Should i have sex with him?!


Question: honestly i've known this guy for a while and we've been texting for weeks. But on monday i met him and we ended up doing sexual things together. Then on wednesday he came round and he gave me oral sex. I really liked it and i feel so comfortable with him. The thing is now it's valentines day and i'm going round to his, but 95% of me really wants to loose my virgintiy to him, by the way i'm 17. Although the other 5% is dreading what my friends will think, as ive only officially been going out with him for 4 days. I keep thinking how adults can have one night stands and then end up together, am i too young to have sex with him? Even though i so want to.

Please give me your advise


Answers: honestly i've known this guy for a while and we've been texting for weeks. But on monday i met him and we ended up doing sexual things together. Then on wednesday he came round and he gave me oral sex. I really liked it and i feel so comfortable with him. The thing is now it's valentines day and i'm going round to his, but 95% of me really wants to loose my virgintiy to him, by the way i'm 17. Although the other 5% is dreading what my friends will think, as ive only officially been going out with him for 4 days. I keep thinking how adults can have one night stands and then end up together, am i too young to have sex with him? Even though i so want to.

Please give me your advise

If you like him this much after four days, imagine how great it would be to really get to know him and THEN give yourself to him. Having sex with someone does seal your fate with that person. While one night stands happen all the time, they are best when between two adults who understand that they are just that...one night. Get to know more about this guy than just how cute and fun he can be after four days.....why not wait a bit longer?

Yes. You're not too young to have sex. Enjoy it.

Well, it's romantic to have sex on valentines day. However, don't lose your virginity to him if you think it's too soon. You don't know what he really wants this soon in the relationship, he could be using you.

No

Honestly, I think you are. Then again I lost my virginity kinda the same way, at age 16.

Nothings said here will stop your hormones in the end. Your going to probably end up doing him. Just make sure he wraps it up k? You know what I mean

You arent toooo young, but you havent known him for long at all. I would give it ALOT more time. Losing your virginity is a major deal, you want to make sure you lose it to the right person.

No. Don't. He could be using you as a sex toy. Don't ever have sex with someone you've been dating for four days. >[ That's gotta have a bad outcome. So wait. :]

too much too soon love, you should`ve got to know him properly first, never mind your friends, whats he telling his

When I lost mine I'd known the guy for about two years. We never dated, but I 100% knew that I wanted it to be him. (I was 15)

You gotta be careful about who you lose it to.
I don't regret losing mine to this guy at all, but if I did, that's something I'll have to live with forever.

It's not that big of a deal, really. But it is something that defines certain things in your life. Loads of kids don't care nowadays, but I personally think it's important.

If you are sure you wanna do it, then do it (Use.Protection! Seen Juno? You don't wanna go through that.)
Are you pretty sure you wanna do it, but not totally? Then don't. It's that simple. If there's a little bit of doubt, then you can wait.

And if he really cares about you, then he can wait, too.

I'm not concerned about your age, I'm concerned that you are thinking of having sex with someone you've only known for a short period of time.

If you do (I hope you don't!) make sure he wears a condom. No rubber, no lovin!

its totally up to u if you feel comfortable at the time just dont feel pressured into it

OMG! NO! DONT DO IT!!!!!!! Honey virgins at your age are a rare thing, be proud of yourself! Losing your innocence is a big deal, so don't do it just because you "like the person". If he respects you enough he'll wait until your 110% ready. Oh, and dont worry about what anyone thinks, its your body. I just hope that if you chose to you wont regret it later. Make sure your sure thats all :o)

Cassie, you are still young. Try to explore more of your life. Dont you have dreams? Dont settle in one fish in the aquarium that's what I've learned from sex education. Reserve your virginity to your husband someday. I know it is too oldie but this is true. If you will have sex with him and what if you get pregnant... can you support your child someday? Or let us say you will not get pregnant and this guy will leave you someday, how about your reputation, your not a virgin anymore? I hope you understand.

No... You still need more to this guy...You dont know him fully.Better give your virginity to the one that you will spent the rest of your life w/. Hope this will clear up your mind....

well why do you friends have to know what you get up to in the privacy of your bed? you are not too young legally, but its up to you what you do as the other guy said nothing will stop your hormones. go with what you feel comfortable with if you have only known him for 4 days, then maybe not, talk to him first, see what his thoughts on it are see if he is using you or weather he genuinely likes you, if your ready to have sex with him then go for it but if even 1 % of you is unsure about it then DONT do it, if he really likes you he will wait until YOUR ready!

If you're going to have sex then run off and tell your friends, you're too young. Sex is a intimate, personal, Private thing, not a social thing.
Those adults that have sex with someone they recently met don't ask anyone, but themselves, if it's the right time. You're mature for your age for asking about it and thinking this through, but in the end you're probably not ready. Have you both had a AIDS or other STD test? What form of birth control will you use? If you get pregnant, what will you do? Is it even legal? (If he's a legal adult he could be charged with statutory rape.) Sit him down and talk it out if you get in this situation. If he gets defensive he's just using you, if he rushes you, same thing. In the end you're going to have to make this choice on your own, but don't let him push you into it and think very carefully about what could happen. You could get a STD,Genital warts, you could get pregnant(If you have a child that's 21 years of raising and a life time of work.), you could regret this and it's irreversible. You two don't have to go all the way to prove your love, if this is going to be a lasting relationship you will still be together NEXT Valentines day. A relationship shouldn't ride on sex alone.Good luck, God bless, Good health, and I really hope you make the best choice not for him, not for your reputation, but for you.

In your first line you say that you have known each other for a while, and that is what I am looking at here.
If that is true, then having made it official only four days ago is really not meaningful at all, is it?
I think you should go with the flow here, and have a wonderful romantic evening with him.
Who knows, he may not even want sex with you tonight?
Men are a little strange that way.
If they know that it is your first time, they would rather be prepared, and by the way, better be prepared anyway.
Take along a sanitary pad just in case it is needed, and have a condom stashed in your purse....
Just in case.

If you are having doubts, questions, and concerns, you are not ready. You have dated this guy for 4 days, there is NO WAY that you can possibly know him. Just because grown-ups have one night stands, doesn't make it right. Usually, grown-ups realize the possible consequences of their actions, and if something does go wrong, they are more mature and able to deal with it. Have you thought about how something going wrong can screw up your young life-forever? There are sexually transmitted diseases, the possibility of condoms bursting [Have you thought of how having a baby will drastically change your life FOREVER?]
You didn't say how old this guy is. If he is your age, more than likely he is not working, or at least doesn't have a substantial job. How will he help support you and your baby? Will he even attempt to be there? If he is older than you, he should be thinking of your welfare. I would be willing to bet that he is just wanting to get some from a young virgin. I suggest that you sit in a tub of cold bath water, and seriously consider the consequences. [ A COUPLE MINUTES OF PLEASURE-A LIFE OF UNPLANNED CONSEQUENCES ]

You must do wot u feel comfortable with, no matter wot ppl say, losing ur virginity is a big deal, u shudnt do it jus cuz u think u "shud", u do it wen u'r redy. If u'r worried, talk 2 him about it, tel him exactly how u feel - if he wants 2 b with u he'll understand if u want 2 w8 - it sounds like u'r having a gd time as u r neway, so u shudnt feel pressured 2 take things further if u'r not sure. I was in almost exactly the same situation (except I'm not a virgin) - I've bin seein a guy, things wer progressing but I wasnt redy 2 hav sex so we jus talkd about it and he was completely cool with it. It's totally normal 4 u 2 feel not redy, even if he feels redy 2 take things further.

If you have to ask this question then no don't do it. If you'd known in your heart of hearts then this doubt would not be in your mind. Save yourself for that someone special. It may end up being this boy but until you know each other wait. If its ment to be it will happen. Don't put added pressure on yourself enjoy exploring each other without the actual sex. But wait until your 100% sure that you want to loose your virginity to someone before you do it. I wait for my husband and its the best thing I could have done.

Well seen as though your doubting it i don't think u should, when you want to lose yor virginity make sure it feels like its with the right prson and you have no doubts. It will then make you feel better about yourself.

Yo don't have to lose your virginity straight away just because your older than 16!

If you care about what your friends think... then no. Also.. not like virginity is a HUGE deal anymore it just kinda sucks a a couple years down the road when you realize you lost it to someone who you don't really know.

I like this : "if he really cares about you, then he can wait, too."
so this is about what I was going to say

well, you don't know the guy. if you're not quite sure, don't do it. just lay aside and read the first sentence again :)

dont do it save it you should wait





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