I have this girlfriend who falls in love with a thought??!
Question: She will talk to a guy online or on the phone, someone new or someone she knew from her past and then BOOM, she's all in love. Then the minute he doesn't call when she wants him too or leave a message after she saw his number on caller id, she's crying that he might have someone else. The last guy she was dating, he told her, his friends told her, I even told her to just be his friend...she cried and wanted to die because she wanted more from him. She's going through menopause but dang! Does every woman go through this psycho love at the drop of a hat thing when they are single going through menopause?
Answers: She will talk to a guy online or on the phone, someone new or someone she knew from her past and then BOOM, she's all in love. Then the minute he doesn't call when she wants him too or leave a message after she saw his number on caller id, she's crying that he might have someone else. The last guy she was dating, he told her, his friends told her, I even told her to just be his friend...she cried and wanted to die because she wanted more from him. She's going through menopause but dang! Does every woman go through this psycho love at the drop of a hat thing when they are single going through menopause?
I think menopause has probably only magnified some of her pre-existing conditions.
It is a period of hormonal turmoil (much like adolesence), but unless maturity has become ingrained by this late life stage, behaviors can become quite unreasonable.
Compare her pre-menopausal behavior as best you can. Explore her past relationships for insight. Has she always seemed "man dependent" (that whole "he completes me" fallacy)? Serial monogamy en extreme? Is she usually insecure about her self worth? Does she age "gracefully", or is she fretful and depressed.
Her hormonal imbalance can make her "particularly volitile" and contrary to some, heighten her sexual urges... the "love thing" she may feel great need to express.
As her friend, do please keep close tabs until she finds remedy. She can actually put herself in dangerous situations (such as use and abuse; predators abound) following unrealistic thought patterns.
Get her to a medical doctor first for an assessment of her hormonal status, and possible traditional supplementals; or at least an herbalogist for alternative therapy. There are several natural remedies that can be effective... diet and nutrition included.
"Psycho" is not "normal" for most women in transition... it is either a real problem or an excuse for bad behavior.
Also, consider convincing her to attend counseling or classes until her body and mind adjusts to the changes. A previous condition may be uncovered that has been long neglected or denied.
It can be tedious to suffer through her changes, but your patience and involvement may help to make her aware of her new "vulnerability", ease her transition, and you may actually even save her life. Kudos!
Sounds like low self esteem to me
No...not all women go through that exact same thing, but many women do get nutty during menopause. My own mother and my mother in-law were/are totally coo coo right now because of menopause.
I t is easy to judge someone else...I have and am going Thru menopause...and it's no piece of cake. What I am finding out though is that...life is what you call forth...peacefulness or craziness...nothing shows up by accident. Some pass thru this part of their life without skipping a beat...for others it is a ripple in a pond and for some it is life threatening. One deals with it as best as one can...for myself I have had to collect some tools in order for this part of my life to serve me...without them....I might commit homicide or suicide.
sounds like shes in love with being in love she wants that feeling really bad