I HATE MY LIFE!!! Can you help me?!


Question: OMG. If you really do exist, give me the damn strength to make it through another day in this f**ked up world. If life is really like a game of chess, I'm ready to close up the f**king board. I'm 21yrs old and just about ready to do so...

FAMILY. I was born into a family who never appreciated me for who I am and treated me like dirt. I made the decision to move out when I was 20yrs old and I don't regret it. I call them every now and then, but it's clear that they do not care about me.

FRIENDS. My BFF tranferred to another college, so I'm stuck trying to finish alone. We don't talk much anymore and when we do, it's not much. I have tried several times to make new friends but they all end up screwing me over or betraying me. I now live with a friend and her mom. They are both very arrogant and hypocritical, always trying to impose THEIR views of Christianity and THEIR way of living on me. For $300.00/month in NY...


Answers: OMG. If you really do exist, give me the damn strength to make it through another day in this f**ked up world. If life is really like a game of chess, I'm ready to close up the f**king board. I'm 21yrs old and just about ready to do so...

FAMILY. I was born into a family who never appreciated me for who I am and treated me like dirt. I made the decision to move out when I was 20yrs old and I don't regret it. I call them every now and then, but it's clear that they do not care about me.

FRIENDS. My BFF tranferred to another college, so I'm stuck trying to finish alone. We don't talk much anymore and when we do, it's not much. I have tried several times to make new friends but they all end up screwing me over or betraying me. I now live with a friend and her mom. They are both very arrogant and hypocritical, always trying to impose THEIR views of Christianity and THEIR way of living on me. For $300.00/month in NY...

Don't give up. All of this is manageable if you can take it one step at a time.
First: Your college should have a counseling service or a crisis line. Get on the phone to them right away and start talking this stuff through. If you don't like the first counselor you get, ask for another. If the college has a psychiatrist, you might try seeing that person as well. It may be that you're depressed, and that some medication would help you put all of this in perspective.
Next: Figure out how to do one thing that you love. If it's singing and dancing, take a class, sign up for a production, or just practice at home. That one thing will sustain you.
Then: Cut down on the stresses. See an academic adviser at your college and find out how you can go part-time. Usually there's a way if you are working as much as you are. See if you can find a job closer to school, perhaps on campus. Once you have this stuff resolved, chip away at the debt just a bit.
Finally: Think about your living situation. Can you afford to rent a room with other NICE people? Can you take a loan and live on campus?
One of the other people who answered talked about priorities. You need to just work out one mess at a time, the most important ones first. If you try to solve everything at once, it will feel like you are in an avalanche.
Hang in there!

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  • Quit your freaking whining and grow up. People that feel sorry for themselves are a dime a dozen on this planet.

    Either take 100% responsibility for your life or keep whining but whatever you do, realize that YOU are in charge of your life, not some movie script.

    Goodness....Get a therapist. Don't just ramble on about how sorry you are for yourself to the innocent readers of yahoo answers...

    move to mexico ,

    You just made me feel a lot better about myself. Nah but just stick with it. It will get better in time

    talk to a social worker....or consouler what ever u call it if thats too much try 2 talk 2 ones at skool they r free

    And your question is...?

    Awww don't worry about it! Things will look up... just try and save the money you get from your job and pay off your debts. Email me on longsocksrules@yahoo.com
    ill be your fwend!

    Everyone produced his fate by himself. No one else is responsible. So, watch the wood in your own eye, and say YES to life; then it will change.

    Thats just how the world is. But one thing you do have to remember is a thing called karma. For all the people who fucked you over in your life...... something bad WILL happen to them eventually. Its just how it is. I think that you need to stop being selfish. Taking your life doesnt prove anything. Taking your life is just the easy way out of things. Im sure your very good at things anyways. you just have to wait to find what you are good at.

    Sounds like you made some bad choices in your life, you will have to suck it up and work hard to get back on track.

    They must have counselors at college that you could talk to. They can help you get ahold of yourself and your life. Everybody has obstacles in their lives that they have to deal with. Yours are just happening all at once. Please seek out a counselor or someone you trust to talk with..............Good Luck

    You are in college. They have a crisis hotline. Call them now. My daughter used to work at one when she was in college. They will help you. You will get through this. You just need to talk to someone trained to get you help.

    Counseling, is what you need first. Finish school no matter what or else you'll regret for the rest of you life. Education is what will get you out of a bad situation. Pay off you debts, close any unneeded credit card accounts, limit shopping, try to find a better job( if there are any that pay better and will not interfere with your grades). And get some friends that you can relate to, this makes a happier life and can improve grades.
    If all else fails try God, and if you do get out of your situation, still, try God

    Don't worry about it, as soon as you graduate, your debt will go down. Try cutting down on things that aren't necessary financially. Getting a student loan is a good idea because it seems that a lot of your problems are tied to money. With that stress off of you, you could have time to deal with your other problems. There are friends out there to be made, you just haven't met them yet. Just give yourself more time and eventually it'll get better.

    Oh God its such a big pile of problems,
    but by your attitude and intentions you look so strong. Don't let thing get you down and you have to wait alittle. Find another place to live near you work.
    Just try to think a little calmly your problems are not as could not be solved.
    it'll take time but it seems to be solved as you are so determined.
    and also don't call such people your friends who take money from you when you live with her and also imposing.
    try to get rid of that soon.


    just be determined not to get down on your self and be couragious.

    best of luck...........!!!

    Dont live with some friend u know and her mom. Its better to live with your family. I'm sure your family does love you a lot. Find a boyfriend if you dont have one. And live with him. You need to get a life and live it well.

    try and save up money... do overtime... maybe go to a counselor.. try and talk to people

    Get a Friggin theropyst and stop feeling so sorry for yourself, just try and look on the bright side of things instead of whining to a bunch of people you dont know!
    Get over it, its life.
    They do probably care about you but have important things to worry about. who gives a shiz if your on your own in class, we all have to put up with it MAKE NEW FRIENDS!!! SOCIALISE with people!

    first of all you need to prioritize your responsibilitys. second of all is you need to tell yourself is school going to benefit you in the future you say you dont like school ..so why dont you take less classes. and your bills need to be paid work a payment plan with the bill collectors they want their money so they will work with you .third of all you need to focus on your future . and also you dont need to put yourself in more debt by getting another school loan.you will just be putting yourself in deeper debt .as for your socail life dont worry about your friends they come a dime a dozen. and you should just take one day at a time. you think the world is tough? try living in eternal hell. cause thats where you will go if you do comit to suicide...good luck...and GOD bless you.

    ok i hate to be rude, but shut up and stop whining and feeling sorry for yourself. If you don't like your life, there is only one person who can be blamed : YOU! "Be the change in the world that you want to see". There are poor starving children dying on the streets and you know what? They are just happy to be living! You should be grateful for the things you do have in life and enjoy loved ones. grow up!

    you can run away to military life, what i mean is that you go away for training, not only will you have money , you willget a good paying job from the military when you come back, if you like this answer, hit me back, i'll fill you in on the info...

    That was alot to read gurl but okay as far as family i would say just move on.Friends if you cant make any then then move on and find osmeone that reall cares for you. and forget the fact that your best friend moved to another college. youll get over it. Money work 2 jobs if you want the real money to come in. i work 4 jobs and get at 1 job 4,000 another 300 another 2,000 and mcdonalds is 5 and hour and i work 4 hours so thats 20 i know that all adds up to be 6,320 even though that might not be a real lot but i dont pay my bills my loving husband does. so therfore i can buy shoes and clothes and not what we want. he works all day so i never have time to talk to him but on his 15 minute break. okay about that and then the school part at lease you are smart girl and move with the flow it is okay. as far as relationships you dont have to have a boyfirned. wait to someone comes to you you dont have to come to them. and you know what is really not a part of relationships. Boys are always talking about that but it is not a part of any relationships. Realtionships are for a special preson not just anybody. SO....There good luck and that was tmi and dont hate your life.





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