After 3 years what now?!
Question: My boyfriend and I had been dating for about 3 years until he broke up with me unexpectantly last friday. We shared so many things together good and bad...deaths, oversea trips, romantic times, our "future" discussions, aruguments, family events...etc. I just can't seem to get over him. I really do love him a lot still. I need some suggestions.
Please don't suggest sleeping w/ someone else bc that's not going to happen!
oh and I'm 19 in college.
Answers: My boyfriend and I had been dating for about 3 years until he broke up with me unexpectantly last friday. We shared so many things together good and bad...deaths, oversea trips, romantic times, our "future" discussions, aruguments, family events...etc. I just can't seem to get over him. I really do love him a lot still. I need some suggestions.
Please don't suggest sleeping w/ someone else bc that's not going to happen!
oh and I'm 19 in college.
I went through the same thing about a year and a half ago. We had been together for over three years then out of the blue he told me he didn't love me anymore. He was the love of my life, and I was devistated. I read a book that helped a lot. "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt. It helped me realize that the problems in our relationship that I ignored were the reason we didn't belong together. I will always love him, but I understand why we can't be together. I also realized that I love who he was when we were first together, not who he became over those three years. People grow and change, and you will meet someone who makes you happy, and who you will be with forever. It will take time, but it does happen.
It will get better with time. Just focus on living your life. Give yourself time to mourn a little and think about him. Just make sure to spend the majority of time thinking about your own future.
Miranda, you know you are very pretty, am I right. Just look in the mirror, realize how hott you are, and if he doesnt like you, forget about him. If you cant, try finding out why he dumped you.
Journal wirte, give yourself time to grieve, get busy with you and focus on your healing.
Reading material:
It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken : The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy, by Greg Behrendt
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