in my first serious relationship and do not know how to bring up with my boyfriend the fact that I am on my period.
We are not having sex, but we close to it, therefore he always comes into contact down in that area. In the 3 months we've been together I was away during one of my periods and he was sick during the other, so it wasn't an issue.
How, when I have my period, do I tell him that he can't go downstairs, without making it awkward and him uncomfortable??
Thankyou :)
Well, before I say anything, don't pay any attention to the first post. It's extremely offensive, degrading, and misleading, saying "on the rag". It's called a menstrual period, so call it that. "Rag" makes it sound dirty; it's not.
If you're "getting into a serious relationship", you trust each other, no? You should love each other (or at least be close to it..) and if he really loves you and isn't just with you for your body, then he won't mind, and he'll try to help you while you're on it.
Tell him you're sorry, and if he gets upset about it or doesn't forgive you or something, don't stay with him. You can't control your period, and it's a natural, normal cycle, if he blames you for that, he's not worth it! If anything, he should be telling you NOT to be sorry.
just tell him straight up that you are on your rag. He should be mature about it and understand. It's not a big deal, don't worry :)
Just tell him he will understand believe me. Just say you have your monthly visitor.
Its natural. Just tell him whats up when it comes around.
Honestly...I would just blurt it out. If you're ashamed you can always call it something 'not so blunt'. "Well, looks like plans have changed. I started my monthly girl thing." He's not a baby. I'm sure he's well aware of what happens to women's bodies, so I don't think he'll have NEARLY the problem with it that you expect.
Just shake your head, gently move his hand back up and say no. He should figure it out.
He's not a child, right???? THEY KNOW ABOUT OUR PERIODS -- just speak up about it......tell him you have cramps or something. This is not a young teenager, right??? I HOPE NOT...
strange, i guess some guys are grossed out about it, but the mature ones, shouldn't mind. it's nature taking its course, afterall. my boyfriend doesn't mind. in fact, we've had sex when i was on my period numerous times and it wasn't that bad. if he loves you, he shouldn't care.
just tell him ur on it....be like "im on my period" its blunt enough that he'll get the point...i dont get why guys get soo grossed out about it...its a natural thing...but dont say im raggin or its the time of the month...just be honest and blunt =]
just be honest and upfront. there should be no reason to be embarassed, awkward, uncomfortable or anything for you guyz. it is a natural thing.
also, if either of you feel uncomfortable with talking about a period or saying that you are on yours, you probably are not ready for sexual relations, sex or otherwise.
tell him : " it;s that time of the month" he''ll get it!!! and won't bother you for the rest of the night...simple
stick som tampons up there
Just tell him it's THAT time of the month. He will understand.
well normally I just say no
u cant do that know and he knows what I am talking
about.
or u can say its that time a month where u really just cant tuch me.
If he cares then he will understand.
yes..telling the truth is the only thing you could do.. just tell him that I have a bloody day..I know he will gets it!
A good way to tell him is that "Its not a good time" or "Not the right time."
natural consequences.. just let him figure it out for himself..
there is now birth control that can completly eliminate your period
You are in a "serious relationship" with him and are close to sex but you are not comfortable enough with him to tell him you have your period?
Just tell him straight out!
Go right ahead and tell him that you feel a little uncomfortable by him touching you right now when you have your period.
Also... I wouldn't call a 3 month relationship "serious" but just answering your questions I would suggest you tell him right at front.
I totally know what you're talking about, I've been with my bf for almost a year and I've just gotten sort of used to telling him about it. When you guys are messing around and it comes up, just tell him that you're pretty sure you don't want him to go down there..... Or if you can, just sort of mention it in conversation like, "Oh I couldn't do such and such because I'm on my period...." and just keep talking, make sure he registers it and see what his reaction is. Then next time you can be more blunt about it.
You're both almost adults now...I would think you can talk to him about adult matters. I'm sure if you just mention that you're having your period, that will be enough to give him the hint that "down there" is off limits for a week. If he's unfamiliar with the female menstrual cycle, then maybe you should educate him on the birds and the bees.
I hope you plan on using condoms when you finally do have sex.
Take care!
tell him that your on it if you guys are both in a good relation he should understand. Try using the pill and protection. The pill should reduce the fact how long your period lasts. Protection should keep you fon having any little unwanted incedents. Dont let your period interuped your sexlife. Hope this helps.
Tell him when you're out doing something else. Before you guys start messing around.
It shouldn't be awkward. Like everyone else said, he should be mature enough to handle it. It's normal. I think most guys actually handle it very well.
there's no problem with that. just tell him straight that you have period. and it's better that he knows your cycle...