An important q related to sex!?!
Question: i dunno if im violating any laws..sorry ,.
i dunno who else to say.. but eversince i had my m/c (miscarriage) i just dont feeel like having sex ... plus its painfull.
if we do it... im not TURNED on and i can talk ..or plan other things in my mind.. whats happening with me?
Answers: i dunno if im violating any laws..sorry ,.
i dunno who else to say.. but eversince i had my m/c (miscarriage) i just dont feeel like having sex ... plus its painfull.
if we do it... im not TURNED on and i can talk ..or plan other things in my mind.. whats happening with me?
Nope, no law violations. Pretty much anything goes here.
How long ago was your miscarriage? It can take a while for your body to recover. Your hormones may be out of whack, and it's possible you're depressed. Sometimes doctors advise avoiding sex for several weeks afterward.
It wouldn't hurt to go see your doctor if there's a medical cause for the discomfort. What you probably need most, though, is time.
You need some healing. You might try a sex therapist. You might also just need a change of pace to get your libido repaired.
The same thing happened to me after I had my baby. So sorry about the m/c by the way, its hard I've been there. I didn't even know I was preg. when I had mine and it still tore me apart. Anyway, I think its just hormonal, it took me forever to get my sex drive back. The most frustrating part is that men don't understand. Its normal though girl so just relax, take it easy and maybe get away for a while and have a little you time if you can.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that doesn't sound trite. Have you gone for counseling or joined a support group? You're probably dealing with a lot of emotional issues because of the miscarriage. If you have any creative outlets--reading, art, music, dance, scrapbooking, journaling, photography--plug into these. Keep your mind busy so you don't dwell on the pain too much, but do allow yourself time to sort through your emotions. Find someone you trust that you can share your emotions with. Any time emotions are involved it really can help to talk. It's ok if your sex drive is low right now, but don't be afraid to speak with your husband about your feelings and your lack of desire for sex. The physical pain might be psychosomatic, or there might be something to needs to be checked out.