Female Sex Problems, not lubricating, sort of painful.?!
Question: Hello!
I know this sounds really gross/weird/...etc.
I haven't had sex for about a month and a half because I have been away from my partner. Three days ago we started having sex again. .. at first I was so happy to see him that my mind was racing and my body didn't seem too involved. I wasn't too worried.
But since then we've had sex a few times and each time, even though I'm very turned on and think that I should be ready... I'm "not". as in there's no natural "lube".
then we used the durex play stuff, and even though it really helped, I kept feeling this pain. it is situated at the bottom of the vagina, on the outer skin, like it had been stretched?
I wonder if it's an emotional thing? ... or if it could be physical?
Does anyone know what may be wrong? and have any ideas of how to help me out?
Help would be much appreciated!
thank you !!
have a wonderful day!
Answers: Hello!
I know this sounds really gross/weird/...etc.
I haven't had sex for about a month and a half because I have been away from my partner. Three days ago we started having sex again. .. at first I was so happy to see him that my mind was racing and my body didn't seem too involved. I wasn't too worried.
But since then we've had sex a few times and each time, even though I'm very turned on and think that I should be ready... I'm "not". as in there's no natural "lube".
then we used the durex play stuff, and even though it really helped, I kept feeling this pain. it is situated at the bottom of the vagina, on the outer skin, like it had been stretched?
I wonder if it's an emotional thing? ... or if it could be physical?
Does anyone know what may be wrong? and have any ideas of how to help me out?
Help would be much appreciated!
thank you !!
have a wonderful day!
The pain could be soreness from when there wasn't enough lube.
Just keep using lube - I like KY. They don't have all of those commercials and sell it in large bottles because we all stay hot and wet all of the time. :)
Don't base the amount of lube you are producing on how much you want your partner. That's all t.v. and porn that would have you believe women are dripping wet every time they have sex. It isn't always like that.
it might be that since u havent had it for a while ur body just needs to get used to it again
go to the doctor, you may be having an abnormalty that you may not be aware of.
u might want to get it checked by a doc. just to be safe
do you have enough foreplay? I guess if you are experiencing pain the best thing to do would be to a schedule an appointment with youy gyno ASAP!
well I have the same problem, I actually went to my doctor to ask her why it hurt! She said sometimes It could be that your partner may be a little too large for your size down there and sometimes if you dont relax it makes it harder and painful!! Just relax. Do a little foreplay, that'll help with the lubrication part!
you may want to get your hormone levels checked
I'm the same way. I can't have sex now without in type of lubrication or my mind is stimulated with herbs. It even got to the point where the four play drys me out. I kinda of figure it was him, but I don't know. Weird.
KY Jelly is best for what you are describing.Try it and see if it help,if it does not than I suggest asking a obgyn.
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mary s and nite angelica have it right. it is the combination of the two. dont worry, youll get back to normal. goodluck.