Is my vagina really can stretch?!
Question: my vagina is very tight. like when i masturbate, i can only stick one finger inside.. i tried to stick two, but it cant going in and it hurts, even when i was really aroused.. i've tried sooo many times.. still cant now.. the problem is, when i gave BJ to my bf, his penis is big. and idk im just scared, what will happen if we have sex.. i think it will hurt me. i know people always say that it will stretch if im aroused,
but trust me, even when i was aroused i really couldnt stick 2 fingers there.. :( any suggestion?what should i do?
Answers: my vagina is very tight. like when i masturbate, i can only stick one finger inside.. i tried to stick two, but it cant going in and it hurts, even when i was really aroused.. i've tried sooo many times.. still cant now.. the problem is, when i gave BJ to my bf, his penis is big. and idk im just scared, what will happen if we have sex.. i think it will hurt me. i know people always say that it will stretch if im aroused,
but trust me, even when i was aroused i really couldnt stick 2 fingers there.. :( any suggestion?what should i do?
Your vagina can stretch, yes, but it will take some time to get ready for it. It sounds like your hymen just might still be intact, which can cause some pain when you insert something, even as small as a finger. I do have a step by step guide that you can take a look at if you like. This is not meant to be a green light for sex if you're not ready for it, so please take that into consideration. Make sure you're emotionally ready for sex, and that you and your partner are properly protected.
It sounds like you're on the right track, but you can take a look at this if you like.
1. Make sure you're good and relaxed. Take a warm bath, lay on your bed, put on some relaxing music, and make sure you're alone (unless you want your partner to help you).
2. Have plenty of lubrication handy, along with a penis-shaped dildo, but you won't need this right away.
3. Start by arousing yourself (or have your partner do it) by stimulating your clitoris. Having an orgasm will make this even better. You'll be more relaxed, but as long as you release some of the tension, you should be prepared.
4. Make sure your finger/s (or your partner's finger/s) are nice and clean, and make sure your nails are trimmed. Lube up the fingers really well.
5. Gently insert your fingers (or let your partner, but you may want to do this yourself so you can control the penetration) ever so slightly into your vaginal area. You might want to start with one if you're really tight, and work your way up to more.
6. Feel your way around, in a circular motion. You should feel the membranes that protect your vagina. Work your way around in circles, slowly massaging and pushing on the barrier (picture your finger in a rubberband, slow stretching it). If you feel pain, you might want to slow down and back off just a little bit.
7. Continue #6, using more and more fingers as it becomes more comfortable. Always make sure you're using plenty of lube.
8. Once you feel brave enough, probably after you or your partner can insert 3-4 fingers inside you without pain, you can try the dildo.
9. I can't emphasize this enough - LUBE! Lube is your friend here. Slick that sucker up. I would recommend inserting it yourself so you can control the rate of penetration.
10. Slowly - very slowly, insert the first inch or so inside you. Do like you did with your finger and swirl it around, slowly stretching the membranes. Continue doing this.
11. Carefully, continue inserting. If it becomes painful, back off a bit and go back to #10.
12. Repeat 10 and 11 until you can comfortably insert the dildo. Have fun with it! Don't be alarmed if there's a little bleeding, as that is normal, but if you take it slowly, you should experience very little, if any.
13. Once you're ready, substitute dildo for penis, and you're good to go. :)
just enjoy the tightness.. trust me lol...you dont want your area to stretch.. it will do it on its own when you start having sex..
ahhahahahahahhahahah I had the same problem when I was younger. You just have to get over the fear and do it. I did alot of sports and i was 21 when i losted my virginity so i didnt feel pain at all. But i had girl friendsthat they losted it at 16 or so n said it had really hurt badly.
it will stretch, you're probably very stressed out about it. jesus, how old are you? if it's your first or even second time, it will hurt, it's perfectly normal; soon the pain will go away. try to relax as much as possible
there nothing you can do.the only thing that could lead to stretching is to give birth.it doesnt stretch when you get aroused it just gets deeper.why dont you try using alot of lube.
*who the hell gave me a thumbs down.i got this info from anna david(who is a sex expert).so the person who did this is saying they are smarter than anna david when it comes to sex.
If a baby can come out of that space a penis can definitely fit in. To help though get your boyfriend to use a lubricant such as KY gel on the condom and this will help to ease any friction. I presume you are being sensible and using condoms!
I actually stay really tight too.. Im not sure how guys complain about "loose" girls cause I dont see how... I guess there are some girls out there who naturally stay tight.. enjoy it!
take your time. Don't' be in such a rush and don't worry. things don't look or feel proportional because it's new and different. it does hurt the first time, but most women will say it's a pleasurable pain. IF it's right, and if it's you're time. if it hurts too much tell him to stop. if he doesn't, you have a bigger problem. when you're ready it'll all work out.
Don't be in a rush. sex the first time shouldn't be teary eyed painful. it should be fun and pleasurable. if it hurts and he's the right one, he'll stop when you ask. If not then you should find someone who will respect your feelings, and take his time and respect you.
if I'm totally off base and have the wrong idea.. you should consult a gynecologist.
It's not that uncommon, I've personally known a half dozen women with the same problem.
Like any other muscles, those can be stretched if you're careful, patient, and do it daily. 5 or 10 minutes if you can, stretched just to where it's uncomfortable but not to where it hurts. Think of it like leg stretches.
Lube up with KY or similar and insert both index fingers, and gently tug left and right for 5 or 10 seconds, straight out on the sides. release, then pull upwards. Back side to side, and you get the idea. After a while, maybe a few days or a week, move to index and middle finger on both sides.
Later on, move on to bunching your fingers in a group of 3, 4 then eventually all five, and trying to expand the opening with gentle constant pressure inwards. A rotating motion helps.
Combine this 5-10 minute routine with kegel exercises, and you'll be amazed at the results in just a few weeks.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exe...