Do you find it sad that these young girls can't ask their mother's about!
Question: everything from first period, no period, birth control, infections, etc?
Answers: everything from first period, no period, birth control, infections, etc?
Welcome to the 21st century where moms and dads spend too much time at work everyday and not enough time raising their children. I do feel sorry that some of these girls have to come on here asking about first periods, how to use a tampon, or other female related question. But two things sadden me more than the fact that they ask these questions...
one is that i feel bad their mothers don't get to share this special time with their daughter, and second a lot of the time they are receiving bad information. I hate the idea that some of these girls are getting really bad info about pregnancy, periods, sex, and many other things. :-(
Sometimes they don't feel confident in asking. I wouldn't of asked my mom, but she learned to be closer to my sis, so my sis tells her everything. Parents aren't perfect, they try and sometimes realize their mistakes after the fact. We should just take this opportunity to teach these girls the right thing to do.
It is sad, but I never talked to my mum about anything like that and I'm not sure I would have wanted to.
What is sad is that girls are ashamed to ask. It's as though being a woman is something secret or shameful or dirty. I am hoping that by raising my daughter to be involved in sports, she begins to see her body as something that is powerful and beautiful and not just a type of commodity.
yes it is sad, for mothers shouldnt be "like friends" or "more than friends", but should serve the actual word of "mothering" also in these cirumstances. my mother never spoke to me about periods and sex and all that comes with it, i had to learn everything from the net or friends or books. i feel sad about it because it sounds so stupid. i hope that when i will be a mother, if i will ever be, i will know how to be a true carer and loving mother to my kids.
Yeah, it always bothers me to see girls asking about their first period and conclude by saying "I don't want to ask my mother", as if they'd get in trouble for having their period.
I'm sure there are some weird freaky mothers out there, but in 99% of these cases, the mother would be delighted to be asked for help. I think the secrecy is self-imposed most of the time, and I don't know why. There was one girl who said she had a great relationship with her mother, but still she asked question after question about what she could use instead of pads, because she didn't want to tell her mother she needed some.
I think it is sad if they feel they can't ask their mum about such personal matters. But then again may be they have already and are also asking strangers to get a broader view of things.
I'm a mum of teenagers and I answer questions on here so that young people get good straight answers and not rubbish or put downs as I have sometimes read on here.
Some people don't feel confident when asking their mother. It really is a touchy subject for some people. Others may only live with their father, so obviously, he would not know and may not want to ask such things from their fathers (which I totally understand!).
Sometimes, it's a matter of their mother not knowing. My mom doesn't EXACTLY know how birth control works (well she does, but she doesn't understand a lot of the complications with it, how you are exactly supposed to take them, etc. etc.) because she never used the pill. It had also been just a new thing on the market when she was young so she also never learned much about it.
A lot of things I have confided in her about...from first period, to cramps, to unusual heavy bleeding, etc. I have never had to deal with an infection, so I so far haven't had to worry too much about that.