My friend has a serious ED?!
Question: My friends has been anoreixic for about 3 years now....i know she is, she never eats and when she does its an INSANE amount - then she has to "go home". Plus she was once an average healthy size. She even lost her baseball scholarship because of this...and now she is starting to loose her friends.
I want to help, but is there anything i can really do? i know she will have to decide when she wants to change...but i feel bad just allowing her to be like this, her life is at serious risk. has anyone ever had an intervention for a friend like this? or been intervened themselves? is there anything i could say or do that would maybe help???
Answers: My friends has been anoreixic for about 3 years now....i know she is, she never eats and when she does its an INSANE amount - then she has to "go home". Plus she was once an average healthy size. She even lost her baseball scholarship because of this...and now she is starting to loose her friends.
I want to help, but is there anything i can really do? i know she will have to decide when she wants to change...but i feel bad just allowing her to be like this, her life is at serious risk. has anyone ever had an intervention for a friend like this? or been intervened themselves? is there anything i could say or do that would maybe help???
Your friend needs professional help. She needs to see a doctor and/or a counselor who specializes in eating disorders. You don't say how old she is. Talking to her parents would not be out of line if they are available. Or talking to someone at the student health center if you are in college.
(My son was out of town for college and I hadn't noticed he had lost a lot of weight until his sister and stepmother brought it up. It turned out he had a serious illness.)
There are online support groups and help lines that may be able to give you information about where to go locally. But do do something...even if she doesn't want you to. If she ends up dying, you'll feel worse than if she gets angry at you for interfering.
Being honest, there is not much you can do but offer your support and be there to talk to her. You could try talking to her about it, but at the end of the day it's something she has to come to terms with herself. Professional support such as councelling might help her, but if she doesn't want it then it's her choice.
Just support her and try to understand what's going through her head, although I know that can be very difficult.