How can I make first time sex not painful?!
Question: I recently tried to have sex with my boyfriend.(I am a virgin) His penis cannot go in at all, and if it goes in at all, I feel like he's sticking knives in me...the pain is unbearable. We tried all kinds of lubes, but I cannot take the pain and it won't go . What should I do? Is there any special kind of position that we can try to make it less painful and make it go in? Help!
Answers: I recently tried to have sex with my boyfriend.(I am a virgin) His penis cannot go in at all, and if it goes in at all, I feel like he's sticking knives in me...the pain is unbearable. We tried all kinds of lubes, but I cannot take the pain and it won't go . What should I do? Is there any special kind of position that we can try to make it less painful and make it go in? Help!
No you don't need to go to see a gyn like someone above said... All women have that problem during their first intercourse (except for the ones who started masturbating before their first intercourse). My first time was Terrible.. I was crying and he had to stop.
My suggestion to you is, relax, do lots of foreplay, and tell him to go in VERY slowly. Does he have experience? Tell him to go in and out very very slowly and just inserting a very small part of his penis each time. You probably won't be able to get the full penis inside during your first few tries. Let your vagina slowly adapt to having something external going into you. It needs time to stretch out. Can't rush this.
you need to relax and just let the moment happen...you're too tense
Honestly, I know people will get mad at me for saying this, but I had the same problem back when I was a teen and what helps is getting semi-drunk and doing tones of foreplay. You'll be so relaxed and naturally lubed up it will be wonderful - you'll feel a little quick pain when it first goes in, but after that, it's all good. Don't forget that you'll bleed all over the place for a while.
hmmm....im still a virgin ive been looking for a way too... i hope someone answers i need to know the answer to this question....
you say it cannot go in at all. then you say if it does, you feel a certain pain. i guess i don't understand what you mean by "cannot" -- either it can or it can't.
perhaps you've heard of the "for dummies" book series (on a wide range of topics). i noticed they have one: sex for dummies. my opinion is that sex isn't for dummies. but it ain't rocket science -- people have been figuring it out for quite a long time.
have you been to a gyn to be checked out ? some women have problems and need to get some kinda surgury to help with the problem. so i would go see a GYN if your have lots of trouble.
Also if your really nervous you can tense up so much even if you dont realize it try to relax as much as possible.
Relax and enjoy the foreplay for a while, let him insert his finger then two fingers before he penetrates using his penis.
You are too tense, simply relax, maybe rub some vaseline (petrolium jelly) down below to lubricate, the penis will go in the vagina is very elasticated! Tell your boyfriend to take it nice and slow and sucess will prevail
First, you need to make sure you are turned on. When a women is aroused she becomes looser then she normally would be, making it easier for penetration. You could have a psychological sexual disorder such as 'female arousal sexual disorder' where you cannot self lubricate. If you are still having trouble you should contact your dr. There are a ton a sexual disorders out there, for example vaginismus. This would cause your PC muscles tense up making it impossible to the penis to enter into your vaginal canal. There is also a possibility that your hymen is still in tact, this is called a microperforated hymen. It would still allow menstral blood to flow out but you woudn't be able to use a tampon. this is removed by a minor surgery. Hopefully it isn't any of those, but they can all be treated if it is!
Just relax the first time hurts the most and is the most awkwardest just try to enjoy it and get lost in the moment and always take it nice and slow.
Lots of 4play and oral sex and you'll need to relax and most of all he just needs to take his time and go slow, very slow, not to try and jam it into you.
The first time can be painful when the hymen breaks upon penetration. There can also be some blood. Not all girls bleed and not all have pain. I never bled but there was a lot of pain. How's foreplay? Does it hurt if he fingers you and tries to stretch you?
For some, the first few times might make you feel sore, as the vagina has been an unused muscle or even hurt, if you aren't properly lubricated, or if the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.
Relaxing, foreplay, (oral sex, more foreplay