I have rape fantasies lately?!
Question: please help.. what should i do to stop this? i got raped at 11, so i know it's a horrible and disgusting thing. it's so hard for me to get over that incident. but why why why am i fantasizing about being raped lately? :(
Answers: please help.. what should i do to stop this? i got raped at 11, so i know it's a horrible and disgusting thing. it's so hard for me to get over that incident. but why why why am i fantasizing about being raped lately? :(
It has been proposed that for some who have actually been sexually abused, rape fantasy may be a way to heal past wounds by exploring in a safe environment with a sense of control. Dr. Michael J. Bader, author of Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies, writes: "It is quite common that children who were abused grow up and develop sexual fantasies loosely based on their abuse. ... The adult indulging in a fantasy of sexual surrender or abasement is actually saying to her or himself: 'I'm recreating a terrifying or traumatic scene, but this time I'm in control because I'm scripting the scene ...'" [1]
have you talk to any one about your rape ? the mind serpress imeges that are bad and supper stressful . thats y you need to talk things out it will also save you from a heart a tack . in saying that your mind is starting to remember the insident thrue these fantasies . so talk it out new & old . see a phd
i really can`t help u with ur problem but u helped me thank u really
It is just bcoz of effects of incident. You just go for religious help like reading bible and something like that. Your thought of incident gets removed from your mind
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A lot of women have fantasies about forcible or restrained sex. However, they are not really inviting or desiring abuse by doing so : they are just exploring various sexual stimuli in the safety of their own mind. It is really quite common and normal.
Even if you have been raped yourself, and it was a bad situation where you had no control or safety, you are still a human, a living, sexual being. Your fantasies are natural impulses and you are not strange or 'twisted' for having them. Your body and mind have survived a bad experience, but they are still curious and alive, like anyone else's.
Don't be too worried about your fantasies: you are in control of them, of your own sexuality and exploration. Just make sure you find the right help, respect and/or support from others whenever you wish to express or develop your sexuality.
You're totally normal and not alone.