My 11 year old daughter has started her period but...?!
Question: My 11 year old daughter has been moody and snappy to myself, my husband and her siblings the last few days. She has also complained of stomach ache, and I asked her where it was. It was right above her pelvic bone, the perfect place for a period pain. I found some pad wrappers in the garbage (don't worry, I didn't go snopping) and I overheard her talking with a friend saying she had started her period. She hasn't told me she has her period, and I have always been very open about sex exc. with her. How can I get her to open up a little? I want her to feel comftorble talking to me about all this.
Answers: My 11 year old daughter has been moody and snappy to myself, my husband and her siblings the last few days. She has also complained of stomach ache, and I asked her where it was. It was right above her pelvic bone, the perfect place for a period pain. I found some pad wrappers in the garbage (don't worry, I didn't go snopping) and I overheard her talking with a friend saying she had started her period. She hasn't told me she has her period, and I have always been very open about sex exc. with her. How can I get her to open up a little? I want her to feel comftorble talking to me about all this.
For her to be comfortable, you need to be comfortable about it too. Don't treat it like a taboo subject. Depending on your daughter, it may be fine to mention that you saw wrappers in the garbage (assuming she won't accuse you of snooping). You could ask how she is feeling, and maybe tell her a funny story about how it makes you feel. Then assure her that she can ask you any questions or feel free to complain to you. Hope this helps!
Maybe she was embarrassed to tell you. You should feel good that she was prepared, had everything she needed, and knew how to deal with it.
Try talking to her sometime when things are going well and she's in a good mood.
It is quite natural that she is embarassed by this. She will probably appreciate if you take her aside, close the door and have a relaxed girl-to-girl chat with her when there are no males at home to interrupt. It shouldn't be too hard as you say you have always been open about sex with her.
Let her know like this.I need to monitor your periods and when you start,just for the first few months just to make sure everything is going right.Which is true.I told my daughter this,because I did want to make sure every thing was going right.I just asked her to let me know when she start and stopped,was it light or heavy or both.She understood.I know they are all growing up so fast.I have a daughter who is 14.who is also very snappy and drives me crazy with her attitude.She can be so mean to her little brother and sister.So I can totally relate to what your going through.I hope I helped.Good Luck!;)
You should just come straight out and tell her that you know she is getting to the age where she is going to be having menstrual cycles, and tell her where you keep the tampons and pads and that if she ever has any questions just ask. And reassure her that you will always be there for her whenever she needs you. There's really no point in beating around the bush. I believe it is better to be open and upfront about things.
she knows wat a period is and she knows to use pads when it comes. i dont talk to my mom about mine and never really did. y do you want her to talk about it to you. if she talks about sex and stuff thats good but doesent have to talk about everything
talk to her about going in to woman hood like the birds and the bees..
She's probably a bit freaked out. I had my period at nine, and I didn't want ANYONE to know. My mom was open about sex also, but it didn't help me much. The best thing to do is just offer some tips, and let her realise that a period is okay to talk about.