Help!! I think I've lost myself!!?!
Question: Okay well I'm 14 years old. I've always been really girly.
Well back in the summer of 2007 I started to take intrest in gothic and punkish type stuff. I've been changing my wordrobe and everything but I'm kinda confused because I sorta still like girly stuff and I don't think gothic stuff is my type at all. It just doesn't fit how I look. But I can't stop liking it. I don't think anyone else likes it that I like that stuff either!! I'm so confused I really can't make up my mind of who I am anymore. It's so weird I've never had this problem before!! Is this commen for teens my age?? please help me! I really don't know who I am!
Thanks
Answers: Okay well I'm 14 years old. I've always been really girly.
Well back in the summer of 2007 I started to take intrest in gothic and punkish type stuff. I've been changing my wordrobe and everything but I'm kinda confused because I sorta still like girly stuff and I don't think gothic stuff is my type at all. It just doesn't fit how I look. But I can't stop liking it. I don't think anyone else likes it that I like that stuff either!! I'm so confused I really can't make up my mind of who I am anymore. It's so weird I've never had this problem before!! Is this commen for teens my age?? please help me! I really don't know who I am!
Thanks
It's normal to think this at your age. Well, for one, your clothes have nothing to do with who you are. They're just style, you like this top, don't like those earrings, whatevs. Another thing is the only difference between punk and prep is the label teens put to them. There are plenty of girly goths and tomboys who like abercrombie.
Don't try to find out who you are through what you wear/where you shop. Trying making reading a part of your regular routine; books have magic, especially on these kinds of things, trust me. And watch some good movies you've kinda heard of but never found the time to watch("The West Side Story", "The Godfather"), classics that ring a bell. Try cooking, get a job, do some stuff that have to stereotype glued to them.
find a middle ground.
wear the pink top, with dark skinny jeans and eyeliner!
guys like preppy girls not gothic girls
This is the time to find yourself. Don't worry about fitting into a style, create your own. Mix what you like and leave the rest. There is no correct mold, only you
like the first noter said..
try to mix it together and slowly change in the direction you want to go and feel comfortable with..
yes all 14 year olds are like that..at least you have the head to admit you dont know what you want and are trying to figure it out..
Commit seppuku~~!
or you become a lesbian, everyone loves that.
be who ever you want too be regardless of anyone else, try to ignore what anyone else is wearing your only young and i can remember going through something very simaler to you when i was 15 and im 21 now so not that long ago.
just wear what ever YOU feel comfertable in, like the others said mix and match, theres nothing wrong with creating your own unique style, you never know everyone could dress like you soon.
good luck and keep your chin up!
What you are experiencing is normal for teens. You are looking for your personal style/persona. Maybe what you could do is make a list of the things about girly you like and the things about goth you like. On the other side of that same page, make a list of what you don't like about each of those styles. You might also go to the public library to see some of their style magazines and look at those different styles to see if there is something in there that you like. Try different things, different styles, different colors, different materials, dresses vs. pants, blouses vs. t-shirts, etc. Your style may change several times before you find out who "You" are. Now is the time when it is OK to experiment.
Some day take yourself to a department store--Kohl's, Macy's, Penney's, Sears--where you can try on different styles and see what interests you. No, you don't have to buy any of those things. This is just looking and seeing where you fit. If you want, take a best friend along whho will be able to tell you Honestly how you look in the things you pick.
I never thought I looked good in pink until a friend told me I looked fabulous in some shades of pink. See, that could be a difference too--maybe navy blue doesn't look good on you but a medium blue looks wonderful! Try different stuff. And have fun!!!!!!