Anal sex.... makes me numb....?!


Question: Me and my guy have been experimenting with anal sex recently but I'm having some problems. First of all, I don't really like the idea, but I wanna at least give it a try before I rule it out all together.

The thing I've noticed is whenever anything is happening in the "back-door" area, everywhere else down there goes kinda numb. I've tried to loosen up by playing with myself when he's back there, but like I said, I can't barely even feel my own fingers... is this normal???

My man likes it a lot, and as long as he goes slow it doesn't hurt, but I don't feel any pleasure whatsoever... I've even tried fantasizing about it before hand so that when it happens I'm excited, but even that doesn't help.... What should I do?


Answers: Me and my guy have been experimenting with anal sex recently but I'm having some problems. First of all, I don't really like the idea, but I wanna at least give it a try before I rule it out all together.

The thing I've noticed is whenever anything is happening in the "back-door" area, everywhere else down there goes kinda numb. I've tried to loosen up by playing with myself when he's back there, but like I said, I can't barely even feel my own fingers... is this normal???

My man likes it a lot, and as long as he goes slow it doesn't hurt, but I don't feel any pleasure whatsoever... I've even tried fantasizing about it before hand so that when it happens I'm excited, but even that doesn't help.... What should I do?

That's wonderful that you're so open minded, and not a man-hating feminist like some of the posters above.
(sorry, but I'm so sick of this assumption that all men are rapists or whatever...).

It usually takes time to get into this. I've had a couple girlfriends who LOVED it, but at first, didn't at all.
Part of what got them off, is the feeling of fullness, of being dominated, etc., not necessarily just the physical stimulation itself.
It really helps if you're being stimulated elsewhere.
So... I would suggest moving the kinkiness factor up a few notches.
Get a vibrator, and use it inside yourself, while he's in you from behind. Fantasize that two men are doing you at the same time. Have him massaging your breasts at the same time too, or maybe using a second vibrator on your clit.

Here's another variation to get you into the mood, or expand your mind to where you can enjoy anal sex more:

Get in 69' position, with two vibrators. While you're sucking him, he can be sucking your clit, and going at you with BOTH vibrators at the same time, one insde your pus&y, the other one inside your a*s.

One of my gf's would come in literally under two minutes like this, have tears in her eyes, and be unable to walk for a while after doing this!
After doing some of these things, she then could come easily just from anal sex alone.
So it really works to condition you to enjoy it, but you have to ramp up your mental fantasies a lot - mostly thinking about what it would be to be doing two guys at once. (which is also a lot of fun, but that's another story!)
Have fun!

Maybe try adding some anal play to your solo masturbation sessions could help.

very simple... dont do it.. who cares if your man likes it a lot...sex should be pleasurable for BOTH parties

if you don't like it you don't like it, not much more i can say about that. personally i prefer the front door.

Shut you're leg's and put a cork in you're ***!

Eww...that's pooey [literally]

Ask him to do you from behind in your sex hole, not anus.

You'll get much more pleasure from it and he'll love trying something new.

Maybe it is the lube you are using ? a lot of them having numbing ingredient in them to make it easier.

If you don't enjoy it, you shouldn't be doing it.
Not matter how much he enjoys it.
I doubt he'd let you stick anything into his, so why should you tolerate the same if you're not enjoying it?
Stay in the same position, but he should enter you, not there. That way you both get pleasure.
He probably enjoys the tightness, so try to interpret this into sex. Tense your pelvic floor muscles (just kind of tensing down there and your inner thighs.)
Guys really do notice it! Plus, the more "bet over" you are, the tighter you become.
Try experimenting in different areas, try the Kama Sutra!!
Some new sexual positions can really spruce it up and make it more enjoyable for both of you.

well may be u should try oral sex or the regular way through the front entrance there both pretty pleasuring to both ppl so try it out
and see if u like it u never no he might like it better that way to

A couple ideas are to make him wait to penetrate until you are in the middle of an orgasm. You can get a pocket rocket, and bring your self to orgasm while he fingers your anus gently, to stretch you a bit, and then as you begin to orgasm, he can put it there and begin to push, but you should be the one to control it. Just push back onto him during orgasm. Then, stop, until you feel more relaxed, and while still using the toy on youself, you do the movement. Make him stay very still. As you approach your second orgasm, you will be able to move on him much more easily. A few things to try, and if still not working, just tell him so. But at least give it a try, you may find the orgasms much more intense, if in a different way.

tell him its only fair if you get to take turns.

I call this perversion - and it may lead to other unpleasant things .DUMP HIM





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