I had a miscarriage 6yrs ago, is it normal to still feel sad?!


Question: I have had a son since(he is now 4), and have moved on, but whenever i think about it, i find myself in tears..is this normal, and will it ever go away?
I dont want to forget my lost baby, but i want to know if i will ever be able to think about him/her without wanting to cry.


Answers: I have had a son since(he is now 4), and have moved on, but whenever i think about it, i find myself in tears..is this normal, and will it ever go away?
I dont want to forget my lost baby, but i want to know if i will ever be able to think about him/her without wanting to cry.

nothing prepares you for losing a baby, but in time you will be able to move on, time is a great healer, maybe you are a bit low at the moment and it makes you think about the miscarriage more,

often when we are depressed and feeling low we think about all the bad and sad things that we have been through, as negative thoughts are very high and can overwhelm us, and when we are low it's dammed hard work trying to think happy thoughts,

perhaps a chat with your doctor would help, try looking at your son and each milestone that he achieves with happiness, he is special and needs you to be proud of him,

i had a miscarriage 17 years ago, and i went on to have 3 happy healthy boys, take a day at a time and just try to think positive,

good luck x

Of course it is. A child was lost.

Totally normal. You greive away, it's a little life who would have been at school by now. You've every right to feel sad.

But.. don't let it consume you. Cry when you need to, but live your life.

You are normal trust me. Just try to think positive.

i think its normal to be a bit sad - like when you think of any lost loved one however if your actually crying over it and its still regularly on your mind maybe you should see a grief counceller. its a hard thing but you need to grieve and move on. they will always be a part of your past but remember that you are living for the future not the past.

my son died at birth (1-31-86). I was devastated even though I had 4 children at home. A loss is a loss is a loss..... no matter how or when your loss took place it is an emptiness. I actually took me 10 yrs. to get ride of the 'blue feeling'. Each person needs to take their own time. Look to your beliefs to help you through & know that others are hurting too. Many blessings to you!

yes it is normal to still feel sad, u wouldnt be human if you didnt,but it happened for a very good reason,and u wouldnt have the beautiful four year old that u have now, thats what i focus on i also have a four year old so we were there at the same time......xxxx

OMG yes!

You lost a child. You never got to meet them, never got to hold them. All the "what ifs" and "maybes".

Its so natural to feel this way!

And very healthy for you to express it. People sometimes sweep miscarraige under the carpet but it is the death of a baby and should be treated as one.

Try contacting a support group like this one:

http://www.miscarriagesupport.org.uk/

Where you can talk to people who understand how you feel.

And just remember, your angel is always with you. You will always be his/her mummy.

Yes it is normal to still feel upset. I too had a miscarriage about 6yrs ago and from time to time I still get upset. I went back on the pill as I didn't want to go thru that again. About 6wks ago I found out I was pregnant again and have been so over the moon as I have tried to have children for 17yrs and was just about to give up...unfortunately I have had a couple of scares and it was confirmed by my doctor yesterday that I have miscarried again but my body won't let it go (a missed miscarriage) so I have an appointment tomorrow to have a D & C...I am still in a little denial I think...I have cried so much and it hurts so so much I can hardly look at all the baby things we have bought since we found out...I am worried that it will happen again but I also know that it is normal to grieve this way and will more than likely still feel that way in years to come...I know with time you will not hurt so much either...talk to your family as much as you can and your husband!!!





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