Is it normal to "you know" during a pelvic exam?!
Question: my GYN was the most conversational I have ever seen, at one point, he said I was too tense, and touched my leg, at one point during the exam he touched me somewhere where I went "OMG", he laughed and said are you o.k., my leg started to shake, I started to cry (yes, that is what happens to me) and the nurse asked what was wrong, I said nothing. He stopped, wheeled around and said are you o.k. , why are you crying, do you want me to stop? did i hurt you? all the while smiling. i said can you just get it over with. he said o.k. after the exam, he asked me to come in his office to discuss what happened. he closed the door smiling, said do you want to talk about what happened? i said i don't know what you are talking about. he said fair enough. he then said, you are really sensitive to touch aren't you? What? I am assuming it is apparrent for them to know, but why would he ask if I wanted to talk about and why would he laugh during the exam?
Answers: my GYN was the most conversational I have ever seen, at one point, he said I was too tense, and touched my leg, at one point during the exam he touched me somewhere where I went "OMG", he laughed and said are you o.k., my leg started to shake, I started to cry (yes, that is what happens to me) and the nurse asked what was wrong, I said nothing. He stopped, wheeled around and said are you o.k. , why are you crying, do you want me to stop? did i hurt you? all the while smiling. i said can you just get it over with. he said o.k. after the exam, he asked me to come in his office to discuss what happened. he closed the door smiling, said do you want to talk about what happened? i said i don't know what you are talking about. he said fair enough. he then said, you are really sensitive to touch aren't you? What? I am assuming it is apparrent for them to know, but why would he ask if I wanted to talk about and why would he laugh during the exam?
because you wouldn't admit what happend.... I had the same experience a few years back... however, my doctor handled it a little different... said opps... continued with exam... After, we talked about what was going on in my marriage.. which was nothing... I will say I have been going to the same dr for over 20 years and trust the man...
Not sure what to say about your dr... think he was fishing for info about your sex life...
that is uber weird and AWKWARD! holy moly! i would probably find a new doctor, i would not like that experience at all.
He doesn't sound very professional to me...Time to get a new doctor.
Either hes used to people reacting that way during a pelvic exam... or (which is most likely) He is a pervert!
That is a phenomenal story. I really hope it's true cause it made my evening.
I would be a little caught off guard if I was the doc. Because I am not so sure that is normal. You should have probably tried to talk to him about it.
Was it a sexual thing? Is your doctor a pervert or something?
He probably wasn't laughing; he probably was struggling with awkwardness. And OF COURSE he wanted to discuss this - he's your doctor, and he wants to know there is no hard feelings or anything...I think. I hope.
That is exactly why I don't have a male gynecologist. But he was probably just being friendly.
Eeeeww!
You need to report the person to the following: http://www.acog.org/ or http://www.ama-assn.org/ Email them and ask them what to do.
If it really happened the way you say, I'd say it's time to get a new doctor. Even if he didn't intend anything improper, the fact that you're concerned enough about it to ask the question is a sign that he isn't doing everything he should do to make patients feel comfortable and to observe the proper boundaries.
I might even consider reporting him to the medical board for the comment he made about your anatomy. I can't see any situation where a comment like that would be proper or appropriate.
This is not professional..you need to get a new Dr. and report this one....
He sounds like a prick. Doctors are trained in the proper bedside manner. He asked all the right questions but the laughter revealed his true nature. I think he was covering his a** when he invited you to talk about it in his office. He wants to make sure you aren't going to try to sue him and he is covering all his bases. Doctors know how uncomfortable a pelvic exam is. A professional would NOT have been smiling and laughing in this manner. His OMG and deep vaginal cavity comments confirm his unprofessionalism. I would complain to the head of the practice and find another OB/GYN. Don't give this guy a second chance!
Wow I am offended FOR you just by reading this. A male Dr in this field ESPECIALLY should be sensitive, mature and extremely careful to be professional. The way he made YOU feel is what is key here and yes, you obviously were violated and should take action. Otherwise it will just eat at you.