Period problem plz help me im 12!!?!
Question: Okay i live with my dad and i had my period last year and i havent told him yet..u could imagine how embarrsing that is.ive been using toilet paper to subsitute for pad ;( its gross ...how can i tell him
Answers: Okay i live with my dad and i had my period last year and i havent told him yet..u could imagine how embarrsing that is.ive been using toilet paper to subsitute for pad ;( its gross ...how can i tell him
When you have something that is difficult or embarassing to say to a parent, it is usually easier to tell them by writing it down, so I would suggest writing your dad a note telling him that you have gotten your period and need him to buy you some pads.
You do not need to go into detail about when your period started, and you do not need to tell him that you have been using toilet paper.
Your goal is simply to communicate your current health status (you now get your period) and your current needs (you now need him to purchase pads - or he needs to drive you to the store and give you money to purchase them yourself).
Most girls are really afraid/embarassed to talk to their fathers about periods or sex, but the majority of fathers are not afriad and embarassed to answer their daughters questions... fathers just don't know how to start the conversation, but they have no problems having the actually conversation -- which is why writing a note to get the conversation started is usually the best way.
So if you are afraid/nervous/embarassed to talk to your father, break the ice and start the conversation by writing a note to communicate the facts - you started your period, and you need pads. Maybe your dad will use the opportunity to have a conversation with you, maybe he will just go and buy pads.
If your father is reluctant to talk to you and you ever NEED to talk to someone about any issues, remember that the counselor at school can be a good person to talk to, and also the school nurse can be a good person to talk to. Also, do you have any aunts or other adult females in your family? You could reach out to them if you ever need to talk about female issues or if you have any questions.
Finally, you might want to suggest to your father that you join the Big Brothers Big Sisters organization. www.bbbs.org You would get a Big Sister, a female adult mentor that you can talk to about anything, including things like periods, pads, and other female issues - but also things like school. life in general, and anything else that you want to talk about (or if there is nothing specific to talk about, you can just hang out). I had a Big Sister when I was a teenager, and having a female adult (that wasn't a family member) that I could talk to about anything and everything was wonderful and really helpful. As an adult I have been a Big Sister, and I one of my little sisters was a young teenager who lived with just her dad and needed a woman to talk to about all the female issues.
its normal...
just say it casually
and if he is a supportive dad (single parent) i'm sure he is
go go go!!!
oh sweetie!
if you really are against telling him (i would be!) go to the store by yourself or with some friends and get some pads and tampons.
wow. just be like dad, ive had my period for a year and i didn't really want to come to u but not its getting unsanitary cause really that is gross and u need other stuff...he wont care.
Just tell him.......he will understand. Or if you are really uncomfortable, just ask if you can go to the drug store and pick up some "stuff."
ask him for some pocket money and go and buy pads yourself, otherwise just say dad can you buy some pads please, that way you aren't going into detail but atleast he can guess what's going on and hopefully he won't say much. Just ask him for pads and leave it at that.
Believe it or not, your dad will understand. It is hard for a male to go to their teen daughter about it, so I am sure he is waiting for you. If you aren't comfortable, do you have any female aunts, cousins, grandparents, or older friends you can talk to? Maybe they can help you talk to him.
When you make a trip to the grocery store just casually say "Dad, I started my period so I need some pads" If your really that embarrassed, go to the school nurse and ask for some! They're always stocked. Dads had to learn about this stuff when they were young too..He has a daughter so he's expecting it anyway...
ok just say: "dad i started my period. can you go to the store for me?"
trust me he wont care, he'll go to the store for you..or you can just buy them yourself.
good luck.
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Awww poor you!!
I'd hate to tell my dad too, but sometimes you gotta do what you don't want to.
Have you got a female relative who can tell him for u
You need proper pads n stuff because thats unfair on you
I had probs telling my mum for like a month and I started crying and she was like whats up? and started reeling off all stuff and i just nodded when she said period?
im sure your dad will be fine with it
good luck
Sweetie... you just tell him you need to go the drug store for some girl stuff. If he doesn't quite get that, you will just have to come out and tell him. You are grown up and I am sure he will totally understand. It will be uneasy at first but remember, he was with your mom and she was a girl. So, he knows what it is all about. It's part of life. Best of luck.
oh honey! you need to tell him say something like you know the friend that mom is supposed to tell me about well it's here. you could also try talking to a woman like an aunt or grandmother maybe an older sister or even a teacher or school councelor and see if they will talk to him. there is nothing to be embarrassed about he knows that it is supposed to happen and I'm sure he has been expecting it and dreading talking about it as much as you. plus once you tell him I think that he will explain to you that it is okay to talk to him about it. my oldest is only 4 and my husband and I have already been decussing what if he is the only one around and he said it would be know big deal all girls go through it it is a natural thing if you get embarrassed about it then it does your child no good. so I think that he will completely understand.
Go up to your dad and say "dad,i have my period and i was scared to tell you but using toilet paper is very bad so can we go to the store to buy girl stuff...
at 12 u should prob be using pads,
u will do just fine...
lol...sorry but honestly your dad will be cool. remember he lived with your mother or other women he knows all about them. i told my partner everything about them so that when we have a lil girl he will not feel uncomfortable. my big manly dad was even cool with mine when i was that age, i would tell him i need some pads and he was willing to go to the shop for me as i was too embarressed. just tell him that you started your periods and that you need somepads. as he has never had periods before ask him if he has a sister or a female friend that can take you to the shops and get you the correct ones for you. trust me hes been preparing for this since you were born. and hes probably just waitin for you to say something.