Ok, little nervous about anal sex...?!


Question: me and my bf have talked about anal sex for a while now, and at first we were considering normal sex, but i REALLY don't want to get pregnant.
we would be really careful but the chance is still out there.
any advice on that??
any way...
so we have decided to wait til i get in high school, my mom said she would put me on birth control when i get into high school.
i am 14, and so is my bf.
yes, i am aware that i am young and i am still immature, dont remind me.
but i do love him, and most people say you cant find love at such a young age, but i beg to differ, really.
i dont care about the naysayers.
and please dont tell me that i am too young and i am not ready, ive made up my mind and no one will be able to change it except for me.
and of course my bf, cause we decide on everything together.
i am just a little nervous about the anal and normal sex, i mean, who isnt there first time??
we've decided to let sex wait, but if it does just kind of happen, cause you can never plan


Answers: me and my bf have talked about anal sex for a while now, and at first we were considering normal sex, but i REALLY don't want to get pregnant.
we would be really careful but the chance is still out there.
any advice on that??
any way...
so we have decided to wait til i get in high school, my mom said she would put me on birth control when i get into high school.
i am 14, and so is my bf.
yes, i am aware that i am young and i am still immature, dont remind me.
but i do love him, and most people say you cant find love at such a young age, but i beg to differ, really.
i dont care about the naysayers.
and please dont tell me that i am too young and i am not ready, ive made up my mind and no one will be able to change it except for me.
and of course my bf, cause we decide on everything together.
i am just a little nervous about the anal and normal sex, i mean, who isnt there first time??
we've decided to let sex wait, but if it does just kind of happen, cause you can never plan

You sound like you've thought this through, and get bonus points for being aware of birth control.

To be prepared, buy and keep condoms with you. Get the ones with spermacide as extra insurance. Don't let him (or you) use any excuses to not have it on for sex, esp vaginal! Don't fall into the "I'll just put it in and take it out trick." Don't let having a condom be an excuse for having sex either...really think about it before hormones get ahold of you both. You can use spermacidal foam in you plus the condom too!

If you are considering anal sex, be aware of a few things: you'll need to use lubrication like KY Jelly, NOT vasoline or lotions!!! You'll need to put some inside you and on him. Never go from anal sex to vaginal sex without washing, you can get infections. A condom is a good idea too...prevent transmission of STDs. You have to be really relaxed and be willing to start/stop as YOU feel comfortable with. it can be unpleasant, different positions can make a big difference, sometimes only moving slightly is the key, try and you'll know. Him behind you is the best way, on your knees, head down.

Personally, I'm not a big fan of it, but I have girlfriends who love it. So to each their own!

Be safe and enjoy.

Wow, 14 and takin it in the back door already, why don't girls like you go to my school?

Have him wear a condom. You need to take the pill*. And make sure he finds the right hole.

Good luck!

*and by "the pill" I refer to the one that you're supposed to take after sex so as to kill the egg or something like that. And if anything goes wrong, I AM NOT paying for child support.

Alright, I do agree on you that love shouldn't be on a number so no matter how young you are, you can still experience it because the feeling is from your heart and that is called love! Well, I heard it hurts more than regular... but if you really want to do this, which i truly respect, then.. go ahead. No one is stopping you. Always know there is consquences. I hope everything goes well for you. :]

preety young to be doin this but my friend took through the but and she hated it supposely felt like a a ball of **** was going back through her pipes
wait at least try other things that hurt

use a comdom when you do have sex

Well, you should defiantly talk with someone like your mother or guardian to set you up with the Morning After Pill, which will ensure that you should not get pregnant. And have your mate wear a condom.. the WHOLE TIME! If you have normal sex, ask him to ejaculate outside of your vagina. Good luck, God works in mysteriously ways.

well even thou.. you cant get pregnant... some people say the sperm can actually leak out the *** and yeah you know the rest =P

i wish girls like u went to my middle school... but what i would do is wait for regular sex and then take pills ps.i kno what your going thru i had a girlfriend for 7 years and she transfered to a diffrent school ... i miss her so much and just make shure that if u forget to take the pill that hes there with me you get what im saying?

don't forget if you are going to do anal, first of all go really slowly, and second use lube.

I have heard that if you have anal sex and he goes inside of you, it could cause infection...so either way, vaginal sex or anal, have him wear a condom and pull out

I say you do oral and try it up the butt, maybe you will like it and lastly take the pill and make sure he wears a condom cause an unwanted pregnancy can be a ruined relationship cause at 14 years old he doesn't want to be a dad so he will ditch so play it smart.

Since you're so nervous about it, you should wait. That's my opinion.

But if you are going to have sex, and you're on birth control, you don't have much to worry about. When taken correctly, the pill is 99% effective.

I have heard from friends that it is extremly more painful than regular so if you can deal with pain go ahead. I learned in school that the anal muscle does not shrink back to size like vaginal muscle. I also was told that people who take it in the butt for a long time looses all control and has to wear tampons to keep their poo in their butt.

well first off.. when having anal it will hurt like a B****.. so my ideal to u if u havent done it yet is to lay on ur back legs up in the air and have him go in that way.. less painfull.. but use alot of lub... also relax.. if ur tense it will hurt a hell of a lot more

Ahhh, imagine the feeling of being constipated and having to poop. Imagine your boyfriend pulls out and his penis is covered with poop and/or you fart.

You can get plenty of diseases anally.

Put your finger in there first. See if you like it. Smell your finger. See if you like that. That's what your bf will smell like. Imagine where your bf has been when he asks you to lick him.





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