Very odd question....?!
Question: Alright. This is going to sound stupid, but I thought I'd ask for some advise.
I'm 15. I met my boyfriend when i was 13. So that was a good 2 years ago. Now. When I was 7, My viginity was taken from me. Now that I'm a bit older and that I've met my boyfriend, we eventually had sex. I don't understand because even though he reaches climax, sometimes I can't because I'm not feeling the way he does. Sometimes i do and its wonderful but other times i cant feel it and it upsets me when i have to lie and say I did finish too. I'm thinking it might just be scarring from when I was younger. I'm also thinking, since I dont look at porn or fantisize about guys that it might just be in my head because I'm not imaginative enough. I know its not me not being interested in him anymore because trust me i am =D and i know its not because hes bad in bed because hes very good. What do you think it might be?
Answers: Alright. This is going to sound stupid, but I thought I'd ask for some advise.
I'm 15. I met my boyfriend when i was 13. So that was a good 2 years ago. Now. When I was 7, My viginity was taken from me. Now that I'm a bit older and that I've met my boyfriend, we eventually had sex. I don't understand because even though he reaches climax, sometimes I can't because I'm not feeling the way he does. Sometimes i do and its wonderful but other times i cant feel it and it upsets me when i have to lie and say I did finish too. I'm thinking it might just be scarring from when I was younger. I'm also thinking, since I dont look at porn or fantisize about guys that it might just be in my head because I'm not imaginative enough. I know its not me not being interested in him anymore because trust me i am =D and i know its not because hes bad in bed because hes very good. What do you think it might be?
There isn't a thing wrong with you. Some women never have one. It's just how women are built.
I don't climax every time either. But it's not that important to me that I have one every time, and I don't lie about it when I don't. I still enjoy myself if I don't.
Are you being responsible? Have you seen a doctor? are you on the pill? If your worried about anything regarding diseases or pregnancy, that stress will keep you from having one too.
And if you are afraid to go to the doctor, don't have sex. You are responsable for your reproductive health! You need to have an annual pap if your going to be sexually active.
It may all be in your head, judging by the fact that you have said you were able to climax once in a while.
Besides the fact that "I" think you are too young to have sex...women often have a hard time climaxing vaginally. There usually has to be clitoral stimulation for women to climax. Try pleasuring yourself without your bf around and then when you the the knack of making yourself consistently orgasm, show your bf what to do.
If you feel uncomfortable doing this...you're probably too young to be having sex.
I think you're pretty young to be good enough at sex to experience an orgasm. I started having sex at the same age, and didn't have an orgasm from sex until I was about 18. It takes some practice.
It took me a couple of years before I could Orgasm every time. At first it was like, once ever 10-20 times. The reason we hear so much about Woman faking it - is because lots of them have to!
Honey, your body isn't ready for sex. I know that you "love" your boyfriend right now but sex is not the answer. Your body is still developing and you can't force an orgasm! If you don't want to have sex when he does, don't! You should not lie about orgasm's either! If you don't reach one, don't fake it! That only keeps more lies in the relationship. Sometimes your body just doesn't want sex, therefore, you shouldn't have it at that time! Also try not having sex so much. Skip a week or two or three! After that much time sustaining from sex, your body will definitely be intrigued!
Could be many things-he goes to fast for you-we take longer to get there-you are trying to hard-your not trying hard enough-it could be position-we feel more in certain positions than in others-you may not be stimulated enough when he begins-I seriously doubt it's a major problem because sometimes you do finish.Practice makes perfect.And by all means don't lie about it tell him the truth and he will know he needs to work a little harder to get you there.
well first off you shouldn't be having sex but hey to each is own. anyway it might just be that hes not stimulating you enough im not saying hes good or bad he just might not be stimulating you the right way to get you to that point, plus we are all different so our bodies cumm at different times too. i say tell him to somehow find a way to play with your clitt while u guys u kno and maybe thatll help speed up the process.. as for the scarring i guess dont dwell on it. ( and im srry ) so like i guess just try different things and see how it goes. you could always talk to your boyfriend and let him know. but like im not really familiar with this bc im a virgin so yea. hope this helps best of luck.